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Edited by oiseau - 9/28/13 at 5:58am
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Congrats Patriona, I hope all goes well.

Sage - I really hope your talk works out. It's hard sometimes to get communication going properly in a new relationship.

Meanwhile I'm feeling really really tired lately. I had a hard long weekend. My friend's mother passed away last Wednesday so I spent the past few days with her, being supportive and such. It was pretty draining and I haven't caught up on my sleep yet.

And everyone's having babies!!!!! This summer quite a few important men in my life are having babies with their partners. My brother, a close friend from High School and a friend of my df's who I'm pretty close with are all having babies within three months of each other and it's both exciting and frustrating. All three of these men are people who want babies very much and will be amazing fathers. But #)*$# I want a baby! And I'm frustrated at the road block that's keeping me from even hoping right now. I don't buy baby books. I don't look at baby websites, I even try not to look at baby centred threads on MDC because it makes me too sad. I should be looking at the bright side. I get to be an aunt and an auntie to several more babies this year and that will help inform my parenting eventually.
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so i was wondering is anyones DH/DP younger than them and by how much and how old were you when you met?
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Originally Posted by ladyinred View Post
And everyone's having babies!!!!! This summer quite a few important men in my life are having babies with their partners. My brother, a close friend from High School and a friend of my df's who I'm pretty close with are all having babies within three months of each other and it's both exciting and frustrating. All three of these men are people who want babies very much and will be amazing fathers. But #)*$# I want a baby! And I'm frustrated at the road block that's keeping me from even hoping right now. I don't buy baby books. I don't look at baby websites, I even try not to look at baby centred threads on MDC because it makes me too sad. I should be looking at the bright side. I get to be an aunt and an auntie to several more babies this year and that will help inform my parenting eventually.
I can relate! Last year I was scrimping and saving and trying to find a way to TTC and everyone around me started getting pregnant! Two online friends got pregnant by accident, one of my old school friends AND my cousins wife, all pregnant at once. I was happy for all of them, but I was still upset because I wanted a baby. It will be a good practice for you, I haven't been around a baby since 2005, I'm afraid I wouldn't know how to look after my own baby anymore!
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Yeah, I hear ya! I'm the oldest girl grandchild my older male cousin had a child 2 or 3 years ago...they are pregnant again and one of my younger cousins (that I happen to share my birthday with) is pregnant for the first time. My BFF is thinking about getting knocked up soon.

I have another freakin' sinus infection. I think I threw up so hard on Monday night that I lodged some emesis in my sinus cavity. NICE. Gross. Been sick all week and not sleeping well. Grrrr. Hates it hobbits.

My DH is almost exactly 6 months younger than I am.

Today's 6 word bio: Can't breathe I just want sleep.



Jenne
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Todays 6 word bio: Going slowly, cautiously optimistic, now communicating.

I had that big talk with my boy last night. It went pretty well. I think I clearly communicated that life is easier when people communicate and he made it clear that he wants to move slowly which is good with me. He appologized for bailing on me on valentines day, and said he was freaked out because it was valentines day and he didnt know how seriously I took that... Anyways I told him that he was being an idiot and that if he had of just communicated with me then none of that would have been a problem.
So we are now going slowly, I am cautiously optimistic, and he is (hopefullly) now communicating.
We'll see.
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6-word bio: Want to knit, stuck at work.
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I haven't been paying enough attention, I guess... but I like the 6-word bio thing... So: Hungry and unproductive, going for food. :

(Maybe once I've got more time later tonight, I'll actually say more...)
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6 word bio (inspired by JessicaRenee): Got to knit at work today.

DP is a year and a half younger than me. We were 14 and 16 when we met (I had just turned 16).

On Monday we had our first consultation at the AI clinic we'll be using. It's all pretty stressful though. We have lots of options, some very expensive. It's easy to get carried away really quickly when you want.babies.now.

We've also spent the last 3 days of our 'vacation' time from work reorganizing our basement. Currently everything we own is spread out throughout our house, waiting to be sorted and put in containers. It's a good mess...or something.

Sorry to hear you're sick, Jenne! Sage - cautious optimism is good. These days, I'm cautiously optimistic about everything.
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Hello! I am new, as in today, to this forum. And as focused as I am on babies I have none of my own. I am holding off on the kids until I am done with my education and my partner and I are financially ready. I am going to be starting midwife school in the fall so I have atleast three more years to wait!

