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11/26/08 at 2:17am
the key is how both of you are willing to work with each other. do you trust him? do you feel he will be kind and understanding to you?
if he cooperates and you separate on a good note - then everything will work out. if you are thinking of going for a divorce talk with ex and see what he is willing to do.
my ex didnt take dd overnights till she was 3 years old. and we did it gradually and slowly too. he wasnt good with babies.
if your ex is going to coparent then you dont really have to worry. the children adjust to two homes and two lifestyles v. well. my dd at 6 is still nursing and cosleeping.
whatever the two of you decide anything can be done. you can pump and give him bottles.
my concern at the moment would be how are you going to manage being pregnant with a toddler and living by yourself?
do you think you could manage it?
I am mostly concerned about the new baby.. I want him and LO#2 to be close, and bond.. but I don't see how when we won't be in the same house for the newborn time.
Have you thought about how you will manage financially once you leave him?