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Poll Results: What do you miSS most about life before children?

 
  • 24% (78)
    Sleep
  • 7% (23)
    Silence
  • 31% (99)
    Solitude
  • 13% (42)
    Saturdays and Sundays off
  • 2% (8)
    Spending money
  • 0% (0)
    Solvency
  • 5% (17)
    Sex
  • 2% (8)
    Salsa Dancing
  • 13% (44)
    Something else (beginning with S)
319 Total Votes  
post #41 of 136
I chose sleep. My other picks, in order, are:

Spontaneity
Solitude
Sat/Sun off

Doesn't start with an S but I really miss being able to go to the gym!
post #42 of 136
sleep

and staying out all night at starbucks with hubby and friends just talking and laughing man the good old days now when we go we r home by 9pm lol

also just being able to get up and go it takes too long now with kids

also morning afternoon sex nope never happens anymore lol

noo one touching me or climbing on me sleeping alone with just hubby and nooo screaming noo mess
post #43 of 136
Solo travel

Before I had ds, I used to travel on my own at least a few weeks per year. It gave me space to learn new things about the world and myself, separate from my dh. I really miss even the option of that space.
post #44 of 136
Uhhh... schlepping at a pub? Just being able to go out whenever and hang out at the pub. Not that I was a huge drinker - I don't miss the booze, just the easy times with friends. Now pub nights need to be planned *weeks* in advance, and are always vulnerable to sickness, dh's work, etc.

Ahhh.. I see someone brighter than me put "socialization" - which is kind of what I was going for, but not quite. I am still very social, but it's a different kind of social. I miss being social with a bunch of people with equally few responsibilities. Now most of my friends have kids and/or mortgages. (Although... this might be more of an age thing than a kids thing.)
post #45 of 136
Oh yeah, spughy, I feel you. I think it's still spontaneity, though- or the desire for eaSineSS.
Me, I want silence. We live in a small house, and with four kids (two big boys and a 3 year old who thinks she's a banshee) it would be nice to have a conversation in my head without shouting occasionally.
post #46 of 136
I thought of another: one night Stands.

post #47 of 136
I voted sleep, because right now that's what I'm most in need of, with a 10 month old who nurses every hour or so all night long and has done since she was born...

But I thought of another; self-sufficiency. I miss just being me and not 'needing' anyone else or anything else. I love my husband, but when it was just the two of us I never felt like half of a relationship. I love my daughter with all my heart too, but with her I feel like part of a unit - I am no longer free-standing with associations with others - I don't have an entirely separate identity any more.
post #48 of 136
I agree with some pps, it's spontenaity that I miss most in my life, after we had the kids. Now it feels like every moment is sooo scheduled, & planned in advance. I miss being able to say 'Sure, let's go have a beer at the pub.' or 'Yes, we'd love to go camping this weekend.' on the spur of the moment.
post #49 of 136
I voted "other" for slamming through work. Honestly, all the other stuff I've gotten used to, but as a freelance writer and editor it frustrates me to no end to have my work time so constrained. I hate passing up interesting projects because I can't make the time, or turning in work that is good but not near what I know I could do if my time was all my own. It feels very difficult to build a career when I can only give it a slice of my time and creative attention.

I guess that I'm the opposite from some moms here. I have to make myself go to bed and get enough sleep so that I'll be able to parent effectively and gently at 6 in the morning when dc first jumps on top of me. I'd really rather stay up all night tweaking copy.
post #50 of 136
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Originally Posted by mamajama View Post
A Mama's stomach is always beautiful. Even with ten extra feet of skin and a million stretchmarks. In fact, even moreso.

Marry me, LOL. My DH actually doesn't mind it. It's me who HATES it:
post #51 of 136
Singing! Dh and I are big choir junkies and now we are not able to participate due to bedtime routines and just the chaos that is our life right now.
post #52 of 136
spontaniety
post #53 of 136
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Originally Posted by Liquesce View Post
Spontaneity.


DH & I would randomly decide to climb the white mountains - any weather, any time of day (or night!). We worked from home for ourselves & had no other obligations.
post #54 of 136
Being able to start something and finish it! A project, a book, a thought, a conversation

To clean my house from top to bottom and then sit back and relax. Now I get one room clean and go to another and the first is already a mess before I finish!

Not that I would ever trade my kids for a clean house!
post #55 of 136
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Originally Posted by green betty View Post
It feels very difficult to build a career when I can only give it a slice of my time and creative attention.

I guess that I'm the opposite from some moms here. I have to make myself go to bed and get enough sleep so that I'll be able to parent effectively and gently at 6 in the morning when dc first jumps on top of me. I'd really rather stay up all night tweaking copy.
Ditto that. We're right there with you. DH & I suffer from sleeplessness not because of our kids, but because we stay up every night working until 1, 2, even later for him, then up with the kids in the morning, and DH off to run the business during the day. When the kids sleep its the only time we have to be creative & productive.

Re: the difficulty building a career. I try to keep in mind that my kids will only be little for such a short time, and with each passing year, I'm able to get a bit more done, a bit more work time, a bit more personal time back. And eventually I'll be back to it full time, and I'll probably wonder where the years went! I try to keep it balanced in my mind, try to live in the present as hard as it is.

Working mamas have it tough. But I believe that our kids will see the benfits of being determined, driven, goal-oriented and persistant - that it will be a good thing in the long run for their own career & life goals. Peace mama.
post #56 of 136
Being able to just put my coat and shoes on and leave the house.
I had no idea that's what I would miss the most, I would have totally treasured it more.
post #57 of 136
I answered 'solitude' but it's really 'freedom' in the broader sense.
post #58 of 136
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Originally Posted by Little grey mare View Post
Being able to just put my coat and shoes on and leave the house.
I had no idea that's what I would miss the most, I would have totally treasured it more.
And this. Now I'm finally getting a regular slot 'off' from parenting when DP takes over one afternoon a week, this aspect just feels like bliss. Simplicity. Aah.So much less stressful!
post #59 of 136
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Originally Posted by Liquesce View Post
Spontaneity.
Yep. We used to cobble together an overnight bag, a little cash and zoom away for a weekend adventure. Man, I miss that.
post #60 of 136
Being able to just leave when I want. Before kids, dh and I would just jump in the car and take a weekend road trip to anywhere, anytime we wanted. I really miss that
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