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post #21 of 156
Don't have much time, but just want to give huge to all you Mommas having a hard time!
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Carrie, thank goodness, no, we're not going there for Christmas. We alternate holidays so we'll be with my family for Christmas. While it will still be overstimulating for her because I have a huge, loud family, they give her back immediately when she's fussy and never take her w/o asking!

I should add that I'm sure my inlaws probably felt as though they were helping me by being so involved with Ally Rae while we were there. I do understand that but no one listened to me when I'd tell them why she was so fussy.
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She's getting so big- she's adorable Tara! You're house looks so warm and cozy. Love it!

Try not to stress about AF returning. I had a PP period with my 3rd about now and didn't have another till about 15 months? Maybe one light in between somewhere.
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Oh Tara, I'm so sorry. That "You can't possible be hungry!" crap makes me so angry, I heard that SO MANY TIMES with ds. It's because no one has faith that our bodies can take care of our babies.. they way they were intended to, I guess. It always made me feel bad and weird, like did they think that I just WANTED to have this little sucker (literally ) hanging off of me all day?! I'd be upset with dh for not sticking by your side during that. I hope the next time you're around them it goes better!
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She's getting so big- she's adorable Tara! You're house looks so warm and cozy. Love it!

Try not to stress about AF returning. I had a PP period with my 3rd about now and didn't have another till about 15 months? Maybe one light in between somewhere.
Oh that does give me some hope! Although, unfortunately, my Mom was the exact same....she never missed more than 1 cycle after giving birth. : Our pregnancies were NOTHING alike until this one thing. Sheesh.
post #27 of 156
s to everyone feeling down... I remember those feelings from when ds was an infant. Somehow I've been spared this time around but I really feel for you gals going through it.

Tara, I can't believe they would act so clueless when Ally Rae needed her mama. Would saying anything to DH help for future events?Ugh I remember those kind of comments with my ex-in-laws. "He's hungry again?" like that really helped matters considering I struggled with supply issues. :

Gorgeous pictures!!! Ally Rae is getting so big. I absolutely love the shots of the Christmas decorations, breathtaking.

AAM: We did it! As in, IT. 7 weeks pp, after I got the ok from the midwife. Hurt a bit at first, but after that things were great. I was pretty sore the day after, though! But now I have to start dealing with bc. DH doesn't want any more children, and I don't want anymore right now either, I will never finish my degree if I keep having babies. Any recommendations for something that won't affect my ohrmone levels for breastfeeding? We were only using NFP and the occasional condom use before, but obviously didn't have the willpower to abstain during the right time, as we were naughty during my most fertile time, and sure enough less than two weeks later I was staring at the positive test. (Not that I'm complaining, I love my little pumpkin!) So it's on to something we can't screw up.
post #28 of 156
^My OB recommended a progesterone pill for BC since it doesn't affect BF'ing like estrogen-based pills do.
post #29 of 156
: Fairieshadow! I don't have any good recs for bc, though. It's just condoms for us.


Tararae- Do take your baby away, if you need her back, you're her mommy, and you have every right to be the big momma bear, and protect your tiny girl! Go girly! You can do it!

BabyCakes- I'm sorry you have such mixed emotions about nursing. You have won through so much already in that department, I think you should be proud. I was telling my mom about you the other day, and she was mighty impressed! She had lots of problems nursing us, and has been very supportie of me breastfeeding.


AAM- I'm really struggling with my self image right now. I feel like if I eat anything at all, I'm going to gain lots of weight, and I've been so hungry. So of course over Thanksgiving, I ate, and I haven't stopped. I literally feel guilty for needing to eat, and I feel like every bite is going to make me fat. This is insane. I want to keep losing weight, but not this way. I just want to stop eating entirely.
post #30 of 156
Carrie Good luck with your move

fairieshadowThanksgiving at the firehall sounds fun...what a beautiful family!!

babycakes hope your feeling better soon...so sorry to hear you are feeling down. Have you tried gentian violet for Nora?? It is the only thing that worked with Rufus after battling thrush for 5 weeks....
I am so sorry you are having a hard time about going back to work, I can't even begin to imagine how hard that must be...I hope the trasntion goes smootlhy and that Nora does all her special milestones on the weekends for you.
Hugs about Leelo...it's can't be easy missing your cat so much at times like this.

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Hazel had her first extremely rough night last night after a busy day. I think she just didn't get to sleep enough during the day and that left us with an overtired baby who also happened to have gas. We had 5 hours of inconsolable crying last night. The poor thing passed out at 11 and then slept well the rest of the night. Hopefully tonight won't be a repeat.
hope you don't have to go through that ever again...

