you're right...even though he's with people he's known his entire life, he doesn't understand. Here's an example. He was with his breeder while we visited MN, and she ended up keeping him for a couple of weeks so she could show him. I was planning to pick him up the Friday before we moved so he could go with us. At this point I knew NOTHING about them planning to special him. So Friday night, I drove 2 hours to his breeder's house to get him. I arrived in the evening, and THAT was when they told me they wanted to special him. No phone calls ahead of time to let me think it over. They knew I have a family that loves him, but they gave me no opportunity to talk it over with them first. So here I am, busy and distracted with a big move, wanting to pick up my dog who I haven't seen in a month, and she is begging me to let her special him (not his breeder, his breeder's daughter who is.......interesting.)...I told her if I left him there my husband would literally MURDER me. Not to mention my boys, who missed their dog terribly. Finally I told her that I needed to take him with me, at least on the move, and we could reevaluate then whether I wanted to special him or not.
So she says that's fine with her, but that she's already entered him in a 3 day show in OK, and she would hate for Austin to ride in a moving truck for 1700 miles, then have to turn around and fly back to AZ and then drive to OK all in a matter of days. So I said, let me take him home, talk it over with my family, and I'll let you know.
So he came home Friday night. We spent all day Saturday cleaning and packing, while I agonized about what to do. I wanted to special him...I always knew that might be a possibility with him from the day I got him, and honestly,that's part of the reason I got a show dog in the first place. But on the other hand, I missed him. My kdis missed him, and my husband was PISSED at me for even considering it. And also, I really didn't want to stress the dog any more by schlepping him all over creation.
So I called her Saturday night and told her she could come get him Sunday morning before we left. I've been kicking myself ever since. Oh, btw, the "sponsor" was her boyfriend, who strung us all along, telling me and Austin's breeder that his "money" was coming "any day"...he told me that Friday in Scottsdale that it would be available the following Wednesday, and here we are 5 weeks later, and he still doesn't have it.
You know, writing all of that down pisses me off even more. My husband has been suspicious of the breeder's daughter for months...thinking she wants to keep Austin, and that's why she's been incommunicado. I argued with him, but now I'm beginning to think he may be right...not that his breeder would ever allow it (or me for that matter)...but I think I'll call today and get a hammered down date for his flight and a confirmation number.