I had a 1st degree tear. Really small. MW put 2 stitches in there, but said normally she wouldn't have stitched such a small tear - but it wouldn't stop bleeding. I pushed for about 40 min, so DS wasn't stuck there a while or anything. I'm 31 years old.
But DTD 10 weeks PP hurt- well, oral hurt, so we didn't move on. I apparently had a "skid mark" below my urethra. As another poster wrote, it felt like a "rug burn" - like an abrasion. Painful to have anything touch it.
Then I read that BFing can actually SLOW the healing process.
Um, yeah, that's not a very smart evolutionary outcome.
Now, at 4.5 mos PP, I'm trying not to think about it. I can take care of DH's needs without my vagina, so I'm going to wait until 6 mos before giving it a try again. Cuz I'd rather wait before trying & not worry about it for now - then try again & deal with the disappointment of feeling "rug burned" below my urethra. It's too hard to try to stimulate my clit & vagina without coming into contact at all with that skid mark spot.
Forgot to mention, I too feel like my vagina looks more "exposed" - used to be that you couldn't see the inside vaginal walls, but now they're visible. We did also DTD one other time & I felt tighter. We had expected dryness as a result of BFing, so we didn't even try without lube.