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Our house is decorated for the holidays. I'd like to get some candles for the menorah and an advent calendar for dd1 (is that what the candy in the days left to Christmas is called?) then I'm all finished. Dh still has to decorate the exterior and tonight we'll trim the tree. Dd1 and him are out at the tree farm right now. I've also got chex mix in the oven as I type:
I am just about done decorating as well...I put up the advent calender today and the boys were all over it..they wanted the chocolate sooo badly today....

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We couldnt hang his hammock up north so his naps were all on me and he nursed alot more at night being beside me all night long but all in all, it was a good time for all.
what kind of hammock does he sleep in??

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This week I am trying to be thankful for a healthy baby after reading about the lovely mama on here who lost her babe in childbirth. How heartbreaking! The story made me hug Miles closer. How can I complain about my perpetually sore nips, oversupply, no dairy, cranky babe, and long frustrating days when I have my baby in arms?
I feel the same way sometimes, but you have a right to feel down about being in pain and having a cranky baby, yes it's a blessing to have your little one but that doens't make the hard days easy....hugs mama!!

Tara i'm sorry your thanksgiving was such a Pain with how everyone was with Ally Rae...Why do people think it's ok to pass our babies around like footballs. I am even sorrier that your dh wasn't much help in the situation...I imagine that had to make it worse. That really sucks that AF is back already....I have heard of women getting one ppd af and then not getting it again for months...hope that is the case for you.


AAM: I haven't been posting much on this thread lately I find it so hard to keep up but I am trying...
Keir is a wonderful baby, he sleeps well, eats well and is rarely cranky...he doesn't go for the longest stretches at night but i'm ok with that becasue he is so good the rest of the time. Last night he actually did pretty good...was down from 10-12:30 in his crib, then again from 1-4:30, when I brought him to bed and we slept till 7:30.
My first son was an awesome sleeper and was sleeping 5-6 hours at this time and was sleeping 12 hours by 12 weeks....my second son never went more then 2 hours till after a year so I am guess that keir is going to be somewhere in between.

He is very content to sleep in the swing, the bouncy chair, the crib, the carseat and in bed with us so I certainly can't complain about that.

Dh and I have been getting on each others nerves for the fast few days....I think it's becasue dtd didn't work out so well last week as I was feeling to cramping when trying and he is getting frustrated with me...not to mention we have been home together since Keir was born with barely any time to ourselves. I shouldn't complain though since I am surprised at how well we have been getting along.

My ds#1 who is my spirited child has been driving me bonkers lately and I am afraid I haven't been a very good mama to him lately...really have to work on that.
post #31 of 156
nak

heidirk, when i feel like that, i remind myself that i have to eat to get the energy my body needs to make the milk my little ally rae needs. i know i would feel so guilty and awful if my suppy decreased and i had to supplement with formula because of my poor eating habits.
post #32 of 156
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And to top it all off, I had what I thought was fertile EWCM a week ago Friday and sure enough, AF showed up this past Friday. I'm really upset about this and I don't know why. I should feel grateful that I'm fertile and able to have more children. But, really, I just don't want to deal with it right now. Plus, PP hormones are enough to deal with without adding fertility hormones to that. DH thinks the return of my cycles is humorous which really irkes me. : Why is that funny?! It really sucks.
I'm sorry Tara. Hopefully it won't come back. Your IL family would've pissed me off too. I hope you're able to express your feelings to dh and that he responds supportively.

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I, on the other hand, got NO help from my family over Thanksgiving. Nobody except my one sister even asked to hold Nora. My mother has never held her, not even once since she was born. They are so indifferent and uncaring it's hurtful.
Unbelievable Carrie. I'd be crushed and incredibly hurt.

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Keir is a wonderful baby, he sleeps well, eats well and is rarely cranky...he doesn't go for the longest stretches at night but i'm ok with that becasue he is so good the rest of the time. Last night he actually did pretty good...was down from 10-12:30 in his crib, then again from 1-4:30, when I brought him to bed and we slept till 7:30.
My first son was an awesome sleeper and was sleeping 5-6 hours at this time and was sleeping 12 hours by 12 weeks....my second son never went more then 2 hours till after a year so I am guess that keir is going to be somewhere in between.
Congrats on the awesome sleeper!

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Tararae- Do take your baby away, if you need her back, you're her mommy, and you have every right to be the big momma bear, and protect your tiny girl! Go girly! You can do it!


