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post #221 of 358
Jennie!!! Yay! Sorry, I haven't seen you around. Welcome to the tribe!

Kas
post #222 of 358
Thread Starter 
Hi everyone!! I haven't been on for a bit.. I've been busy with DD's 1st birthday! She just turned 1 a week ago so we had to plan the party and all that jazz, which, I might add, I could've completely done without!

For all the pregnant ladies, I hope everything is going well and that you are all staying positive and healthy. Serenekitten, what a cute little bean!

1Littlebit, I'm so sorry and I'm sending all sorts of good and healing vibes your way. : And your Dr. should have his license revoked! There is certainly more to being a medical professional than just knowing anatomy and physiology. There is such a thing as being supportive and tactful in your practice, maybe he missed that class in school.

To catch up on all the back thread - I am in school, I'm getting my ASN right now. I'm going part time, only 2-3 hours a day 3 days a week. If I stay on top of my assignments (which doesn't always happen, time and a fussy baby can certainly be factors), I find it isn't too hard, and I like the chance to be around adults, even if I feel like I'm 20 years older than all of them.
Nursing isn't where my heart lies but dh really wants me to go. It's important to me to have an education, and I like the idea of having it to fall back on, but there is a natural health correspondance school I could enroll in, and I could learn what I WANT to learn while still being home with Raelyn FT. My dream is to become a Doctor of Natural Health specializing in natural and energy healing. I want to open my own holistic health center... sigh. Maybe once I graduate from nursing school in May '11. DH's thought is that I'm "young" enough to do both and this takes priority because it's a guaranteed pay check (and can finance my "other" education) Well, until then, I'll keep dreaming.

And I have a facebook and myspace!! My facebook is under "Carolyn Gleason" and my myspace is http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm...endID=43413613 Or if you feel more comfortable, send me your stuff on PM and I'll add you. Can't wait to talk to you guys there!
post #223 of 358
I am on facebook too if anyone wants to add me...full name is Ruonan Huang but call me Nonny for short.

my myspace is www.myspace.com/wsgirl84
post #224 of 358
Does anyone ever feel like people roll their eyes at your crunchy choices because of your age?

I know my mom has said more than once, "We'll see how long that lasts." or "Just wait until X happens." It makes me feel like she thinks I'm too young and acting rash or something.
post #225 of 358
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Originally Posted by AFWife View Post
Does anyone ever feel like people roll their eyes at your crunchy choices because of your age?

I know my mom has said more than once, "We'll see how long that lasts." or "Just wait until X happens." It makes me feel like she thinks I'm too young and acting rash or something.

Definitely ! You said it! I "love" it when people pass judgment on me before getting to know me, it's one my biggest pet peeves.
Then they turn amazed when they start questioning my boys or rather "testing" them to see if they know their body parts or their name or age etc etc... and then they turn totally surprised at how "smart" my boys are.

It is also one of many reason why me and my mom don't get along anymore, i think I completely dislike her now.
post #226 of 358
Wsgrl, that's so sad about you and your mother. I think my crunchier choices have gone over better partially because I'm a younger mama. I think a lot of criticism from parents come because they feel like us parenting different is a criticism about their parenting. But being a young mother and my mother's first children being twins, we've just parented in very different circumstances (she had her first kid at 32, it was planned, she was married, she was a lawyer and continued to WOH, etc...), so naturally we parent differently.
post #227 of 358
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Wsgrl, that's so sad about you and your mother. I think my crunchier choices have gone over better partially because I'm a younger mama. I think a lot of criticism from parents come because they feel like us parenting different is a criticism about their parenting. But being a young mother and my mother's first children being twins, we've just parented in very different circumstances (she had her first kid at 32, it was planned, she was married, she was a lawyer and continued to WOH, etc...), so naturally we parent differently.

My mom had me at around 25 and had my brother 13 years later. I've always had a feeling my parents liked boys a lot more. The funny thing is, my mom is a stay home mom too taking my brother to school and dropping him off. She had a part time job while I was in high school. She always wanted me to be those independent women with higher degrees, who don't answer to men. I have a feeling she does not enjoy being a housewife herself. On the other hand, I personally do enjoy being at home, taking care of the house and my kids. I really can't imagine myself being a corporate leader etc and bossing people around. I wouldn't change my life for anything. A female can't be good at both, got to choose between the bossy beeyatch or the stay home wifey.
post #228 of 358
im 21 had dd when i was 20. i likve in wa.
post #229 of 358
Sorry it's been a long time since I posted, y'all probably forgot about me! Lol. My daughter will be 3 months next week- I can't believe it.

I just started WOH pt last week- I went back to my pre preg job of barista, "yay." It's purely for insurance purposes- I got kicked off of medicaid (but I'm making less now by alot... it appears to be a clerical error but now I have to re-apply!!!! Fortunately, I only have to work 20< hrs to maintain insurance through work. But now I have to pump and be away from DD, all due to me needing asthma and depression meds. Sigh. At least she's staying with family when I'm at work...

I am so sick of
quote:"We'll see how long that lasts." or "Just wait until X happens."/:quote

It doesn't seem matter whether it's a "crunchy" idea or not. I think it bothers me most coming from the childless, mainly my "peers."

