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Originally Posted by PassionateWriter
i havent started wearing the Moby out so much right now b/c, well Zen is the size of a 3 month old at this point (starting out almost 10 lbs. will do that to you) so he fits in the Ergo fine and for the most i use the KKAFP right now and just take him out of the car seat and plop him in there. i put that on inside also under my coat. it really only takes about 30 seconds to do that.
My Peanut Shell and KKAFP get a lot of use for short trips. It's incredibly easy to put her in it and if she's asleep in the carseat, she just falls right back asleep in the pouch. I also love my mei tai and will swaddle Hazel in the front seat of the car before putting her in it. When I had a Moby with dd1, I'd wrap it on before we left the house and then pop her into it once we are out. Only very occasionally will I take her out in the carseat. Even though the carseat gets cold, I always try and remember that they didn't always have those "to go" boxes for babies and babies have been doing fine sitting in cold carseats for a long time. I dress Hazel warmly when it's cold outside so I don't have to worry.
Originally Posted by TaraRae82
Too cute Emily
! I do the same type of talking with Ally Rae....."shall we go get all your clothes out of your hamper so my pretty little girl has something to wear?" You'd think she could answer me with how I talk to her!
"Hi there pretty girl! Did you have a nice sleep? Do you have happy dreams to tell me about? *insert her big open-mouth smile*"
I think that's healthy for baby. It encourages their development IMO even though we sound like crazy ninnies when out in public
Originally Posted by JMarie930
My sister had her baby this morning! Her DD arrived at 5:05AM, 5 lbs 4 oz and 19 inches. She's a bit early - 33 weeks - so she's in the NICU for now, but her lungs look good. I'm so excited! My best friend also had her baby on Thanksgiving, a little boy. She's sending me all the details when she has a free minute. Babies, babies, all around!
That's big for 33 weeks. Congratulations!!!
Originally Posted by crazybee
Most guys won't hesitate to help when they understand that you are uncomfortable.
This may be impossible with a newborn but another thing that helped was that when Cat made a "Chores" schedule.
There are a lot of things that I feel have made it easier for Cat and I. We are both laid back and rarely argue except those rare Sunday's where we want to beat each other up.
Our pregnancy was planned and everything went as planned, and our sweet Calla has a great temperament and has been excelling at everything, especially
You're awesome Bill
Thanks for the wonderful post. Unfortunately, my dh's personality does not jive with the self-motivation chore schedule. We have a chore chart and it just collects dust on our corkboard
I think you are probably more of a self-starter and don't need your wife to light a fire up under your a$$ to get stuff done. My dh has a lot of great qualities, but getting stuff (anything really) done is not one of them.
Another thing I've noticed my dh struggling with is being overwhelmed. It's very difficult for him to balance dd1 and dd2, cooking, cleaning, errands, etc.. This might be part of his depression or the depression makes it worse. He gets super anxious and then all he can do is sit and ruminate about all the things he's not doing. Then he feels bad about himself because he's not getting anything done. It's really a vicious cycle and something he's dealing with in counseling.
I think we jumped into the whole baby thing a little too early. (A failed IUD will do that) Especially for him. Now, obviously, we're stuck with our situation and that makes all those aforementioned problems even worse. He often says he feels hopeless and that he wishes we could undo stuff and go back to when we were 24 and 26.
So why am I rambling about my dh and his (our) problems? Maybe someone else on this board is feeling they have a similar situation and can relate. I didn't know what the problem was with our first and it took us a long time to realize why dh was so miserable.
Being the wife of a depressed man isn't easy. I know I'm not depressed, but I often feel sad that we have to deal with this. It's very difficult to see him so miserable and know that my actions are contributing to this. I try to pick and choose what I present to him to limit his anxiety, but the truth is I can't do it all alone. I tried for 20 months after dd1 was born and was starting to go insane.
We re-start marriage counseling again in January after getting fired 18 months ago. Our counselor said that we weren't going to make any progress together as a couple if dh didn't address his depression issues. She described it as a bicycle in which one wheel is completely broken. I should also mention that I'm a flat tire at best. He started individual counseling 3 months later when I gave him the "I'm leaving you" ultimatum. The psychiatrist put him on antidepressants and it is like night and day. I'm so thankful.
The most recent stress of having Hazel along with a few other stressors such as his mom, have put him back into a depression. It's not even close to as bad as it was a year ago, but it's still not any fun.
Originally Posted by mkmb129
I've never been so sick in my life. I'm so tired and achey, it's terrible.
Sounds like the flu. I hope you feel better soon.
Originally Posted by crosscat
I'm a mombie today, so I won't bother trying to post much. Calla just wouldn't stay asleep last night.
Her "routine" may have been upset by the road trip and holiday. Wish Bee and I luck that she's sleeping like a pro again soon.
Wish you all well.
Laughing at mombie. Love it.
for Calla to go back to magical, mystical, good sleeping baby
AAM(yes even more): Olivia's birthday party is this weekend and I need to go grocery shopping today. Tomorrow I'll make the cupcakes and Saturday my mom is coming over in the morning to help me decorate them and make the sandwiches. It's a swim party at the community center and Livi is SUPER excited.
I swam yesterday and my boob popped out of my suit while doing backstroke. It was totally embarassing
I really needed a good workout and relished it.