Originally Posted by RaelynsMama
I seem to get a lot of discrimination from doctors and nurses too, (as well as the general public), but once anyone gets to talk to me, they see how well researched and thought out my opinions are.
I have a question, as a young mom, do you find you sometimes still have that "Wow she's young" reaction to seeing another young mom? As much as I am against judging and discrimination, occasionally I still find myself making snap judgments. For example, the other day I saw a young couple who looked like they were in their mid-late teens, the father was carrying the baby carrier and the mother was carrying a playboy bunny purse. Now, of course, her fashion decisions are her choice and hers alone, but it made me think differently of her, even though she could've been a terrific person and a great mom. I think first impressions are really important and I wouldn't want to portray myself that way. I don't know, just a thought.
Hope you dont' mind me jumping in, technically I am not a "young mom" anymore, BUT I was once a young mom and I still get the looks when people see me with my oldest son (he is 12 and I am 30, I was 17 when he was born). I still get the problems with the school and teachers all thinking I am way too young to have a son as old as I do, and a smart, well behaved, mature son at that. However if he is not with me and they see me pregnant, they think it is wonderful (30 and pg is ok, but 30 with a 12 year old is not
Anyway, I do still catch myself looking at young girls with babies and thinking "what in the world are they thinking". However, I think more because it is the way they carry themselves and I know what a hard, long road they have against them. If they can't even get it together enough to put more thought into how they are raising an infant, what is going to happen when they have older kids.
Ex. These young girls walking around the mall with their new babies talking about how they are going out to party that weekend and how they are glad they dont' have to go to school anymore (dropping out?), at 17 when my son was born I was at the mall getting my sons pictures done and I got stopped by older women because I was breastfeeding and they were shocked to see I was nursing, then asked if I was still in school and I told them I graduated early and would go back to college when my son weaned, as I couldn't leave him just yet.
Now I am not saying young girls now don't always put their kids first, but I am just not seeing it in that quick moment as I walk by and it does make me sad for the kids, but then maybe I am just being way to judgmental.