On a related note, I don't feel I have any real peers. I'm not close to anyone my age who has a kid. Or really anyone older... all our friends are too fun and fancy free. One couple has a house together but there are no kids in the future (of course neither did we this time last year!). I go to LLL but I missed the last two mths for a drs appt and then this month I got the date wrong. I wanted to join a new moms support group but it was a cost group... because support is totally a commodity. :
post #230 of 358
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Sorry it's been a long time since I posted, y'all probably forgot about me! Lol. My daughter will be 3 months next week- I can't believe it.

I just started WOH pt last week- I went back to my pre preg job of barista, "yay." It's purely for insurance purposes-[snip] At least she's staying with family when I'm at work...

I am so sick of
quote:"We'll see how long that lasts." or "Just wait until X happens."/:quote
On a related note, I don't feel I have any real peers. I'm not close to anyone my age who has a kid. [snip] I wanted to join a new moms support group but it was a cost group... because support is totally a commodity. :
Happy 3 months!! Hope you're enjoying work, glad she's with family. DS1 has the most amazing bond with my mom because they spent so much time together his first year (she lived with us). I feel like you guys are my peers, but I don't have many IRL. It bugs me that you have to pay for a support group , I can understand say bringing some food to share that's reasonable and understandable.

I got the we'll see how long that last thing when it comes to cloth diapers from MIL, here I am 3.5 years later still CDing, not the same child but nonetheless!
post #231 of 358
Thread Starter 
[QUOTE=AFWife;13012517] "We'll see how long that lasts." or "Just wait until X happens." QUOTE]

I HATE that!! I think I get it for different reasons from different people. Like, with my MIL - it's totally about her thinking her way is the best way and I'm crazy. Like, for example, I was never going to be able to have DD naturally or breastfeed, and co sleeping was just about the wrongest thing I could ever do and I needed to put her in a crib to cry it out, etc. etc.

With other people though, like my sister, it's about being young. She's kind of crunchy too, so it's more like, things I do with my first that are silly and over protective and I'll see that with time because I'm naive right now... whatever. I think it boils down to everyone thinking they know the best way to do something. Can't people just respect other people's decisions and support their lifestyles even if they don't practice/agree with them? Goodness gracious!

Happy 3 months to you and your little one!! There is so much fun ahead of you, but make sure you enjoy every minute while it lasts... my little one just turned 1 on 1-9-09. :
post #232 of 358

new here

hey mamas! i know i'm late joining this thread, but i'm so glad i have found it! i'm 22 and my daughter is 10 months. my situation is a little complicated right now, so i wasnt able to breastfeed or babywear for as long as i would have liked. we live with my parents, my dad is VERY old school conservative, my mom is a HUGE help to me and is more openminded. so there is a piece of my story. if anyone has any questions for me...just ask! its so refreshing to find other young mamas with similar beliefs!
post #233 of 358
Welcome! Sorry you couldn't BF for as long as you'd like but why weren't you able to continue to babywear?
post #234 of 358
bambolina and nursing mom, you both live with parents?

I thought it was just me-we live in FIL/MIL's basement. Probably until we die.
post #235 of 358
i have had chronic pain in my right foot for going on 7 years, therefore i compensate my walk alot which in turn caused ALOT of back and leg pain, especially during the end of my pregnancy. i had to take pain pills during the end of my pregnance, and afterward. when she was around 2 months, i had a week of A TON of stress and pain, which suppressed my milk production and i just couldnt keep up with her...plus she didnt BF very well to start with. plus i felt guilty having to take the pain pills and BFing, but my docs said it was ok. anyways....as for the babywearing, she got REALLLY BIG REALLY FAST. my back just couldnt take it. i realize now that i didnt have a good carrier to begin with, so i would like to find a good one to try again. DD has been teething pretty bad (her top right canine just popped through...her first tooth on the top!) so she has just wanted to be held lately, always on the hip! oh yah....did i mention she is 10 months, 24 lbs. and wears 18-24 month clothes!? so i've been looking at the mei tei style...anyone have any suggestions as to a comftorable style for big babies?
post #236 of 358
yah i have been with them for a year now, since i was still pregnant. i was living in NC with my soontobe exH when i decided to get a divorce for mine and my dd safety. i'm really blessed in that my parents have really been there for us, and help me out a ton. while we have different views on parenting, they respect my wishes for the most part. also my mom is a NICU nurse so she is a huge help. she supports my wishes to delay/select vaccines, use holistic measures, and feed dd organic. and my daughter just adores my mom, dad, and brother so i really couldn't ask for more!

p.s. sorry my posts are so long! its just soo nice to be able to get this out to like-minded people
post #237 of 358
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bambolina and nursing mom, you both live with parents?
Not anymore, my mom lived with us for about a year starting the month before DS1 was born and leaving shortly after his first birthday. It's a long complicated story.


