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post #21 of 31
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Originally Posted by junipermoon View Post
my suggestion would be to take the baby to bed for a mommy-baby holiday. bring a bottle but relax and work on your latch--eight weeks seems early to give up on feeding at the breast--esp if baby is not napping/relaxing well. no pressure, just offer breast for licking, cuddling, and m-a-y-b-e, if she wants to, latching. bring books to read her, read her your own favorite grownup books, walk aroung the room and sing to her, lay her out and practice offering soft, less stimulating smiles and conversation. have no expectations--just enjoy her smallness and work with your frustrations by offering yourself much deserved empathy--after a few days of bedroom holidays you and she miight feel better, naps or not--this has always been my experience, fwiw.
I don't want to hijack the thread, but thank you so much for this. My Baby Girl is relatively easy, but she and I could definitely use a bedroom holiday. I think a lot of mamas are feeling like we need to "accomplish" too much, myself included.
post #22 of 31
One piece of advice my midwife gave me which (touch wood) seems to have helped a bit with sleep is to eat more at night otherwise the milk you produce won't contain enough calories. (I presume you're pumping throughout the night?) I was eating a meal early evening then nothing until morning - come the wee hours she'd feed but she wouldn't be satisfied and wouldn't sleep at all for hours on end.

I now have a drawer full of snacks in the bedroom so I can eat something every time I feed. Other than when she cluster feeds it does seem to have helped.

But I only have a newborn so feel free to ignore my advice as I could well be talking sleep deprived bollocks.
post #23 of 31
Sorry to go offtrack a bit, but I see quite a few of you mentioend BW'ing for naps for the first 6 months. I'm curious, what happened after 6 months?
How did you get them to sleep for naps then?

also, with all this BW'ing during the day did you find baby slept better at night or was that all over the place.
post #24 of 31
My son only catnapped (20 minute spurts) until he was a lot more active (8-9mo) and he only started taking two solid, hour-long naps well after he started crawling (10.5mo). Now he takes one nap a day, anywhere from 1.5-3 hours.

In order to help him rest for the first year, we went on many, many long walks where he rode in the ring sling and then the Ergo. The housework can wait. They're only little for such a short period of time.

We walked everywhere. Downtown, the library, coffeeshop to coffeeshop, local art exhibits, parks, the mall. We nursed when he was hungry and walked when he was not.
post #25 of 31
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Well, I contacted the Moby wrap people. They said their wrap should fit me, but they also have an extra-long one that is 1/2 meter longer than the standard. So I ordered that one. Better safe than sorry. Plus, my husband who's larger and taller can probably wear the extra long one easier too. I'm excited to get the wrap! I tried to go for a walk with DD with the pouch today...it went well for about 2 minutes. Then she started screaming. But...she is sleeping right now and has been for about 30 minutes! I know, I get excited about the smallest things. I just know her. When she sleeps during the day, she sleeps better at night.

Her tummy is so bloated. I have cut out dairy from my diet. I don't eat much straight soy, but I know it's in everything, so I'm trying to eliminate that too.

After my nipples heal from thrush, I will let her try to nurse again. I plan on it. My nipples are incredibly painful right now, though. I pump on a very low setting and it hurts. When she tries to nurse, she clamps down and I can't take it right now. I have an LC and she said to wait until the thrush heals because it's pretty bad.

I'm still undecided about the acid reflux meds. I looked up Axid and it appears that, even though it's not approved for children younger than 12, it's commonly used in infants who cannot tolerate zantac. It's in the same drug class. I was wrong. I thought it was a proton pump inhibitor, but it's not. I guess I'm leaning toward trying the meds. She does get lots of hiccups and seems rather uncomfortable on her back. I can try it for a week. It can't hurt too much, I suppose. I hate the idea of giving her medicine that I'm not sure she needs, though. I know it's a shot in the dark. But if that is what half of her irritability is, she may get a lot of relief.

That's a good idea to go to a compounding pharmacy to get the zantac. The ped gastro doc thought it might be a reaction to the med, though, which caused her to vomit. So I'm afraid to try it again.