I am an obsesive knitter, and I see I am not the only one in this group. I also do lots of other art forms including mask making and plaster molds. I am very into natual and holistic health practices. I am tattooed and have purple hair. I am queer and poly, my girlfriend is first in the baby line so I will get my fix that way until it is my turn. I love learning about parenting as well as birth practices, I am going to be a midwife after all!

It is great to meet you all. I hope to make friends and learn in the process.
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6 word bio for the day: Teaching Grade Four starting on Monday!!!!!!!

I had kind of a rough day teaching today. I've been in this class before and I knew they were a bit rough but they were worse than usual today. I was feeling pretty blah about it but I'm also very used to rough substitute teaching days. Then after I sent the kids to gym I got a message on my phone from the school district office. I called them back and lo and behold, my first long term substitute job! I start Monday and it goes until April, not sure when exactly, I'll get the details tomorrow unless we have storm day (we're in the middle of ANOTHER huge blizzard). So this means no more waiting for early morning calls for at least a month and being further up the seniority ladder which means I'm more likely to get a contract in the fall which means.... I may be able to start trying to have babies in 2010!!!::: Which Df agreed to :::

Welcome geometricdune! I hope you really enjoy it here. There seem to be a lot of people who are planning to become or are already dulas and midwives. It seems like such a wonderful life path, not mine but I really respect people who choose it. Maybe as my second career after I retire from teaching.

Hope you're feeling better soon Jenne!

Glad the communicating's going well Sage. Valentine's day can be really threatening to some people.

Df is older, 6 years older. I only ever dated a few people who were younger than me and I think I prefer older
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Thread Starter 
Ah! So much!

Welcome to our new member!

For all who are currently TTC, I'm sending so much luck and love your way.

Jess, how are things? (and by things I mean baby )

Shaina, Chris is 3 years older but my roommate's boyfriend is is 3 years younger (19 & 22 when they started dating).

I got the nannying job!! I start Monday. My schedule is officially going to be insane. 20 hrs a week at my retail job, about 30 nannying + school. But I'm so psyched to hang out with a 3mo all day!

6 word bio: Hoping to be more in control

I have been slacking lately. I am like miss procrastinator deluxe and it has really caught up with me.
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Thanks for the well wishes and healthy vibes y'all. I appreciate it. Still sick. Last night was like a huge comedy of errors (luckily comedy and not tragedy!) I was so sleep deprived ( I cannot sleep whilst trying to breathe through my mouth) and DH and I agreed that taking the narcotic liquid goo would help me sleep. Instead of getting up and getting a TEASPOON I took a little sip from the bottle. DH says, "That was way more than a teaspoon!" I looked and he was right. Then we looked on the internet for info on overdosing. Then I made myself throw up. Then we called the pharmacist who was concerned but said I didn't need to go to the ER. Then I fell out with hallucinations and the like not sleeping but unable to open my eyes. Yeah. It was fun. My face is all puffy, my lips are cracked and bleeding on the inside. I am just not cut out for illicit or licit (ha!) drug use. The last thing I said to DH before being unable to open my eyes was, "Don't let me die." Then I had a hallucination that my sweet, sweet, timid dog attacked him. Luckily there was no blood. I said to DH, "Are you okay?" He said, "Yeah, I'm fine." Then the dog smiled at me and had tracers...and I thought, this isn't real and it's going to be a long night. The dog was in the living room. Sigh...

So now I am timid about taking anything so I haven't had any mucinex yet although I am dry as a bone. This stinks.

6 word bio today: Not designed for drugs. Too sensitive.

Let's see...randomly (sorry) congrats on the new sub position and new nanny job. Hope the boy steps up and treats you right concerning communication. How's the baby? What's it feel like to be pregnant right now? Welcome!

Okay, must put this away for now...

Happy Friday y'all!
Jenne
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ARGH MDC ate my post. Anywho, baby's doing well and being nice to me! No more morning sickness or intense cravings for junk food (err, not as often anyway...hehe) so now I'm actually able to be productive and do dishes and make dinner. I just got a new job 1/2 a mile from our apartment so I think walking to & from work and getting the extra fresh air has helped a lot.

Happy Friday everyone!

