The December Infertility ONE Thread - Page 2

[hapi2help]

Howdy All!

I was making my decision last month after I posted my intro and we have decided to clear my tubes with a lap. The Dr will not call me a great candidate and wants me to go into the surgery knowing that it may not work requiring us to go the IVF route. Surgery will be in Jan.

As I stated in my intro, insurance covers the surgery. I feel like its a good route to take and I understand the risks, etc. I will let you all know when my surgery date is as I know I will have questions prior to.

I feel like I am in really good hands with my Dr and lucky that I have such a renowned one near-by.

[wtg4miracle]

Daisymae08--lol cottage cheese. thanks for letting me know what I should expect. Yikes the things we do.

needle in the hay--gl with the iui. I am also a newbie to this IUI. So they are giving you 36 hrs from trigger shot to the IUI? I am learning as much as I can here. Did you give yourself the shot yet?

nummies--wow, that is great his morphs are better. This is good news. At least he is not getting worse and I think you have a great chance this month.

libbylou--gl with the lap and I know how its a relief to let others know what you are going through.

momtoalexis--I hope the next iui will be it for u. Its upsetting to see that someone has to do ivf when there is no big issues going on.

Bellybean--are you being seen by an RE or ob/gyn

hello to everyone here who I forgot. Its hard to keep up at times.

[by-the-lake]

Nummies- WOW! Great numbers! How many follies did you have?

[MOMTOALEXIS]

LIBBYLOU-I know exactly how u feel about the parent situation. We just told our parents in the last month after 15months also. I was so relieved to get it all out and they offered all there support and love and were crying so much. They had some idea since we've been married 2 1/2 and nothing still. But suprisingly they have never asked us through all these months when we r gonna have a baby, which helped a lot, I already hear it from evryone else who doesn't even know what we r going through. A lot of people have made some comments as if I were selfish cause I already have a daughter and DH has none. They think my daughter is 10 y/o and I just don't feel like starting over. As if they could only know. Just have to ignore I guess and continue with what we are doing. Thanks for updating me also.


Wtg- Thanks for thinking of me. I also hope this will be it, I'm glad we are both healthy but sometimes I wish they could find a problem so we could fix it. Sounds strange to think that way but I think about everything now a days.

Hello to everyone else. It's cold here in NY today:

[BellyBean]

DaisyMae, wow, that is amazing you got 7 follies off of 100mg of clomid. They wont raise my dosage cause they stop once you are ovulating at my doctor...but the more follies the better! I really hope this is your month, sounds like everything was as good as it could be!

Sometimes I am really good at holding off on the testing, but last month after my IUI I really thought it was it so I started at 8dpo. I know, way too early. I haven't decided if I am going to continue my temperature charting for the remainder of the month because last month I started loosing sleep obsessing over what my temp would be in the morning. It was horrible, I was lucky to make it to 3:30 am.

Wtg4miracle, I go to an obgyn. If this IUI doesn't work we are going to start talking to a RE so we can start IVF next year (after the next IUI/#3). Our insurance covers 50% at our obgyn, but 0% if we go "outside" our network. It is so much more affordable to stay with the doctor, but I wish I had all the monitoring that RE's do.

[BellyBean]

LibbyLou, could you please add me to the Trying to Conceive List? Thanks! and thanks for starting this tread for all of us!

TTC#1 - 1 year, ovulation and MF issues, 4 clomid cycles, last 2 with IUI

[Needle in the Hay]

Originally Posted by wtg4miracle

needle in the hay--gl with the iui. I am also a newbie to this IUI. So they are giving you 36 hrs from trigger shot to the IUI? I am learning as much as I can here. Did you give yourself the shot yet?

Thanks!
My dr. said she likes to do the IUI 36 hrs after the trigger shot and from what I've read online, that seems to be typical, though some drs. do it a few hours earlier or later.
The shot went fine. I was a little nervous about giving myself a shot in the abdomen, but it was easy and didn't hurt a bit.

[nummies]

Thanks wtg and naturalmom! I know I was so shocked! Now if I could just hold off from POASing...

needleinthehay- Glad your trigger shot wasn't that bad. When is your IUI?

[crystal-mommy]

10dpo for me (i think) my back is hurting, pretty sure AF should be here in 3 or 4 days. I was secretly hoping going off of everything would be the "trick" we needed. Just pretty much disgusted w/ everything in general right now. I have to work tonight and tomorrow night and then going to my mom's for the weekend. I love my family but they drive me crazy, I am sure I will be ready to come home by 8am on Saturday! My DH's friend has been visiting since Sunday, and I haven't even got to see DH for more than 10 minutes @ a time. His friend prolly thinks I am the biggest b*tch in the whole world. Just not having a very good week!!

