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[mamatoady]

It seems a number of us are coming in with a history of miscarriage. How about a thread to help each other get through the first few months. I think it's important to keep positive, assure yourself everything is healthy and fine (unless there's definitive evidence otherwise)....I'm a big believer in the power of attraction (think: The Secret) and that our thoughts help shift our outcomes.

Peace and love to all you ladies. If you wish to ask for prayers and positive thoughts from the rest of us you can do so here!

Blessed pregnancies to all of us!
Sarah:::

[mamaheids]

I so need this thread. I had 2 m/c before I had a successful pregnancy with my DD, Hope, who is 2 years, 8 months old. I just tested positive, and am cautiously excited, but I know that the next 2 months or so are going to be hard. I have anxiety issues anyways, so it will be a challenge for me to stay positive (along with SAD). I think DD will help distract as well as all of the busyness surrounding the holidays.

[quietmama]

Yes, this is the post I need!! Last May I had a miscarriage and also had one before I conceived my first son. I am so so so hoping that this baby stays with me. I will keep everyone on this post in my prayers. Thinking good thoughts and actually picturing this babe are keys for me to stay positive right now.

Mamatoady thanks for starting this post!

Sending many baby wishes to everyone who joins in!

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[chrissy]

Me too. I had 2 miscarriages between my 2nd and 3rd children.

Keeping all you mamas and little babes in my prayers.

[EricaE]

I'm glad this thread is here..

I'm pregnant with baby #4 and I've had 6 miscarriages, so I'm nervous. I'm just taking it one day at a time....

[mamatoady]

Peace, love, hugs, and prayers to everyone on the list. I've had 2 miscarriages--one before each child.

Sarah

[minimunklemama]

Hi everyone,
I had my third miscarriage on Oct 20th 2008 (the others were in between my elder two babes) I found out 6 days ago that we are expecting again.
I am slightly worried as I had to have a u/s on the 13th on Nov as I was having pain and they wanted to check everything since the m/c had only happened 3 weeks prior.Everything was fine but the tech did say that it looked like I would O soon.I took an OPK the next day,it was nearly +,the morning after that it was +.seven days later I felt very faint(a big PG sign for me) so I took a PG test and it was + straight away.(middle of the day,just drank water pee) ten hours later I took another and it was even darker.I freaked out and called my docs.They were confused as I had the m/c just before so they had me come in for blood work and I don't get the results until monday!!!!! I am worried it may be twins (I would be fine,happy even,just nervous) I heard that conceiving straight after a m/c that there is a higher possbility of multiples.Has anyone else heard this?
I am also so tired already and getting waves of nausea.

I look forward to getting to know you all.I hope that this is a great healthy nine months for us all:0)

[ddegreeff]

My ob told me that too. The reason some docs have you wait after a miscarriage is because your chances of multiples are higher. Thanks for this thread. I am not a huge fan of US's but I am having one on the 17th to make sure we are a go. I think I might actually be farther along. Last month's period was unusual. So this month, I took a dollar store test ( the only ones that have ever been accurate for me) on the morning I was suppose to start my period. The two lines appeared IMMEDIATELY after I dropped the urine in the well.

[minimunklemama]

Originally Posted by ddegreeff

My ob told me that too. The reason some docs have you wait after a miscarriage is because your chances of multiples are higher. Thanks for this thread. I am not a huge fan of US's but I am having one on the 17th to make sure we are a go. I think I might actually be farther along. Last month's period was unusual. So this month, I took a dollar store test ( the only ones that have ever been accurate for me) on the morning I was suppose to start my period. The two lines appeared IMMEDIATELY after I dropped the urine in the well.

Fingers crossed for you

I had my blood results back today.(from last weds)
@10 DPO they were 116.
They drew again today and I will have the results tomorrow.
Everyone,please keep your fingers crossed for me.We are wanting the numbers to be in the four hundreds!!!

I hope everyone else is doing well

[mamaheids]

I had my beta HCG's drawn and a progesterone check done too this week. Numbers rose nicely 3,270 and 8,170 (at 20 and 22 dpo) so things look good so far. Progesterone was low at 13, but it was with my pg with DD, so I am not suprised. They put me on prometrium. (I took those for the 1st trimester with DD.) Anyone else have bloodwork done?

