Why Does God take our Babies??

[Authentic_Mother]

I just lost our child (m/c) this past Tuesday and have really been struggling with this. I just cannot understand why God, under the miraculous circumstances of my getting pregnant, would take my baby from me.
The way I got pregnant was purely miracle. I was to have a hysterectomy Nov 6th. I only have one ovary left and it doesn't ovulate generally. My husband was only home for one week in October and we only had sex 4 times during that time. I found out I was pregnant only 1 week before my hysterectomy was scheduled.
We were sure this baby was meant to be here with us, in our family. We saw it's heartbeat, and fell in love.
And then so soon after - its all over and gone. And I cannot wrap my mind around why He did it, or Allowed it to happen.......

[iamama]

I'm so sorry for your loss...

[Murihiku]

This question goes to the heart of everything. It's because I can only answer "I don't know" that I'm an agnostic. I am so sorry for your loss.

[Marcee]

I am so so sorry for your loss...

When my niece died last year we dealt with same emotions. I truly believe that God does not cause death. That while He knows our begining and our end, it is the sin of the world that causes death. To me that is the only thing that make sense.

[lolar2]

Do you belong to a particular religion? Some religions do have doctrines related to "why," and it might be worth doing some reading on the subject or talking to a clergy member. I'm sorry for your loss, I had a miscarriage a few years ago and it was awful.

[lovbeingamommy]

Originally Posted by Authentic_Mother

I just lost our child (m/c) this past Tuesday and have really been struggling with this. I just cannot understand why God, under the miraculous circumstances of my getting pregnant, would take my baby from me.
The way I got pregnant was purely miracle. I was to have a hysterectomy Nov 6th. I only have one ovary left and it doesn't ovulate generally. My husband was only home for one week in October and we only had sex 4 times during that time. I found out I was pregnant only 1 week before my hysterectomy was scheduled.
We were sure this baby was meant to be here with us, in our family. We saw it's heartbeat, and fell in love.
And then so soon after - its all over and gone. And I cannot wrap my mind around why He did it, or Allowed it to happen.......

I am so sorry for your loss. I also questioned recently why God would take my two babies just five months separated by m/c. I also feel as you do that these pregnancies were miracles and destined to be. Mostly, because I'm 43 and became pregnant the first month of trying with DTD only once each month. I have no idea why and can only assume it occured to help me learn some life lesson. I have some idea what it might be, but I can't be sure so I just live my life the best I can and pray that God will bless me with another child someday soon.

Again, I am so sorry and wish I could say just the right words to make things better Surrounding you and your family with hugs and praying that God will give you comfort

[Frunchy Mama]

Very sorry for your loss. I agree that if you are looking for a spiritual answer, talking to a church official might help. I'm non religious so i"m not sure how that works, but it seems like you'd find what you're looking for there.

From my own beliefs, I do feel that your loss has happened for a reason, but you will not know it until it comes to present itself, which will not happen until you are ready. This baby you loved and lost, IMO, was probably here to prepare you for something. And maybe that something is not your own biological baby, but it is something very important that you need to be equipped for.

I know it's so hard, but underneathe your mourning (and for God's sake, mourn!), try to remember that the reasoning will reveal itself in time, when you're ready and not until then.

I send my sympathies.

[Frunchy Mama]

Oh, and regardless of where the baby is now, he/she was in fact "meant to be" in your family and always will be.

[taterbug1999]

I had a preacher friend remind me once that we live in a fallen world. When Adam and Eve chose to partake, we as a human race lost all the "benefits" of not having fallen. Saddness, loss, heart ache, death. All the things our Lord intented for us never to endure. Because of our fall, God will no longer intercede and spare each hurting soul, or ailing body. That due to the way the world is designed things happen, sad, sad things, but God will use loss in his master plan to bring some purpose to that loss. I am certain you cannot find that purpose now or maybe for a long time to come, but someday I would wager that you will look back and see what came from such saddness. I lost my father at 20 ( I realize not the same as losing a child, but...) and I begged for the Lord to spare him from his cancer, but it was not to be. Looking back now, the Lord used my father's death saved me from myself. I was not a good person while he was sick. Too wild, too self centered, too everything I shouldn't have been. But the immense loss brought changes I wouldn't have made any other way. Now many years later I am happy, healthy, and so blessed because of my father's "sacrifice" so to say. But it took years for me to see purpose in his death. And even though I am thankful for what my dad's death taught me about myself, I am saddened by the loss no less. I am so sorry for your little one, and I pray you will have peace soon and comfort while you ache.

