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post #121 of 156
Yay for typing 2-handed! It's a rare occurance if you're not BW'ing!

I'm typing 2-handed and I get to eat a whole peanut butter and preserves sandwich! She's sleeping in her Moby...

I haven't gotten brave enough to invest in another carrier because I adore the Moby so much. I didn't like the HotSling I got so I took it back and the carriers like Ergo just don't appeal to me. I need help working with a pouch I guess. I'm pretty sure I just wasn't doing it right or got the wrong size (even though I followed the chart...). Any carriers you can recommend would be great! I feel like I should have at least 2 different kinds if not more.
post #122 of 156
Sarah, that sounds fabulous!

Nora's about to wake up but I just wanted to jump in real quick and say that her Social Security Card came today! Awww! I don't know why put it makes me feel so proud!

Tara - that is a fierce haircut!

Question for Crosscat and Crazybee (and others who use chore charts) - Are the chore charts only for the Dad, or does the Mom have chores on that chart too? I think this may help my situation. Neither of us has any designated responsibilities, so I get frustrated when DH doesn't take initiative (and I'm sure he feels the same with me). I'd put myself on the chart though. Otherwise it doesn't seem fair - I don't want to treat DH like a child, YKWIM?
post #123 of 156
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Originally Posted by TaraRae82 View Post
Any carriers you can recommend would be great! I feel like I should have at least 2 different kinds if not more.
I like the Sleepywrap, but I think it is a lot like the Moby, but maybe just a stretchier fabric. I like how I can jam it in the diaper bag when I'm in a hurry and on my way out the door. For all the awesome things I've heard about the Ergo (that I'll absolutely adore it when L.O. can hold his head up reliably and I can take out the insert), it is definitely a pain in terms of the space it takes up.

With the Kangaroo pouch, the lady at the store said that fleece is stretchier than cotton, so it holds the baby snugger to the body, like a wrap. I'm finding that to be the case - so maybe you'd like a fleece pouch better than the Hotsling.

Aw Dude! Lars Oskar just spit up all over the inside of the pouch. My fault. I forgot to burp him. Yuck!
post #124 of 156
Tara, and others, check out the chunei
You can front or back carry and it's just like wearing a backpack with no long straps etc. I find it VERY comfy.

I got mine for $20 months ago when some guy was selling them on ebay and didn't know what it was for!! lol Someone told him and a few days later he put them up for $60+
post #125 of 156
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Sarah, that sounds fabulous!

Nora's about to wake up but I just wanted to jump in real quick and say that her Social Security Card came today! Awww! I don't know why put it makes me feel so proud!

Tara - that is a fierce haircut!

Question for Crosscat and Crazybee (and others who use chore charts) - Are the chore charts only for the Dad, or does the Mom have chores on that chart too? I think this may help my situation. Neither of us has any designated responsibilities, so I get frustrated when DH doesn't take initiative (and I'm sure he feels the same with me). I'd put myself on the chart though. Otherwise it doesn't seem fair - I don't want to treat DH like a child, YKWIM?
Before the child it was just a list of tasks we needed to complete. If it was Bathroom night, we would each take one bathroom and then usually switch each week. If it was dining room and living room we would switch who did what each week. If was a bigger room like the kitchen we would usually have only one room for that night and we would work on it together.

With children it would be different though, I would definitely put Mom and Dad on the chart so he doesn't feel singled out like "BAD HUBBY, YOU AREN'T PULLING YOUR WEIGHT!" Also, I wouldn't go to granular.

CrazyBee
post #126 of 156
Oh neat I've not seen a chunei before.... not like I need another carrier LOL!

Tara my favorite carrier apart from a wrap is a mei tai .. if you ever want to try one, or um yeah even any of my other carriers (you were there for my impromptu LLL babywearing demo) just ask .

I have maya wrap slings (2-3), maya wrap pouch (1), Mei Tai (2), wraps (3). I like them all for different purposes.

Tara your hair looks great.... but I'm sorry it's to short to pull back for your workouts! Good thing hair grows quickly .
post #127 of 156
Return of the Mombie...

mamanurse: It sounds like you've been really patient and supportive of your DH. I'm hoping he's feeling better really soon and that things improve for you!

So you "went wild" at the pool and popped out of your suit, huh? That's the sort of thing that would happen to me.

