I'm in the exact same boat as you Tara! I've no idea what is reasonable so end up not asking for help b/c I don't want to stress him out more and he needs down time too... but then I end up with no down time.
At nighttime, I do my best to let Matt sleep and I go out in the living room with the baby for changes and nursing. On the weekends, I try to let him sleep in b/c I know his sleep has suffered from hearing the baby cry during the week and getting up at 6:30.
I try to make a nice dinner for him if I can when he comes home each day. I feel guilty that he works so hard and is the bread winner.
((hugs)) to us all.
I want to say I am sorry I haven't been around.
I am still having home health nurses come to my place every day to clean and dress/drain my open wound/stitches from my c section. Its not infected and it is healing but damn, its been a month now of home health nurses and I am tired of being a shut-in for the most part.:
My wound was 5 1/2 cm in the beginning and now, its 1/2 a cm...yay!
I feel good though.
My 6 wk. post partum visit is this friday.
I also have a derm. appt. this thursday...been having this crazy itchy rash across my low stomach and hips and tops of breasts. I have no idea what it is but it feels like poison ivy.
Even Benedryl and hydrocortisone cream does very little. Anyone else hear of this or have this?
I see y'all are discussing baby wearing...I feel happy that Jasper likes being carried b/c I can't lift our heavy-assed car seat. Its a Peg Perego and is a ton o bricks. I am only supposed to carry the weight of the baby for now anyway.
We have an Ergo (for my DH) with infant insert, a Zolowear ring sling (Jasper is not too fond of the sling style it seems), a Moby-like wrap (he loves this! I think its worth it to learn how to get the baby settled in this b/c they will sleep for 2-3 hours in this. Jasper went to the movies with me- we saw Twilight at the Mommy & Me screening last week- and he slept in the wrap on me for 3 hours w/o a peep!) and I just got a Kozy Mei Tai he loves as well.
Here is him in the meitai...
I will try to come by more often. I missed you all.
Here are my favorite newer snaps of him...
He is such an expressive little boy. He loves to "read" his black and white board books, has such focus and when we say " I love you" to him, he tries to say something back that sounds like mutterings but is 3 syllables! He smiles so big when I sing to him too. Awww. Makes all of it worth it.