[LivingforGod]

Im so sorry. God didn't make this happen to you, he let it happen to you because he can trust you with the wisdom that will come from losing your baby. I know that might not sound like something you want to hear, but I thank God every day for everything that came from our loss. I hope you have great support. God Bless. I'm praying for your family.

[delicate_sunshine]

First, let me say how sorry I am for your loss. I can't offer any specific reasons, but I can offer some scripture. I've never been where you are, and you may have heard this verse and be sick to death of it. Just pass this by if you are, but hopefully, it will offer some comfort.
Romans 8:28 "God causes all things to work together for good for those who love Him and are called according to His purpose."

I can also say this. My mother-in-law had six miscarraiges. She also has six children now, but they did not come without heartache. She believes that the Lord allowed her to go through it so that she can use it as a ministry to some.

I also have a friend who lost a child to SIDS last year. The experience has brought her closer to the Lord, and He has used it to teach her to be totally dependent on Him for everything, especially her peace and joy. I know it was (and is, for the lesson continues) a very hard lesson. I wish there was some other way. But the Lord is sovereign and His will has a purpose. You will be reunited with your sweet baby in heaven.

I don't know if that helped any, but my heart is with you through this difficult time. You will be in my prayers.

[treemom2]

I'm so sorry this happened to you. My baby died last year and I found myself asking the same questions you are asking. After much soul searching, I have found myself thinking that there is no god who would do this to us; therefore there is no god that influences our lives. For me, this works as I haven't really believed in a god for a long time. . .even though I have tried so hard to follow some Dogma (trust me, I think I've dabbled in almost every religion). . .it just hasn't happened for me (or helped me on my journey). Again, I'm so sorry for your loss. . .

[Unity9]

I am so sorry for your loss. I undrestand how hard is loosing a baby but we should abide by the will of God. I believe if God doesn't want somthing for us; it is for our own best. Our lives are filled with tests and trials from God. Does really God want to punish us? NO!! these tests are just to bring us closer to God and polish our souls. The only comfort would be prayers and meditations and trust in God's will.



The following section is from Baha'i writings:

What is the condition of children who die before attaining the age of discretion or before the appointed time of birth?

Answer. -- These infants are under the shadow of the favor of God; and as they have not committed any sin and are not soiled with the impurities of the world of nature, they are the centers of the manifestation of bounty, and the Eye of Compassion will be turned upon them. *

[momz3]

I wrote a journal about this today on cafemom...
just tired of reading about baby losses and I feel your pain. Its not fair at all and I, myself have asked the same questions ...why why why??Bad people keep living and the innocent are taken away before even been given a chance

I'm sorry for you loss

[Rose79]

I am so very sorry for your loss.

Knowing that this doesn't help, but after two losses, I know that it isn't God who takes our babies away, but the result of the world that we live in.

[southernmommie]

I want to open the possibility that your one ovary might be trying to work. I'm sorry you lost your baby so soon. It is every parent's wish that their children live a full life. However, it doesn't always end up that way. That baby was meant to be in your life for how long it was in your life. Have you considered that God was trying to tell you that you don't need a hysterectomy and He was showing you that it works just in time for you to not get one? I am just trying to help you find some of the possiblilities. I believe in God, albeit not the traditional christian way, but I do believe that your baby was there to show you something. I am so terribly sorry you had to endure that. But on the positive note, I will cling on to the possibilities I have mentioned. Your baby's purpose in life has been fulfilled. You will see your baby again. But maybe not in flesh. Many, many, many hugs to you Mama.

[Vespertina]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I've never had that question myself because deities are nonexistent to me. I'm assuming you're talking about Yahweh and Jesus, to which I would have no answer since I don't believe in either.

[MamaMonica]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[Ruthla]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I can't tell you why G-d lets babies and children die because I'm not G-d. Whatever reasons He has are simply beyond human comprehension.

[silverspook]

I'll Hold You In Heaven by Jack Hayford really, really helped us after our loss.

I know how hard this is, but please know that the Lord did not "take" your baby, sweetie. He did, however, accept her with open arms when she was born into Heaven.