Originally Posted by nextcommercial
LMAO! I have heard people in stores using that and it cracks me up...
What happens when you get to four? Is there an "or else?".
I have never been able to wrap my brain around that little threat. But, I am sure there is a reason for it. I just haven't understood it yet.
Originally Posted by ErinsJuneBug
I dont understand it either - and it drives me nuts when DH does it. I guess i just needed to hear from other people WHY it is pointless. And perhaps worse than that its RUDE. Ok, off to find the big thread. Thanks girls!
Originally Posted by Bleu
The rudeness! That's why it bugs me so much! Wow, yeah, I sure would hate someone counting to me.
It also generally indicates a who child-rearing philosophy that's anti-GD. Check out threads here about "1-2-3 Magic", a popular parenting book that features that effing counting.
Wow. I'm a little disappointed at the comments here. I am an extremely GD-focused parent who does
count. I also pride myself on my courtesy, kindness, and patience.
I did read 1-2-3 Magic... like anything, I took what I liked and left the rest.
With some children, who are perhaps extremely spirited, intelligent, and driven, an approach like counting (be it to 3, 5, or 12) seems to tap into that drive. It isn't always a threat
... for our family it's a "beat-the-clock" strategy!
Dh was an athlete, he still responds to sports terminology. When he is being intolerable (like grousing about, cursing, barking, name calling...) I have pulled off a paper-towel and tossed it on the floor calling out "Penalty. Illegal use of name-calling!" We laugh and dh says, "Shoot! Off to the penalty box." He'll sit on the couch for a minute, and then he comes and apologizes...
Like her dad, dd is very driven and competetive. She is pokey, like most kids, but sometimes I can't afford to be patient for a half hour while she watches the end of her program, and I'm not going to just bull-doze in and turn it off and coerce her into movement. We talk about being pokey puppies, and that sometimes we gotta hurry scurry.
Out of curiosity, mostly, I tried the counting piece out on her with the "threat" that if she didn't "comply" by the time I get to 3, she loses. If she loses, then she didn't win. There's no actual loss, here, except maybe time to dawdle. The worse case scenario is that I step in front of her program and ask for eye-contact, then I talk with her about the fact that I could sure use her help, we have a responsibility, and will she please be a team-player.
To be honest, I think that's
the threat... that she'll get a mini-lecture. She doesn't love
sitting still and being talked to about her behavior, or her role in things, because she knows
... so not "complying" may get her a little talk. She'd rather beat-the-clock than get a talk.