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Originally Posted by TaraRae82 View Post
Any carriers you can recommend would be great! I feel like I should have at least 2 different kinds if not more.
Babyhawk! I think this is one of the more guy-friendly carriers, too - so maybe you could share it with your DH. Ours is reversible, so one side's pattern is more "masculine" than the other. DH loves to wear it.

I agree with you about pouches. It's the carrier I use the least. I'm wondering if I have the wrong size or something. I really have trouble getting Calla into it. I followed the chart, so I dunno if I have the wrong size or what. Something just doesn't feel right about the pouch. I'm hoping my friend with the hotsling can help me figure it out.

Also, your haircut is super cute. I hope it grows to ponytail length for you quickly.

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Question for Crosscat and Crazybee (and others who use chore charts) - Are the chore charts only for the Dad, or does the Mom have chores on that chart too? I think this may help my situation. Neither of us has any designated responsibilities, so I get frustrated when DH doesn't take initiative (and I'm sure he feels the same with me). I'd put myself on the chart though. Otherwise it doesn't seem fair - I don't want to treat DH like a child, YKWIM?
I felt all excited about Calla's social security card, too! I see Bill answered about the chore chart. I would say just make the kind of chart that would work for your situation. We just had goals of getting certain rooms/areas clean on specific days. We kind of switched up responsibilities so it wouldn't get boring. Some days we'd do the rooms together, even. That's just what worked for us. I agree don't just make a "honey do" for your hubby, put yourself on the chart too. This helps everyone see that each person is pulling his or her weight.

sarah.astrid: congrats on your new carrier. It sounds really nice. Sorry to hear little Lars spat up in there. Hope it cleans up easily.

AAM: Wow, who would have ever thought a 30 minute nap could feel so restorative? I'm not much of a napper, but I need to learn! I can only imagine how kickbutt I'd feel if I had actually slept for an hour.

We're getting closer to the weekend. :
post #128 of 156
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P.S. I just nursed him in it! With both hands free. Awesome!
I nursed in my wrap for the first time today too! It WAS awesome! I even posted pics of it in the bfing forum cause I was so proud.

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Nora's about to wake up but I just wanted to jump in real quick and say that her Social Security Card came today!
Addie's came this week too! I told her she could now get a job and stop freeloading - pay her way, yk?

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Tara, and others, check out the chunei
Oooh, I like the look of that! What I really want is something that's EASY to get in and out of, b/c my wrap is awesome for everything once it's on, but sometimes I just hold her b/c I don't want to deal with getting it on. And then I can't really do anything, just hold her!

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AAM: Wow, who would have ever thought a 30 minute nap could feel so restorative? I'm not much of a napper, but I need to learn! I can only imagine how kickbutt I'd feel if I had actually slept for an hour.
I try and get a nap in every day, sometimes it's only 30 minutes if I time it wrong but sometimes it's a couple hours and that makes SUCH a difference. I've got a lavender rice pillow that I lay over my eyes - blocks out all the light, smells and feels wonderful, and makes it easy for me to sleep during the day.

AAM: So last night totally sucked. Dh didn't end up getting home till after 10 :, took Addie long enough for me to take a quick shower, but then got on the internet to do some business and I had her till she finally went to sleep at 12:30. While Dh went to bed b/c "he was just exhausted". Well great, I'm exhausted too and I just have no sympathy for you when you stayed out later than you said you were going to hanging out with friends. :

He's totally stressed out. I get that. His work is really physically and mentally demanding and this contract is done next month and he doesn't have another job lined up yet. He's got an employee he has to look out for in terms of work as well. He's starting a HUGE endeavor in his business that will require about 50 grand to get it all set and he's stressing over how to get the money.... I get it. BUT I STILL NEED HELP! I think he's going slightly crazy over his responsibilities and I don't know what to do to help him with that, but at the same time, I will burn out if I don't get any help either. I keep telling him that at the very worst, our families will take care of us and we won't be homeless and hungry out in the cold. We may have to move back with family for a while, we may have to be really humble, but we won't be left to deal alone and Addie will always be taken care of at the very least. I think he just feels like the weight of everything is on his shoulders now b/c he's the sole breadwinner in a field that is taking hard hits with the economy AND is notoriously bad for work in the winter (construction).