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i have had chronic pain in my right foot for going on 7 years, therefore i compensate my walk alot which in turn caused ALOT of back and leg pain, especially during the end of my pregnancy. i had to take pain pills during the end of my pregnance, and afterward. when she was around 2 months, i had a week of A TON of stress and pain, which suppressed my milk production and i just couldnt keep up with her...plus she didnt BF very well to start with. plus i felt guilty having to take the pain pills and BFing, but my docs said it was ok. anyways....as for the babywearing, she got REALLLY BIG REALLY FAST. my back just couldnt take it. i realize now that i didnt have a good carrier to begin with, so i would like to find a good one to try again. DD has been teething pretty bad (her top right canine just popped through...her first tooth on the top!) so she has just wanted to be held lately, always on the hip! oh yah....did i mention she is 10 months, 24 lbs. and wears 18-24 month clothes!? so i've been looking at the mei tei style...anyone have any suggestions as to a comftorable style for big babies?
First of all big , I'm so sorry things didn't work out. And babycarrier suggestions I love wraps, you'd have to get a woven at her weight but those are pricey(I've wanted one for years just never had the gets to blow $ that could go else where), and I LOVE my babyhawk but those are also pricey. Check out the babywearing boards they will probably have a ton more suggestions. She sounds just like my DS1. He was HUGE, still is. He's 3 years old, will be 3.5 in april and at that point I'll be buying him all 4/5 in the big boy section, all his 5T stuff seems to be shrinking.

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yah i have been with them for a year now, since i was still pregnant. i was living in NC with my soontobe exH when i decided to get a divorce for mine and my dd safety. i'm really blessed in that my parents have really been there for us, and help me out a ton. while we have different views on parenting, they respect my wishes for the most part. also my mom is a NICU nurse so she is a huge help. she supports my wishes to delay/select vaccines, use holistic measures, and feed dd organic. and my daughter just adores my mom, dad, and brother so i really couldn't ask for more!

p.s. sorry my posts are so long! its just soo nice to be able to get this out to like-minded people

That's awesome they're so supportive and good for you for getting yourself out of a bad situation, that rocks. I wouldn't worry about long posts haha look at mine they go on forever!
post #238 of 358
New question: Where did you see yourself at this age? Is it better or worse than you expected? Is there anything you would change if you could? you can include/exclude details depending on your comfort.
post #239 of 358
Thread Starter 
Actually, DH has just about always lived with his parents, he had an apt over their home when we got together, and I moved in after I graduated when I was pregnant. My mom ended up getting a divorce and our too small apt got smaller! We lived there until a few months ago, when ex my step father moved out of their old home and the four of us all moved in, but she's never really around, just to watch the baby while I go to school, mostly. She's usually either working or with her boyfriend.

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New question: Where did you see yourself at this age? Is it better or worse than you expected? Is there anything you would change if you could? you can include/exclude details depending on your comfort.
Wow! Good question. Well, I've always been very, very studious. Throughout highschool, I was a straight A student and very concerned about grades. I had the top schools picked out to apply to. I wanted to go to school for something with Spanish - be a translator maybe, or a teacher. That was my goal. I've known DH for years, he was a customer at my parents' restaurant where I waitressed. Always thought he was cute, but way too old for me (8 1/2 years!) but when I was 17 and he was 25, he asked me out for dinner and I said yes. We fell madly in love in just a few weeks and things were wonderful, and the age difference didn't matter. He was always such a sweet, nice, caring guy that my family didn't mind either. He was going to follow me to whichever college I chose.

Well, I guess long story short, we had a pregnancy scare about 6 months later and I was so upset. Everything I had dreamed of was about to fall apart. I took a test and it was negative and I was... absolutely devestated. I don't even know how to explain it. I hadn't wanted a child for several years, and I hadn't known for sure if I was pregnant or not. Now, I have never had an actual miscarriage, and I would never claim to know what that hurt feels like, but I believe that if I were, that's what it would have felt like for me. I realized how much I wanted a baby and how I was willing to sacrifice everything to have one. So we stopped using protection, figuring if it was meant to happen it would. I decided that it wasn't fair of me to ask DH to move to another city in another state and not be able to live with him, and that the colleges I was looking at would be way too hard if I did end up getting pregnant. So I chose a state school where I could live off campus and only applied there. Six months after we stopped using protection, I got pregnant. I don't know if I really expected it to happen, and I had mixed feelings when I did, like, what did I get myself in to? I think this is one of the first times I've told the real story, we tell most people she was an accident - as in accidently on purpose. Would I change it? No, never. Do I think I should've acted a heck of a lot smarter? You betcha. What I did was naive and foolish. I was still in highschool when I got pregnant, fortunately I only had 3 months to go, but still. I don't agree now with how I acted but I am happy with the way my life worked out, having a child showed me how interested I was in natural living and alternative health care, which is the field I want to be in. Had I went through with the other school, I'd be a Spanish teacher, which I think is the wrong path for me. My daughter is the best present and future I could ever hope for. I know that no matter where my life takes me, it's better because of her, regardless of how I got here. So there's your answer, 289723 pages later. Sorry I always write such long posts too. I'm just a talker, I guess.
post #240 of 358
I'm in! I'm 22 w/a 14 mo. DS. I like to know I'm not the only young mama out there!:
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