[nummies]

Originally Posted by crystal-mommy

10dpo for me (i think) my back is hurting, pretty sure AF should be here in 3 or 4 days. I was secretly hoping going off of everything would be the "trick" we needed. Just pretty much disgusted w/ everything in general right now. I have to work tonight and tomorrow night and then going to my mom's for the weekend. I love my family but they drive me crazy, I am sure I will be ready to come home by 8am on Saturday! My DH's friend has been visiting since Sunday, and I haven't even got to see DH for more than 10 minutes @ a time. His friend prolly thinks I am the biggest b*tch in the whole world. Just not having a very good week!!

[DaisyMae08]

Originally Posted by Needle in the Hay

Thanks!
My dr. said she likes to do the IUI 36 hrs after the trigger shot and from what I've read online, that seems to be typical, though some drs. do it a few hours earlier or later.
The shot went fine. I was a little nervous about giving myself a shot in the abdomen, but it was easy and didn't hurt a bit.

Just to give an idea of how different clinics do it, mine does two IUIs. The first is 12 hours after the trigger, and the second is 36 hours after the trigger (so 24 hrs. after the first IUI). We do the trigger at night and then go in the next two mornings for IUI. I think 36 is pretty common.

[by-the-lake]

Just chiming in that my clinic does 36-42 after trigger. However, I schedule things 36 hours later because 42 seems too long!

[MOMTOALEXIS]

CRYSTAL-

Hang in there, maybe AF won't show. AF showed for me today, even though I felt it coming I still had that small chance of hope. The tears just started flowing as soon as I went to the bathroom. Everything seems so unfair.

[wtg4miracle]

crystal-mommy and momtoalexsis--

needle in hay, gl with the IUI and happy that your shot was not that bad.

You know I wish dh can do back to back IUI. I am lucky to even get one day out of him. Very stressful for us. He has such a hard time performing. He is already worried that he will not be able to do this once I am good and ready. I told him about 2-3 weeks I will be o'ing. He ask all the time so he can be mentally ready. I think alot of our problem is that he can't dtd the for 2 days in a row. He has to wait 3-4 days to build up his stamina. He claims that he is not young anymore. His doc will not prescribe anything, his doc thinks I am putting to much pressure on him. Hmm asking a man to have sex daily for a few days in a row is to much I really don't know what to do with this issue.

[DaisyMae08]

I think most men should be able to dtd at least two days in a row. Maybe ask another doctor? Or the RE?

I hate to admit this, but before we saw the RE we were using the CBFM. We always dtd on the high and peak days. Well, one month I had 13 high days in a row. My poor DH. Every day for 13 days he somehow was able to perform. I finally told him I was all done. I couldn't take it anymore and I didn't think the monitor could possibly be right. He looked at me and said "Oh, thank god!" Too funny. This whole thing has been quite the experience.

[wtg4miracle]

Thanks DaisyMae for responding. Yes, I will ask the RE about this. Maybe he can help or give us suggestions. To me this is not normal. Its causing alot of strain on us. I don't think its anything physical, I think its more mental. I need to work on this issue. I keep telling him that alot of couples dtd alot inorder to get pregnant and he just shrugs it off like its no big deal. His SA is good but this mental thing of anxiety performance is driving me crazy. I get so jealous when others can dtd all the time with no problems. Nothing against anyone, its just not natural right now to have to wait 3-4 days buildup. Thats how he says it.

[by-the-lake]

MOMTOALEXIS- Much hugs. AF is a b%#$^! Have a good cry and be good to yourself

Crystalmommy- Its not over till AF is here. I was sure with my DD AF was coming, and it never did. Lots of women have AF sx. Keep fingers crossed.

Wgt- OK, now how come your DH doc says you are putting too much pressure on him? How about, 'infertility puts pressure on everyone. Suck it up and take it.' Women sure do. Sorry, but asking him to DTD for 2 days in a row isn't too much. That doc needs a kick in the rear. Hope I don't sound overly negative but sheesh!!!

[christophersmom]

Not able to keep up with thread right now, But an update on us, we are on Day 5 of stims.

[MOMTOALEXIS]

WTG- I agree with everyone else, maybe you guys should talk to another doc. My Dh thinks I want it too much, 4 times a week is good for me, even before we were trying to conceive, he complains he's tired but he sucks it up. Have you guys tried everything, there are lots of good movies that do the trick for mine.lol.

Thanks for the hugs and support, you guys are all the best.

[BellyBean]

Wtg, I completely understand what you are going through. Once my DH and I started TTC, the anxiety became too much for him! We were having a lot of problems so he went to the dr. and got a prescription. It helps 99% of the time, so it has made everything much better for us. He was really getting discouraged and that only made things worse, it just kept compounding. My DH isn't that old, it's just all in his head. We haven't been successful at dtd the night of the IUI, but we always give it a try...