Anyways, I didn't mean to come on here and complain! Today has actually been pretty good and I've gotten some stuff done (not as much as I wanted to though). Addie slept for 2 4-hr stretches last night so I'm pretty amazingly well rested. So much sleep has helped the cold too (and the tinctures I was taking must have helped too!) so I'm feeling better all around.

I think I'm going to try and convince Dh to go out to eat tonight, even though he's totally stressed about $, just so he can have the break and get out of the house.
post #129 of 156
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I like the Sleepywrap, but I think it is a lot like the Moby, but maybe just a stretchier fabric. I like how I can jam it in the diaper bag when I'm in a hurry and on my way out the door. For all the awesome things I've heard about the Ergo (that I'll absolutely adore it when L.O. can hold his head up reliably and I can take out the insert), it is definitely a pain in terms of the space it takes up.

With the Kangaroo pouch, the lady at the store said that fleece is stretchier than cotton, so it holds the baby snugger to the body, like a wrap. I'm finding that to be the case - so maybe you'd like a fleece pouch better than the Hotsling.

Aw Dude! Lars Oskar just spit up all over the inside of the pouch. My fault. I forgot to burp him. Yuck!
Ally Rae had a major spit up all inside her Moby earlier today. Good thing it's bath day. Ugh...it got me worse than her though!

Thanks for all the recs on carriers ladies! I knew you'd have ideas! I'll go check all those out.
post #130 of 156
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I took a few pics of my haircut. The shape is fine but it's just too short in the front for practical purposes. Please forgive my lack of makeup....

Front

Side

Side #2
Your haircut is adorable Tara! Ally Rae and you look so much alike

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Babyhawk! I think this is one of the more guy-friendly carriers, too - so maybe you could share it with your DH. Ours is reversible, so one side's pattern is more "masculine" than the other. DH loves to wear it.

I agree with you about pouches. It's the carrier I use the least. I'm wondering if I have the wrong size or something. I really have trouble getting Calla into it. I followed the chart, so I dunno if I have the wrong size or what. Something just doesn't feel right about the pouch. I'm hoping my friend with the hotsling can help me figure it out.
I have a Peanut Shell (like a Hot Sling or Chic Papoose) and a KKAFP. I just used the KKAFP for the first time and it! I didn't like pouches much either wirth my first and now adore them. They're so easy for quick trips. The Moby really is uber comfy, though, while the babes are small. My all time fav carrier is a mei tai. Once they're big/old enough for back carry, it's hands down the best bw option imo. I have a babyhawk, but have owned many other brands. The fabrics available for mei tais make it so much fun. Like a true fashion accessory. Okay... Maybe Stacy and Clinton would disagree.

Here are some videos with instructions on putting babe in the pouch. I use the tummy to tummy almost exclusively.
post #131 of 156
I did a little more research re: BW'ing. I think I'm going to try a Zolo Ring Sling. It was recommended by one of the reps on The Baby Wearer for infants and Mom's who love wraps. I love how it looks! All the great fabrics would be awesome especially for date night! Then I can dress up and not feel so dressed-down with my jersey knit or fleece Moby. Now I just have to find the $90......maybe Christmas gift to myself...
post #132 of 156
Oh I didn't realize everyone was talking about wearing on here, and I just posted a thread on babywearing, sigh . . .

Tara, I really don't suggest a Zolo. They are super pretty, but they take a little bit to "break in" unlike the Maya, which after one wash is super soft and easy to handle through the rings. And in my opinion the shoulder is a lot more tricky than the new Maya. Also take a peek at Sleepingbabyproductions.com She is a WAHM who makes beautiful RS's that are SUPER comfy.

I love our KKAFP, but after about 10 months my daughter started flinging herself backwards out of it because of it's stretchiness. It is super sluggly for the newborns though.

Babyhawk is awesome, super easy to use for back carries, but there are tons of companies out there with just as good of a product for less money.

What you really need is a Woven Wrap!!! Love em, love em! Wish I could afford more.

Have any of you been on thebabywearer.com They have a lot more information and a whole Review section on different carriers than on here. (Sorry, not trying to diss mothering at all).
post #133 of 156
^No prob Cindy! I appreciate your feedback! I was mistaken in my previous post.....Zolo was recommended by a rep on peppermint.com. Oops!

