Seie wow your guy sounds great! You sound so happy, im glad things are going so well over there!
LoveOhm, try not to worry too much about the roommate, he's not the one you're dating afterall. Finding out he has a daughter must have been quite a shock. -I have those same concerns about a physical relationship, how to make it clear you don't want to jump into that?
I just talked to my guy on the phone, we were going to meet up tomorrow morning, but he has a friend staying today and overnight, so he has cancelled and said can we just meet up on thursday instead, so that's what we're doing and going to the cinema on that day. -He also wants to go out to eat either before or after the movie, im really shy about eating infront of people...and im not sure I want to do it yet, so I might just say lets go to the cinema only.
3 things happened on the phone call that I didn't really like. First he told me to check online for what's on at the cinema, to figure out what time we need to leave, get there, etc, and to pick the movie -he told me his movie type preferences but said I can choose. -I don't know if it's good that im the one organising it all, or if we could have done it together, but he is busy with work stuff so I guess that's just me being silly. -It just seemed a bit like he didnt care.
The second thing....
: he brought up that he wants to show me a picture of his ex girlfriend.....why?! I know im going to be very intimidated by her, I don't want to see. Then he said he hoped I didn't get offended or feel weird about him wanting to show me her, so he knows it's wrong to do that....but maybe it's in his culture? He said "I know some people get weird about talking about someones ex and seeing their picture, but I want us to share things." -Which I guess is kinda nice really.
The third thing, the main thing, was that he said he wants to see me dance someday. I was like "huh?' He said "yeah I will put on the music channel on tv and I want you to dance" I said no im not doing that, and he was like "I like my girlfriend to dance for me" -and I said "well I dont dance for people, sorry"....I guess it was okay for him to ask, how was he supposed to know I wouldn't want to? Im sure plenty of women dance for their boyfriends, but im not one of them, im way too shy for that stuff. If he brings it up again, im not going to be happy because it will be like hes trying to pressure me.
There were a lot of awkward silences on the phone, I still don't know if this whole thing is right...he asked me how I felt things are going between us as he thinks its going really good, and I told him I feel like we barely know eachother and need to spend more time together which he agreed to but he has so many hours working that we can't.
Oh yeah he also put pressure on me to find a babysitter to look after DS so we can go out on his day off (sundays) and I said im not willing to do that yet. I explained once we are closer I will, but we barely know eachother right now so I don't want to.
I know you'll probably think I should end it right now and everything, I just wanted to vent to someone because that conversation wasn't very pleasant
I really don't even want to go out anywhere with him after that.