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I think 23 is still young. Of course, I'm 23 so maybe I'm biased. My city runs a young moms groups and it's for 22 and under so I'm the oldest (they weren't gonna kick me out on account of having a birthday and I really enjoy the group) I think I relate to them more than I do moms in other groups because none of us really have a house or car or financial stability.
Anyways I do get some weirdness about my age. Not really from other mothers but from the public health nurses and doctors! They can be really condescending
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Thread Starter 
I seem to get a lot of discrimination from doctors and nurses too, (as well as the general public), but once anyone gets to talk to me, they see how well researched and thought out my opinions are.

I have a question, as a young mom, do you find you sometimes still have that "Wow she's young" reaction to seeing another young mom? As much as I am against judging and discrimination, occasionally I still find myself making snap judgments. For example, the other day I saw a young couple who looked like they were in their mid-late teens, the father was carrying the baby carrier and the mother was carrying a playboy bunny purse. Now, of course, her fashion decisions are her choice and hers alone, but it made me think differently of her, even though she could've been a terrific person and a great mom. I think first impressions are really important and I wouldn't want to portray myself that way. I don't know, just a thought.
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I have a question, as a young mom, do you find you sometimes still have that "Wow she's young" reaction to seeing another young mom? As much as I am against judging and discrimination, occasionally I still find myself making snap judgments. For example, the other day I saw a young couple who looked like they were in their mid-late teens, the father was carrying the baby carrier and the mother was carrying a playboy bunny purse. Now, of course, her fashion decisions are her choice and hers alone, but it made me think differently of her, even though she could've been a terrific person and a great mom. I think first impressions are really important and I wouldn't want to portray myself that way. I don't know, just a thought.
If a mother is young and carries herself in a mature fashion (which I think you do, as you mentioned how others change their minds when they realize you've done your homework), then that's one thing.

If a mother is young and acts irresponsibly, that's when I judge her. That may make me a hypocrite, but I'm human and I'm willing to admit it.
post #344 of 358
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I seem to get a lot of discrimination from doctors and nurses too, (as well as the general public), but once anyone gets to talk to me, they see how well researched and thought out my opinions are.

I have a question, as a young mom, do you find you sometimes still have that "Wow she's young" reaction to seeing another young mom? As much as I am against judging and discrimination, occasionally I still find myself making snap judgments. For example, the other day I saw a young couple who looked like they were in their mid-late teens, the father was carrying the baby carrier and the mother was carrying a playboy bunny purse. Now, of course, her fashion decisions are her choice and hers alone, but it made me think differently of her, even though she could've been a terrific person and a great mom. I think first impressions are really important and I wouldn't want to portray myself that way. I don't know, just a thought.
Hope you dont' mind me jumping in, technically I am not a "young mom" anymore, BUT I was once a young mom and I still get the looks when people see me with my oldest son (he is 12 and I am 30, I was 17 when he was born). I still get the problems with the school and teachers all thinking I am way too young to have a son as old as I do, and a smart, well behaved, mature son at that. However if he is not with me and they see me pregnant, they think it is wonderful (30 and pg is ok, but 30 with a 12 year old is not ).

Anyway, I do still catch myself looking at young girls with babies and thinking "what in the world are they thinking". However, I think more because it is the way they carry themselves and I know what a hard, long road they have against them. If they can't even get it together enough to put more thought into how they are raising an infant, what is going to happen when they have older kids.

Ex. These young girls walking around the mall with their new babies talking about how they are going out to party that weekend and how they are glad they dont' have to go to school anymore (dropping out?), at 17 when my son was born I was at the mall getting my sons pictures done and I got stopped by older women because I was breastfeeding and they were shocked to see I was nursing, then asked if I was still in school and I told them I graduated early and would go back to college when my son weaned, as I couldn't leave him just yet.

Now I am not saying young girls now don't always put their kids first, but I am just not seeing it in that quick moment as I walk by and it does make me sad for the kids, but then maybe I am just being way to judgmental.
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Originally Posted by RaelynsMama View Post
I seem to get a lot of discrimination from doctors and nurses too, (as well as the general public), but once anyone gets to talk to me, they see how well researched and thought out my opinions are.