Yes, I'm on TBW.com. I actually got a PM from a mama/vendor there to let me know about a baby fair near my home this weekend. She has lots of carriers that can be tried first and she makes RS's. I'm hoping I can make it out there.
post #134 of 156
Hey Tara can you PM me the info on the baby fair.. that might be fun !
post #135 of 156
Another vote for the babyhawk! I can do house work in it, it's great. It's a pita because putting in on before leaving the house doesn't work, and it's quite chilly out and Ainsley doesn't tolerate the cold well, so the time it takes to get her in it makes her angry, but it's the best carrier as far as weight distribution goes, so I just plop her in the peanut shell if it's really cold out then transfer her into the BH if I'm out alone or going to be out for a while. After a while with the peanut shell she'll start to feel heavy, but I don't have that problem with the BH, and of course I can be hands-free to deal with my 2 year old (who I can still carry in the BH!).
post #136 of 156
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I read the whole thread! Then, LO started to fuss and I went to get him. I think he has an "angry voice" as when I got him he seemed to not want to come out of his reverie. Perhaps he was just talking to himself.

I delayed responding b/c I wanted to prioritize showering over responding, sorry gals. Still, he fussed more in the carseat while I showered, to an all out cry to end the shower early. At least the soap was off.

Hugs to all in need. You mamas do a great job of supporting each other, and I know that having you as a touchpoint through this whole journey has meant so much to me.

About babywearing: I think the main thing is that mama and child are both comfortable. And, Tara, I've given the response too about it being a very common practice throughout the centuries. I never thought of it sounding "snotty", however, but perhaps it just goes along with my know-it-all persona I project to the world IRL.

Bryson is doing great. He actually went from 8 ish PM to 4 ish AM without feeding last night. A little latch here and there, but back to sleep almost instantly. Yahoo!!! I realized that the 4 AM thing wasn't so bad after I counted my hours of sleep-- granted some were interrupted b/c of his grunts, etc. Still, I used to survive on this little sleep, but was much more centered b/c all of my energies were not devoted to meeting someone's every need. It makes a difference.

I was reading the thread about how big our babies are getting, and wanted to share what I love about cloth diapering: I have yet to use all of a package of disposable diapers in a single size. Even when I made peripads out of newborn diapers, I didn't use all of them. I need to count up how many of the 84 size 1's I have left, but those are out too. They were looking small at the MW's on Tuesday, and now I know why-- he's 12+ and 23 1/2 inches. That means he's almost out of 3-6 month size too. Oh my, he cannot grow this exponentially all year! It's funny how oblivious I was to his growth, since I see him every day.

My MW recommended not to have a pediatrician, just keep track on the milestones ourselves and just go to walk in clinics when needed, to vax if we want to at public health, and to maintain chiro care with the little one. This is how I was raised (minus the vax- I got those all before leaving for college.) DD had a ped- who said he'd support delay or no vax, but didn't really. Do any of you do this?

I went to the lactation consultant last week to get a breast pump, and have pumped once, but she gave me a handout on overactive letdown and I've been trying to follow some of the tips. Now I feel like my supply is dwindling. I've also not been drinking enough water.

I got annoyed yesterday while Christmas shopping (frames for all, thank you very much) and put everything back (mostly DD, but I'm glad I did). I'm having this problem of being uber frugal these days (for me.) I had to restrain myself from trying to buy the super cheap frames, even though I already spent the money in September by buying scrip (gift cards) for this very purchase. This counterbalances DH's spending spree for his collection of MP3 players. And, much to my annoyance, he asked if we have anything for DD yet. Huh? Of course we do. We're almost done for her, except that he just noticed that her undies are really tight, so she's getting new ones for Christmas to.

Is anyone with older children asking Santa for anything for the baby? This is what I overlooked.
post #137 of 156
Baby's pissy so I'm typing fast and one handed but

I hate the zolo. It's lovely but super uncomfortable. Bought and returned 2. I didn't like the babyhawk either. It was too stiff and I hated the ties. It's also a little cumbersome to get it on in public and I don't like that. I have a hotslings fleece pouch and while it's really comfy, my lo hates anything cradle position. He's an upright kinda guy. If you want a ring sling, I love mine from Kangaroo Korner.

