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post #181 of 358
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Originally Posted by wsgrl84 View Post
Hi ladies! Is it too late to join this thread? I am 24, married for 4 years and DS1 is 3 1/2, DS2 is 21 months.

It is so hard in my area to make friends as a young mom, I didn't realize society had so many negative views on us. =/
Welcome! It is tough. I try not to feel the bad vibes and be really proud of my mama-hood. I speak positively about my experience and my family to try and show people that maybe it's not always like the stereotype. I love my growing family!
post #182 of 358
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Originally Posted by wsgrl84 View Post
Hi ladies! Is it too late to join this thread? I am 24, married for 4 years and DS1 is 3 1/2, DS2 is 21 months.

It is so hard in my area to make friends as a young mom, I didn't realize society had so many negative views on us. =/
Never too late!
I knew it would be tough when I found out I was preg (that was part of my few weeks of depression after I found out- definitely wasn't planned, and I wasn't ready! Now I'm totally content though
post #183 of 358
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Originally Posted by blissful_maia View Post
If you have any more questions, let me know! I remember being in your shoes and asking anyone I could for any info they might have!!
thanks for the help! Any info at all is welcome at this point.
I don't think I'm applying this year since the deadline is Feb 1st and I have none of my paper work in place and I need to write an essay on why I think I'd be a good midwife, etc, and I'm stuck.

I'm at that stage where i'm excited enough about the idea to get kind of scared! You know that feeling? Where it seems so perfect that you almost don't want to try in case you fail or it goes wrong or whatever so you're scared to even begin.

I also have trouble with the idea of going back to school since I'm still paying off a degree that I wish I never got, so I'm just accumulating more debt. And then what if I decide to be a SAHM? Should I wait until I'm done having kids and they're in school before I look into the program?

Ugh, so hard to decide!
post #184 of 358
Who wants to see my bean?

http://i486.photobucket.com/albums/r...s/Jan08001.jpg

Measuring 12 weeks yesterday with a heartbeat of about 170 bpm.
post #185 of 358
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Who wants to see my bean?

http://i486.photobucket.com/albums/r...s/Jan08001.jpg

Measuring 12 weeks yesterday with a heartbeat of about 170 bpm.
What a cute bean!!!! Congratulations How is everyone adjusting to the news of the pregnancy? Does anyone besides you 3 know yet? I know you had said before that none of your parents really know about the relationship and stuff... I bet you are so excited though!!!
post #186 of 358
happily married, 21yo, SAHM - to one 12mo (and one on the way next fall).

you wouldn't believe the looks i got when i said we were planning a homebirth - i could tell they thought i was SO naive! and couldn't possibly have any idea what i would be putting myself through.

i think i showed them when i had an awesome birth and ::GASP:: "didn't even tear!!??"

post #187 of 358
People can't believe me when I tell them about my HBAC. And then I go on to tell them how less painful my homebirth was compared to my whole ordeal at the hospital that ended in c-section and they don't believe me. I mean it! It hurt like HELL!
post #188 of 358
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Originally Posted by serenekitten View Post
Who wants to see my bean?

http://i486.photobucket.com/albums/r...s/Jan08001.jpg

Measuring 12 weeks yesterday with a heartbeat of about 170 bpm.
Sweet baby! How are you feeling about pregnancy/babe these days? (I am in your DDC).
post #189 of 358
welcome wsgrl84!!
post #190 of 358
Yay what a cutie bean!!
post #191 of 358
hey mamas! I belong in this tribe! I am 25 but my son was born when I was 22. My DP is older though.

W :
post #192 of 358
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It's all yours mama:! I don't need any right now, as much as we want more I've got to wait at least a year. I'll : when you get a BFP!
even more And Happy early birthday to your DH. I can relate to how you feel. It's nice to have this tribe where we can feel more normal. I think this is quite a lovely group I feel old too I hear people say "I'm 22" and I think "holy geez you're a youngin'!"
receiving the baby dust mamma: we'll keep trying and trying and trying...
i may have the weirdest and most irregular cycle, but we'll get the good news this year
Dont remind him of his birthday lol i tease him about it, that he's near 40 All my mamma friends are over 30. I see other 20 year olds and i'm like " i look older!" but then I think "i look maternal" and i dont look old at all, i think.
post #193 of 358

OMG FRIENDS! lmao

I belong here. I have DS when I was 17; I'm now 22. I left my ex-husband over a year ago. I soon after met SO and we are expecting his first 8/21/09! Totally unexpected, but more that welcomed. SO is 20, he is the first younger man I've ever been with; after being with older, younger is the wtg. lol

Im anxious to make new friends with the same beliefs when it comes to birthing and parenting. Although my best friends are young mamas, they are typical American in regards to their birthing/parenting practices.

