Holidays - staying in, going out ??? - Page 2

[sarahmagoo]

Normally we drive 3 hours to where my parents and IL's live. This year, we're staying home. We'll have dinner at my aunt's house who lives in the same city as us. IL's will be coming the weekend before Christmas, and my parents will probably come the week after Christmas. I joked that it will be for a "birthing party."

[bigeyes]

Dh's work has a nice company party we all go to with a fancy buffet. If we're flush, we stay in the hotel and have breakfast out the following day, shop, etc. If we're not, we don't have any drinks and we go home afterwards instead. (everyone's professional drivers, so we don't take any chances with DUIs, not even one alcoholic drink.)

If we're really flush, we also spend a night in one of the local resorts and do a luau during the holidays. Then we spend Christmas at home, whichever day we actually get to celebrate. Sometimes he ends up working on Christmas day so we have our family Christmas the day before or after. One year we opened presents very early when he got called in unexpectedly at 5AM.

All our extended family is on the mainland, so no worries about traveling, rushing, hassles, etc.

For New Year's we'll fix fancy food and stay in. As an ex-bartender I'll always consider it amateur night, and drunk driving is such a problem here you couldn't pay me to leave the house that night. Especially after my dh's flying car stunt while stone cold sober on our treacherous roads. : No thanks.

ETA- I just realized this is your ddc, I was in new posts

[romamama]

Ever since we started dating we have done holidays just us. And this year I have had to really work to keep it that way. Since DH and I's parents are all divorced, no one can be trusted to be sober or hospitable. The love triangle's are impossible to explain. DH's SIL will come over on Christmas for dinner with her fiance which is always pleasent as they are around the same age as us and they are really fun to play board games with.

[EBeth0000]

Originally Posted by moodyred01

I wish we could get out of going to dh's family's as it will likely be uncomfortable for me there with a brand new babe. I don't mind going to my parent's because it's like my home away from home. Unfortunately we will likely have to go to both. We all live in close proximity.

Wouldn't want to hurt anyone's feelings.

*Sigh* I am in the same boat. Both sets of parents and two in-law families all within 30 min. drive.

IF the baby arrives by EDD, I would LOVE to go to my parents' house for festivities because they will wait on me hand and foot, let me nurse my baby with abandon, and won't care what I look like.

On the other hand, there is no way I can do that and explain why we won't go to DHs family (also in town) for their traditional get-together. It's too bad "it's my family and I need my mommy right now" isn't a valid excuse for a 30 year old woman, but that's the truth!

[bmcneal]

As of right now, we will be staying in, just DH, DD, and I (and this LO, if he decides to come early.) We are in talks with my MIL to see if she can come before Christmas and spend it with us, but it depends on if her boyfriend lets her. If she does come, we will still be staying in, but I'll try and pry myself out of bed/off the couch to make a nice dinner or something. His mom can't cook very well, unless it's spaghetti (DH is kind of hoping she'll use her obsession with cleaning to help around the house after LO is born and I'm not arguing.) We don't really talk to my family, but my mom might call and tell us Merry Christmas and ask if we've had the baby yet.

[jenniferadurham]

Originally Posted by EBeth0000

It's too bad "it's my family and I need my mommy right now" isn't a valid excuse for a 30 year old woman, but that's the truth!

TOTALLY valid excuse. I see no better one than that. You can NEVER be "too old" to want your mommy.

[Gale Force]

My mom lives on the property and we do expect my sister and her husband and my uncle and aunt around Christmas. Depending on how things are going, I would have no issue with canceling and they would not take offense. If they do come, no one would expect me to cater to them. In fact, I expect I'd be pretty well cared for.

Amanda

[hollycat]

Originally Posted by moodyred01

I wish we could get out of going to dh's family's as it will likely be uncomfortable for me there with a brand new babe. I don't mind going to my parent's because it's like my home away from home. Unfortunately we will likely have to go to both. We all live in close proximity.

Wouldn't want to hurt anyone's feelings.

what about YOUR feelings? ((((hugs)))))

[hollycat]

Originally Posted by jenniferadurham

TOTALLY valid excuse. I see no better one than that. You can NEVER be "too old" to want your mommy.

lovely women, if days after childbirth isnt enough of a reason (and you absolutely do not ever need a single reason) to put your own desires first, i have no idea what is.

and if thats not enough of a reason for grandparents and all others to INSIST you put your own desires first, id say its time to retrain those relationships.