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AAM: We did it! As in, IT. 7 weeks pp, after I got the ok from the midwife. Hurt a bit at first, but after that things were great. I was pretty sore the day after, though! But now I have to start dealing with bc.
Yay! : I'm not sure I'll ever feel like DTD with dh again after how he's behaved this weekend.

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She's so stinkin cute in her dress! I love the decor as well.
post #33 of 156
Awww! Tara! Ally Rae is ADORABLE in her little dress! What a gorgeous family you have! And I love your holiday decorations as well. You guys have a nice house.
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^thank you....i my house! we just happened upon it about 6mo before our wedding and decided to make an offer. the owners were just ready to get it sold so the price was so pretty and it was much more of a house than i ever thought we'd get as newly weds. we can grow into this since it's a full 2 story colonial with 4 bedrooms and 2 1/2 baths and a walkout basement. i especially love the curved staircases...i'll post more pics when we finish decorating. dh is hanging lights outside right now and we still have a banister to do in garland and red ribbons.
post #35 of 156
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:Any recommendations for something that won't affect my ohrmone levels for breastfeeding? l
We use these - http://www.vcf-contraceptive.com/whatisvcf.html - dh loves them
post #36 of 156
Well I just got caught up reading.. and now I have a tired fussy baby..... and two whining kiddos..... bbl.... to reply I hope!
post #37 of 156

Ppd...

So now what? For all you mamas who have BTDT, I took that quiz over on the PPD forum and scored 65. I'm not sure what to do. Last night was really rough. I've never had such scary thoughts, and I had to pass Nora off to DH b/c I didn't trust myself around her.

My first instinct is to try to treat this naturally, make sure I get more sun, make sure I take all my vitamins and eat better, and make a real effort to pull myself out of this without medication. I've dealt with depression before and have been on multiple medications for it, which I weaned myself off of before TTC.

If that doesn't work though, what do I do? How do I find a good psychiatrist? I'll have to go through my insurance provider, I suppose. Ugh, this is not what I needed to deal with. Though maybe, PPD is what's making everything so hard to deal with in the first place.

I just feel guilty. I feel like I should be a rock, and I'm not.
post #38 of 156
My opinion? Don't wait to go for meds. Especially because you just came off of them before TTC. I have a friend right now in patient for electroconvulsive therapy because she waited so long and nothing else worked by then. Her midwife put her on supplements and all that right away but she needed more... right now that's really scary to me. There are lots of meds that are safe while BF and they all take some time to start working. You can always do the natural things while you wait for the medication to kick in. You have to consider if you'll be sorry you used the meds or sorry that you didn't, yk?
post #39 of 156
nak
s Carrie..unfortunately i have a lot of experience with depression..so far this time around I'm ok..

During the worst of it I was not able to decide what vitamins/supplements/whatever I needed...I tried but would end up to overwhelmed and forgetting what to take when etc..
2 things that helped IMMENSELY
1. The Mood Cure by Julia Ross--seriously amazing book..she has a site as well that has her 4 'mood types' quiz
and
2. seeing my naturopath and having *her* figure out what I need and writing it all down for me.

Honestly, my advice (fwiw) is to
1. Take LOTS of fish oil (I'm taking 4000mg/day by midwife's recommendation..If I miss a day I feel it!! Also, Dr. Stoll (the Omega Connection) used 6-9000mg in his studies on patients with bipolar. That is an excellent book as well.

2. Get your thyroid levels checked before deciding if you want to go on antidepressants because depression is the main/most common symptom of thyroiditis and especially postpartum it's really common for your thyroid to get out of whack (1 in 10 women postpartum)

3. If thyroid is ok (like *really* OK, lots of doctors are really clueless about this), and it's still not letting up, for me, my plan is to just take the antidepressants. Honestly, I lost about a year and half's worth of memory from the depression/thyroid stuff after
dd2's birth. I don't remember a thing, it's true amnesia. I was suicidal --and probably homicidal--for so long. It was awful

I've been on Zoloft before and it sucks, but if it can help u feel better quicker than supplements then don't miss out on that time you could be enjoying your baby and life in general..in the meantime I'd keep taking the supps so if/when you wean off the meds you still have the benefits of the vitamins/minerals/aminoacids/whatever

s
You'll get through it!!
post #40 of 156
Carrie, I've been taking fish oil, a prenatal & a b complex vitamin and it's helped tremendously. If I skip a day, I do feel it. It's amazing how within a few days of taking this all how much better I felt. If nothing else, the fish oil & vitamins are good for you even if they don't help improve your mood.
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