[junipermuse]

I haven't posted in the ddc yet because I'm almost too nervous to let myself really believe I'm pregnant. I just had a miscarriage on the 7th of november, so I didn't even have a period, but we half heartedly tried right after and then I took 2 digital tests on Monday and they both said Pregnant My doctor had me go in right away for a blood test on Monday, and then I'll take another tomorrow so they can make sure my hcg levels are rising. Then I'll have an actual doctor's appt on Thursday and then after that I'll believe it. I'm super nervous though. I was 6.5 weeks when I miscarried last time and this pregnancy I'll be around 6.5 weeks on Christmas day, so I'm worried that I'll be too nervous to even enjoy the holiday at all. Also I had spotting with dd around 6.5 weeks as well, so I feel like no matter what I'm destined to have some bleeding and it will just make me a nervous wreck. And of course we'll be 400 miles from home at my inlaws house with a big giant party and no one will even know I'm pregnant. I'm very happy to be pregnant, but the miscarriage really threw me for a loop and I don't know how to enjoy this pregnancy with the mc hanging over my head. I guess I really need some support is all.

[stardust swallower]

Hooray for this thread! Thank you!

I sometimes head over to the Pregnancy after loss section, but that can often be overwhelmingly sad. I definitely need a place to be cautiously optimistic without raining on anyone's parade.

Is anyone doing any *differently* this time around in hopes of avoiding another mc?

I'm taking chaste tree and cramp bark tinctures a few times a day in addition to a wacky concoction of herbs in tea form. Who knows if it matters -- I just feel like I want to *do* something.

And I'm also totally on the fence about how medical to be about the whole thing -- are you women going in for early us? bloodtests, etc? or, just going along as if everything will be just fine?

Finally, I just wanted to say out loud how sad it is to give up on that beautiful innocence and confidence I had with my first successful pregnancy. I didn't have a doubt in the world and only had a single us at 20 weeks. It never occurred to be that anything could go wrong. That was heavenly. I know no other pregnancy I have (including this one) will be that pure. *sigh*

[MaerynPearl]

I refuse to tell any family and not-so-close friends until 13 weeks.

I'm due the same day I was due with my first pregnancy, which I miscarried at 13 weeks.

[mummytobe]

ladies..this site may be helpful to you..

www.indogo.org/hand.htm

God bless you in your pregnancies,(((hugs))

heres to praying all goes well

love

M2b
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[stardust swallower]

checking in

Hey out there!
How's everyone holding up?

I'm still feeling hopeful but cautious. My m/c was a missed one, so I I think I'll need a constant stream of reassurances to keep myself afloat. I have an appt with the midwives on Monday that I'm happy about.

Otherwise I'm feeling great -- uterus stretchily, tummy ickily, exhuastedly tiredly great. Pregnant and great.

The hardest part seems to be figuring out how to explain why I'm not drinking at the slew of holiday parties!

[LiamsMommy31905]

So thankful for this thread!

I had a miscarriage on Christmas day, 2007. I am terrified about this pregnancy. I keep grabbing at my breasts to make sure they are still tender! I even talked my RE into drawing a beta every 4 days to be sure levels are doubling adequately.

Here's to a happy & healthy 9 months to ALL of us!

[Olives]

Oh I'm here!

I'm going in for my second beta this afternoon. I'm hoping for good numbers!

[Michigan Mama]

Joining in on the prayers, too - we had one m/c before my ds so we're cautiously excited... Haven't called to make an appointment yet with my mw. Not sure how early they'll have me come in. Does a history of m/c mean you should go in right away, or not necessarily? Just need to make the call and ask!

[FayeO]

Do good #s on a second beta provide substantial evidence that you WON'T miscarry?

I didn't have any testing with #1 so I am unclear as to what the #s indicate. I mean, I know the doubling is a good sign but would there be early indications (5 weeks)...if miscarriage was going to happen?

I am trying to be optimistic.
thanks

[Olives]

FayeO~ I don't think getting beta #'s will do anything to tell you if you are going to have a miscarriage but it will help me feel better to know if the numbers keep on going up. At least that will give me peace of mind for at least a few hours!

I'm hoping they will let me test my beta's for 2 or 3 weeks... although I do have a pretty good feeling about this one for some reason so I really hope I'm right.