Oh I am soooooooo happy to find a CURRENT support group for tongue tie!! My nipples are ready to fall off!! I need help really badly as I am so close to throwing in the towel and just formula feeding.

Isabella was born Dec. 25th, 2008 and had her frenulum clipped 3 days later. I thought this was supposed to make breastfeeding better, well it did A LITTLE. She can stick out her tongue, but she doesn't stick it out when opening to nurse! So all I see her gums and her tongue tucked back when I give her my boob. She has been copying me lately sticking her tongue out, but I dont' know how to get her to do it when offering the boob. Can anyone help?!?!
Also, I still get that lipstick effect on my boob when she's on. Or, my nipples looked sorta pinched (crease folds on the sides of my nipples). She has no problem sucking, in fact she has a very strong suck. I have scars that run straight down my nipples!
I found a LLLI site that explains why
Pumping is no fun either. I am paralized in my thinking and don't know what to do anymore. I REALLY REALLY want to continue to BF. Does anyone know what the problem may be? I've seen 2 Lactation consultants already and they say she flicks her tongue in and out when sucking on their finger (so I guess that's what she's doing on me??) They also tell me that she may or may never learn to stick her tongue out when nursing. Is this true?!?! I've heard of many successful stories after the frenulum being cut, so why is it not true for me? This is my first child so I don't even know what it's supposed to feel like.
I feel like I'm already grieving BF.

Oh, and what is the gut problem that was discussed earlier?? (I can't read through all the posts). I noticed a few days ago my little girl was really really gassy (colic!!!!) and would sometimes have a hard time going through a bowel movement. Does this have to do with tt??! Why aren't the L.C. aware of issues like this? Who do I need to speak to and what questions to I need to raise when I speak to them?
Please help me. I'm so sad.
(Other info, I have thrush as well now, after her and I being on antibiotics in the hosp for the 3 days. I know there's that pain as well I have to deal with, but I don't think that the scars on my nipples, the lipstick effect or the pinching has to do with it. Or does it?)
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