I have a question, as a young mom, do you find you sometimes still have that "Wow she's young" reaction to seeing another young mom? As much as I am against judging and discrimination, occasionally I still find myself making snap judgments. For example, the other day I saw a young couple who looked like they were in their mid-late teens, the father was carrying the baby carrier and the mother was carrying a playboy bunny purse. Now, of course, her fashion decisions are her choice and hers alone, but it made me think differently of her, even though she could've been a terrific person and a great mom. I think first impressions are really important and I wouldn't want to portray myself that way. I don't know, just a thought.
I do see some young parents around but not too many here. ANd when I do see a young family, I am usually ecstatic and proud to be a young parent too. But if the parents were smoking and wearing inappropriate clothing then I do pass judgements in my head but I will never say it aloud.
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Ex. These young girls walking around the mall with their new babies talking about how they are going out to party that weekend and how they are glad they dont' have to go to school anymore (dropping out?), at 17 when my son was born I was at the mall getting my sons pictures done and I got stopped by older women because I was breastfeeding and they were shocked to see I was nursing, then asked if I was still in school and I told them I graduated early and would go back to college when my son weaned, as I couldn't leave him just yet.

Now I am not saying young girls now don't always put their kids first, but I am just not seeing it in that quick moment as I walk by and it does make me sad for the kids, but then maybe I am just being way to judgmental.
Since you brought up this topic, I will put in my 2 cents. Last year I used to be friends with a mom, who I thought was really cool at first but she was what you described here....those people who couldn't wait to go partying on Friday nights and hit the clubs and act single again. By the way, this mom is 32 with a 2 year old so she was an average aged mom.

This goes to show you that age does not make you a better parent. Experience and Love and Patience makes a good parent and most people would say MONEY. Society makes fun of us young moms because of lack of higher education which leads to money. It's all about money for old school people. Money to raise your child, and put them through college.
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Thread Starter 
I just thought of this thread the other day... anyone want to start it back up?
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I just found this thread but I would like to join in. I'll try reading back but I think it would take me days to finish reading the whole thing, haha.

My name is Angela and I just turned 22 on Sunday. I have a DD who will be three soon. I've never been a part of any tribes on here, really, and even though I've been posting on MDC for quite awhile I've never made any friends so I hope to get to know some of you here.
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hello all, how have you been
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Hey mommas! I just found this tribe and would love to join in as well! I am a 21 year old mother of two (one 7 year old daughter and a 10 month old son) I look forward to getting to know all of you!! :
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I'm feeling quite down today. We're TTC again, our third, at 22. I feel like a freak.
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Hey mommas! I just found this tribe and would love to join in as well! I am a 21 year old mother of two (one 7 year old daughter and a 10 month old son) I look forward to getting to know all of you!! :
Welcome to the thread!

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I'm feeling quite down today. We're TTC again, our third, at 22. I feel like a freak.
I think it's ambitious. More power to you!

31 weeks and still going... the pregnancy itself has been uncomplicated; the rest of my life has given me plenty of chaos to make up for it.
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post #354 of 358
Hey! Where'd we all go? Happy fourth! I hope everyone had a safe and fun day. I'm just checking in to say hello. How is everyone?
post #355 of 358
I'm still here for the moment. 16 days until my EDD. I didn't do anything this weekend -- didn't feel up to it thanks to a lack of sleep and some mild contractions that keep fizzling out.
post #356 of 358
well good luck! i only hung out with my parents and a glass of wine last night so dont feel bad. cam slept through the fireworks and the were less than a quarter mile in front of us. drink your raspberry tea! it'll help when it counts!
post #357 of 358
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I have a question, as a young mom, do you find you sometimes still have that "Wow she's young" reaction to seeing another young mom?
No. In the area I live in, it is norm for people to start their families in their teens and early twenties. I only have one friend who is not a parent... she's the oldest, at 25.
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I'm feeling quite down today. We're TTC again, our third, at 22. I feel like a freak.
Don't feel like a freak! We TTC'd our third at 23
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