Originally Posted by AbbieB
I'm going to stir the pot a bit...
I have held my crying baby in my arms in a moving car, and I do not see my self as a bad parent.
I think that each parent needs to make safety decisions for themselves. If someone chooses to do something other than what popular opinion has decided to be the right thing it does not make them ignorant, stupid, careless, or a bad person.
Why is it OK to be so judgmental on this topic?
Those of us that do not vaccinate or co sleep are seen by many mainstreamers as ignorant parents needlessly endangering our kids lives. But that does not mean that we are.
FTR: My kids are buckled in 99.9% of the time. DD is 5 and has a car seat still. She buckles herself. DS is 15 months and rear facing still. Both have been held by me and nursed on the rare occasion that they needed it NOW and stopping was not an option.
Let the flaming begin.
Well, I don't want to flame you, or judge you. Do whatever you are comfortable with.
For me, 22 years ago I was in a car accident where the car rolled. Had I not been buckled in I would be dead. It still haunts me to this day. Last January my husband was in a car accident that totalled his 3/4 ton Dodge Ram. He walked away, but is still in pain daily and goes for physio and chiro regularly. He was buckled. My cousin was killed in a car accident, he was not buckled, my neighbor can't walk from hitting a deer on the highway on his motorcycle. Accidents happen in a split second and they are life changing. If anything happened to my child in a vehicle due to my negligence I would kill myself.
My kids cried when they needed to be nursed. We pulled over where we could and took care of their needs. It took a few minutes and we were on our way again.
I don't consider myself a "good" mother because I do these things. I also don't buckle my child because "it's the law", or because it's "popular opinion". I would do it anyway. I do it because I know that it takes a split second and life can change.
I do it because that is what I am comfortable with. My children are precious to me. Everyone else can do whatever they are comfortable with, too. It doesn't make any sense to me that anyone would be comfortable risking their child's life
, but obviously some people are.