I had an ergo and you're right Tara- they're just not real cute or femenine looking. However, a soft structured carrier would be ideal for you. I work out in mine a lot and for babywearing and working out, you can't beat something that is truly hands free. I can even bend far over and not have to hold his head. I have an angelpack and they're on sale right now at www.frogmama.com but the beco butterfly is supposed to be great too. They have some beautiful prints. Eh, just my two cents.
post #138 of 156
Morning, mamas!

All this bw'ing talk makes me feel like there's a club that I'm not part of! I just cannot get this figured out!

Lets say I want to go to the mall with Nora. We drive over there, park in the deck (b/c maybe it's a degree warmer). Somehow I manage to get her into the wrap/carrier that I've got outside w/o either of us freezing our butts off. I'm still confused! Do you guys wear your baby and still bring the stroller/carseat into the mall with you? How would you go about trying clothes on if you don't have a carrier to put baby in? What about carrying bags? Wouldn't it make sense to still have the stroller to put the diaper bag in and other packages you pick up?

I really want to do this! But I can't justify buying more carriers (the angelbaby ones are so pretty) until I actually get use out of the one I have!
post #139 of 156
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Baby's pissy so I'm typing fast and one handed but

I hate the zolo. It's lovely but super uncomfortable. Bought and returned 2. I didn't like the babyhawk either. It was too stiff and I hated the ties. It's also a little cumbersome to get it on in public and I don't like that. I have a hotslings fleece pouch and while it's really comfy, my lo hates anything cradle position. He's an upright kinda guy. If you want a ring sling, I love mine from Kangaroo Korner.

I had an ergo and you're right Tara- they're just not real cute or femenine looking. However, a soft structured carrier would be ideal for you. I work out in mine a lot and for babywearing and working out, you can't beat something that is truly hands free. I can even bend far over and not have to hold his head. I have an angelpack and they're on sale right now at www.frogmama.com but the beco butterfly is supposed to be great too. They have some beautiful prints. Eh, just my two cents.
You can kangaroo a baby in a pouch, it was the only way ds would tolerate the pouch as he got bigger. It's not hands-free, though.. but do able And you can hip carry with it as they get bigger.

It's funny because Ainsley hates being cradled, but loves to be cradled in the pouch. It was the only carrier she'd tolerate for a while which drove me nuts b/c it's not the most comfortable thing for long periods of time and I had to have one hand for her.
post #140 of 156
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Morning, mamas!

All this bw'ing talk makes me feel like there's a club that I'm not part of! I just cannot get this figured out!

Lets say I want to go to the mall with Nora. We drive over there, park in the deck (b/c maybe it's a degree warmer). Somehow I manage to get her into the wrap/carrier that I've got outside w/o either of us freezing our butts off. I'm still confused! Do you guys wear your baby and still bring the stroller/carseat into the mall with you? How would you go about trying clothes on if you don't have a carrier to put baby in? What about carrying bags? Wouldn't it make sense to still have the stroller to put the diaper bag in and other packages you pick up?

I really want to do this! But I can't justify buying more carriers (the angelbaby ones are so pretty) until I actually get use out of the one I have!
Carrie, if you were going out alone and were going to be trying on clothes or buying a lot, I'd bring the stroller, too. That way you can plop her in it to get her inside quicker, then put her on in the warm mall! It's getting too cold to put Ainsley in a complicated carrier (BH) outside so I plop her in my microfleece pouch then put her in the BH inside. I already have the stroller for ds (who cannot be trusted to not run off!) so that's not a issue. I wouldn't ever go anywhere alone if I were to try on clothes though, with both of them anyway! If I *had* too (yeah right.. when would I HAVE to? ) I'd just lay the baby on the floor on a blanket or something. It's all about being comfortable and finding your comfort level. I could never put Ainsley in a stroller b/c she hates being in her carseat and doesn't like being put down for a long time. But ds as an infant loved his carseat and always slept, so I put him in his seat in the stroller (he didn't sleep well at home, so I took advantage of this). I hope you find something that works for you! And don't feel like you have to do it or have to like it because others do. You do what you gotta do, and if Nora is okay in the stroller and you don't feel it necessary to wear her (with a toddler, it just makes my life easier to wear A), then you don't have to!
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