YKWIM=You know what I mean
Welcome to the boards!
Yup, take a look at the homebirth stickies about questions. Some good ones though, would be to ask when she transfers care for a case that she doesn't feel she should handle--so some midwives would be uncomfortable with breech or twins, others are okay with frank breech, but not footling, others don't like Gestational Diabetes. Some won't go to the hospital with you (though in our area, MOST will) if you transport, or if you transport for drugs or epidural. How much time do they spend during their prentals? Where do they DO the prenatals? Some mothers prefer NOT to do it at their home, because they don't want to have to "clean" for the midwife when they're so exhausted, others prefer it, cause they don't want to have to travel to wherever the midwife's office is. What do they typically do during labor...what do you think you'll need as far as "support" during labor--and do the two match up? So if you need an in your face, giving you lots of support/doula type midwife is that who you are hiring, or ifyou need her to sit in the corner and knit until you say you need her, is THAT who you are hiring? Do they do/offer water birth? Do they provide the tub? If not, do they help you find one/suggest where to get one?
What kind of postnatal care do they offer? If you plan to breastfeed, can they give you good support? What is their experience in that venue? Do they provide or sell herbal baths for post partum healing? How many post partum appointments do they provide, and where are they held past the first week post partum?
MOst importantly, though, midwifery means with
woman...so this should be a conversation, and a place you feel comfortable, a relationship where you feel like you are a partner in your well being during pregnancy and birth, not one where you feel like you are being told what to do all the time, or left to make all the decisions on your own, either. I suggest that you speak to more than one midwife, because even if you feel like you are SURE "she's the one" you will be reassured by that choice by talking to somebody else, or you may feel differently by talking to somebody else. The MOST important thing is that you find the right fit for YOU. There is a midwife for every woman, and not every midwife is the right midwife for every woman. I even tell this to my clients who are looking to find a homebirth midwife. I could ONLY give them the name of my preceptor, but I give them a couple of names, because it is more important they find a good fit.