ETA - We've also been thinking of names and we're thinking either Julia or Eowyn. Chris insists it's going to be a girl so we haven't talked about boy names.
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So I found out yesterday that I'll have to be referred by my doctor if I want to use bank sperm. I'm kind of worried about trying to convince someone who has been helping me lately with some mental health issues that I'm in a good place to have a child.
But first of course, I'll have to save up enough money to keep me going for a few cycles, at $900+ a cycle, it's not cheap, but it's the best option at the moment .
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Hello from Fredericksburg, VA!

I think I found the right place! :

I've been lurking on MDC for quite a while and decided I should introduce myself.

I'm in the midst of crazy baby fever right now. I have two furbabies, but no human babies. My baby lust has come on hard-core since FH and I got engaged. We're moving in together in May, having a civil ceremony in mid-May, and then a vow renewal and reception in October.

I'm also trying to get into graduate school. *crosses fingers* I'm just waiting to hear back from the schools I applied to.

I've been reading everything I can get my hands on about pregnancy, childbirth, and parenting. For some reason, I'm drawn to AP and can't stay away from MDC or various LJ communities.

As you'll notice in my signature, FH and I are three years from TTC. Of course, that all hinges on whether I can get into graduate school. School will take about two years and then I want to get a full-time job with benefits because I'm working two part-time jobs with no benefits right now.

I'm 27 now, which really doesn't bother me. I figured I'd have kids at some point; I never had a exact age in mind. I wouldn't mind having my first baby at thirty as long as my fertility is good to go. I'm already having problems with stress incontinence and ovarian cysts, but I feel like I'm okay.

Of course, with that being said, I know babies come any time they please, which is just fine with FH and me. We'll be preventing for now, but surprises will be welcomed with open arms and loving hearts!

Whew! I think that's it for now. Nice to meet everyone!
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Hi everyone!

I'm new here, but not new to the world of babymania and ttc. I live in Iowa & have a small menagerie. I'm a 27 year old nanny, student, wife, vegan, environmentalist, animal lover & home birth activist. I'm planning on becoming a postpartum doula and lactation consultant. I love working with mamas and babies & can think of nothing more rewarding than helping a mother nourish & bond with her new babe. Also, I think boobs are awesome

DH and I started ttc 5 years ago and still no dice. We recently visited the RE and, as long his semen analysis comes back normal, we will be starting clomiphene in April. I'm incredibly excited & I'm think 2009 is finally going to be our year.

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Welcome ladies! So glad you found us!

rroso there is a good thread on boosting fertility naturally in the infertility thread. If you haven't already checked it out, you might want to. I learned, for example, that soy isoflavonoids can act simliarly to clomid. In case you didn't want to wait for results.

Hope everyone is doing well. I'm finally feeling a little bit better.

Jenne
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May I join in?

I've posted to some other boards on here, but I saw this thread and it looks like the place for me. I'm here mostly to learn. We may TTC sometime next year ... considered doing it this year, but we're in the process of buying a house at the moment. Taking out that mortgage is its own form of birth control, KWIM?

I'm also on my first cycle off the pill, so I guess you could also say I'm CTA, though I don't quite have the hang of it yet!

I have a lot on my mind lately about babies and motherhood, but I'll reserve those discussions for later. I've been obsessed with babies, and with what I'll call the culture of motherhood, for about 3-4 years now. Can't quite explain it. It started not with babylust, but with looking at moms my age with amazement, just wondering how they manage to do it. Wondering if I could do it someday, and when the desire for a baby would finally hit.

Now the majority of my closest friends are married, and many have at least one baby as well as plans for another. I guess I'm finally at that point in my life, socially, psychologically and financially, where I can also say I'm ready. That realization in itself was an awesome experience.

I may be in the minority here ... I am entering my 30s, and I am actually ready for a baby *earlier* than I had anticipated. I'm really involved in my career and professional activities, so I had always thought I'd want to wait until my late 30s to start having kids. Guess I thought wrong! :
post #260 of 499
hey everyone!

i've been MIA but still lurking.

congrats to all the new mommas to be! and welcome to everyone that recently joined.

well, dh and i have pushed back ttc for a couple of months. this semester has been so busy for me (i have a paper due in apr for my class), and we are going out of town for a wedding, and then dh has a few business trips in the months of mar-apr. so we've decided to wait until about june. dh also wants us to pay off our car (which should be in about 3 mos), so pushing it back seems best for now.

i just wish i could feel 100% ready, but i guess no one really is...
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