Myspaces? Ljs? Facebook? Gmail? HOLLA! lol
post #194 of 358
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Originally Posted by ChichosMama View Post
I belong here. I have DS when I was 17; I'm now 22. I left my ex-husband over a year ago. I soon after met SO and we are expecting his first 8/21/09! Totally unexpected, but more that welcomed. SO is 20, he is the first younger man I've ever been with; after being with older, younger is the wtg. lol

Im anxious to make new friends with the same beliefs when it comes to birthing and parenting. Although my best friends are young mamas, they are typical American in regards to their birthing/parenting practices.

Myspaces? Ljs? Facebook? Gmail? HOLLA! lol
You look pretty in your picture!!

I have facebook if you want to add me, PM me and I'll give you my name on there.
post #195 of 358
Very cute bean!
And Welcome Chico

Speaking of beans... anyone else want another baby soonish? DH and I were talking and were thinking of TTC in the next 5-10 months (I know, big window, we're going to wait until it "feels right" but somewhere in that window anyway). Our baby is 6 weeks old today :

I kinda want to be preg now but I want to enjoy my current LO, I want to be around without morning sickness and exhaustion for at least the first little while, and I know that pregnancy and breastfeeding often don't go together all that well.

Part of the issue is- DH is pressuring me already to go back to work when my mat leave is up next year (it ends Dec 1st). I don't WANT to work, I want to be a SAHM. We can afford for me to stay home, it'll just mean less eating out and "fun buys" than before. If we have another kid, I don't have to work as soon.

Also health issues, and going to school for midwifery (not sure about taking a year off in the middle, and we don't have money for school right now so it'll have to wait at least 1 more year anyway- why not make that year a year where we have a baby?)

I'm still not really decided on it, and am feeling unsupported and underappreciated by DH, but I also LOVED being preg and love babies and want more kids anyway.

Oy, what a mess my life is.
post #196 of 358
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Originally Posted by wsgrl84 View Post
You look pretty in your picture!!

I have facebook if you want to add me, PM me and I'll give you my name on there.
ty. done.
post #197 of 358
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Originally Posted by Astraia View Post
Very cute bean!
And Welcome Chico

Speaking of beans... anyone else want another baby soonish? DH and I were talking and were thinking of TTC in the next 5-10 months (I know, big window, we're going to wait until it "feels right" but somewhere in that window anyway). Our baby is 6 weeks old today :

I kinda want to be preg now but I want to enjoy my current LO, I want to be around without morning sickness and exhaustion for at least the first little while, and I know that pregnancy and breastfeeding often don't go together all that well.

Part of the issue is- DH is pressuring me already to go back to work when my mat leave is up next year (it ends Dec 1st). I don't WANT to work, I want to be a SAHM. We can afford for me to stay home, it'll just mean less eating out and "fun buys" than before. If we have another kid, I don't have to work as soon.

Also health issues, and going to school for midwifery (not sure about taking a year off in the middle, and we don't have money for school right now so it'll have to wait at least 1 more year anyway- why not make that year a year where we have a baby?)

I'm still not really decided on it, and am feeling unsupported and underappreciated by DH, but I also LOVED being preg and love babies and want more kids anyway.

Oy, what a mess my life is.


YAY on your bebe! I can't wait for mine! lol

I would suggest clearly communicating your feelings with DH. What is your profession? Is this your first bebe? Has your DH considred cost of QUALITY childcare/nanny??? Esp. if you guys want to TTC within the year? I feel you, I was a SAHM for a long time, then a student, then went back to work full-time. SO wants me to pick up a job bc he knows as a highly qualified nanny I can make good money. But I'm not down unless its PT or FT in my home. Once bebe comes I am mos'def' not working. I made such things clear to him when we met; I want to educate myself and be at home with my bebes, thats it. Talking effectively is KEY. Boys often suck at it, but if we lead by example it helps a lot.
HTH mama!:
post #198 of 358
First time up and coming mom here! 21 years old (I'll be 22 when he's born)
post #199 of 358
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Originally Posted by Astraia View Post
Never too late!
I knew it would be tough when I found out I was preg (that was part of my few weeks of depression after I found out- definitely wasn't planned, and I wasn't ready! Now I'm totally content though

I am finally content too...nothing can change the way I feel about my boys.

Think about...when our kids are 21...we will only be 40...
post #200 of 358
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Originally Posted by Astraia View Post
Oy, what a mess my life is.
Sorry you're feeling frustrated right now. It sucks that you're feeling pressured and not appreciated enough! Every mama of a 6-week-old should be treated like the goddess that they are. Seriously.

It will all happen as it's meant to, I promise.
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