Originally Posted by vbactivist
Well, my chiildren's lives are really important to me too
However, we all must weigh the risks versus benefits. I ahve taken my babies out of their carseats, when they are crying hysterically. To me, its a matter of definite
emotional harm versus potential
physical harm. I nurse for several years, cosleep (probably longer than most here), babywear and never ever spank. How my kids feel
is pretty much the most important thing to me. You are not guaranteed to be in an accident. A baby crying uncontrollably while seeming to get no response is sure to do emotional damage.
But that possible physical damage is their lives, nothing to me is more important than that, losing my child to something that is 100% my fault is not something I could ever deal with! But, I do get off and park somewhere safe (not the shoulder of the road) and nurse them, I do not ever let them cry (well, Kincaid cried for 6 months straight, and me holding/nursing him made him cry more...but that has nothing to do with this, and we tried EVERYTHING to stop him from crying), we co-sleep, I nurse till self weaning, I will never spank, Travis is always worn still at 15 months (though, now that I'm on bedrest, wearing won't be happening...but of course, we also won't be leaving the house), we have never let a kid CIO...we definitely care about their emotional well being, but not enough to actually risk their lives for it.
Of course, I wouldn't get in a car with someone who didn't care enough about either my kids emotional health or their physical health to not park somewhere as soon as they started crying!