Uh...hardly the case that the dog thinks it's above the child (at least not in every case, we have no indicators of this behavior from the dog). In fact, this is a situation where the dog perceives the child as being pushy by not backing out of the dog's space.
I have a husky\wolf hybrid. He's never been nasty with my kids, my kids are rough with him, not even a warning from him towards them. That dingo stole my baby is a generalization and stereotype. It's not the breed, all dogs have this behavior and instinct.
I agree with all of Catubodua's recommendations. It's about how we act around the dog (including our children) and not the other way around. Why would any one isolate the dog within it's own territory? This is punishing the dog for a perceived possible outcome that probably wouldn't happen. What exactly led up to the warning toward the child? We weren't given that information in full details. A lap dog can be as vicious an attacker as a hybrid or larger breed of dog. It's not the breed at all. The two individuals that would suffer most are the victim and the dog - all for what comes naturally to a dog as instinct. I don't think it's very fair to label the dog a problem dog for what comes naturally.
It's a good read and well worth it to understanding why what happened at thansgiving did happen and why it may happen.
I agree that it is not fair to label the dog for acting naturally.
What led up to the snap, that did not touch, is my son following it aroung and trying to pet it near the tail. It was Thanksgiving in a crowded room. We left shortly after.
We are not staying at DB's house. I think a muzzle is a good idea, and trying to convince him to keep the dog in the bedroom while we are there.
I will also send this thread to him to give him insight to more moms, letting him know I am not alone.
I would like to say more, but am so busy.
Thanks for all the input.