I am going to reread all these posts because they're really helpful. Thank you all so much. I don't feel like I'm going to lose my mind today.
post #26 of 31
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Originally Posted by neveryoumindthere View Post
Sorry to go offtrack a bit, but I see quite a few of you mentioend BW'ing for naps for the first 6 months. I'm curious, what happened after 6 months?
How did you get them to sleep for naps then?

also, with all this BW'ing during the day did you find baby slept better at night or was that all over the place.
I'm actually curious about these questions too.
post #27 of 31
I used a Bjorn for naps early on so babe could be completely upright - i tried a wrap but couldn't quite get the hang of it. For awake times around the house I use a tube sling now that he's older .

DS now naps in the swing - maybe I'm developing a bad habit but I also have a 2 YO at home so i can't entirely focus on baby's naps (now 6 months old). Naps are about 30 minutes, about 2 hours apart. I'm trying the No Cry Sleep Solution for better naps/sleeps but that is a topic for another thread!

Also this might be controversial to mention but i got the ok from the dr to put DS to sleep on his tummy at night - we use a cosleeper and also the angel care monitor at nighttime so i am ok with this myself. Reflux babies often find relief in this position (tummy time was good too). For about 6 weeks we had great stretches of night sleep (lots of sleep thrus even!), til the teeth started coming. Please check with your dr to see if it's ok in your situation.

Keep hanging in there!
post #28 of 31
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Originally Posted by srneda78 View Post
Well, I contacted the Moby wrap people. They said their wrap should fit me, but they also have an extra-long one that is 1/2 meter longer than the standard. So I ordered that one. Better safe than sorry. Plus, my husband who's larger and taller can probably wear the extra long one easier too. I'm excited to get the wrap!
Yay! If you have any questions or concerns when you get it, the babywearing forum here is really helpful. You can also check out http://www.thebabywearer.com/.

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Originally Posted by srneda78 View Post
I'm still undecided about the acid reflux meds. I looked up Axid and it appears that, even though it's not approved for children younger than 12, it's commonly used in infants who cannot tolerate zantac. It's in the same drug class. I was wrong. I thought it was a proton pump inhibitor, but it's not. I guess I'm leaning toward trying the meds. She does get lots of hiccups and seems rather uncomfortable on her back. I can try it for a week. It can't hurt too much, I suppose. I hate the idea of giving her medicine that I'm not sure she needs, though. I know it's a shot in the dark. But if that is what half of her irritability is, she may get a lot of relief.
I mentioned that I chose not to give the meds to my daughter, but that was a gut feeling on my part. I really didn't think she had serious reflux.

I think mothers have pretty good instincts and if your gut says give the meds a try, I think that might be the way to go.

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Originally Posted by neveryoumindthere View Post
Sorry to go offtrack a bit, but I see quite a few of you mentioend BW'ing for naps for the first 6 months. I'm curious, what happened after 6 months?
How did you get them to sleep for naps then?

also, with all this BW'ing during the day did you find baby slept better at night or was that all over the place.
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Originally Posted by srneda78 View Post
I'm actually curious about these questions too.
Although she was still pretty intense and easily overstimulated, my daughter started mellowing out around 6 months. She became easier to read and easier to soothe. I just experimented around with things and what ended up working for us was a little nap routine of getting into jammies and reading a book followed by nursing her in the glider in a completely dark room with soft music playing till she was asleep followed by putting her down on her tummy and turning on some white noise. My husband jokes that her room is like a sensory deprivation tank.

As to whether they sleep better at night, I'd say absolutely. My daughter was a champion night time sleeper. My son has taken a bit longer to settle in, but he is getting there.
post #29 of 31
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Originally Posted by neveryoumindthere View Post
Sorry to go offtrack a bit, but I see quite a few of you mentioend BW'ing for naps for the first 6 months. I'm curious, what happened after 6 months?
How did you get them to sleep for naps then?

also, with all this BW'ing during the day did you find baby slept better at night or was that all over the place.
I wear dd all of the time and she is almost 2 years old. If she gets really really fussy, i will through her in the car and go out and run errands and put ehr in the MT, and within minutes she is asleep. Or i will go on walks with her in the carrier if i need to. I pretty much plan my errands to her naps. Like she naps at about 2ish, so i leave to run my errands at 1ish, that way she can fall asleep either in the MT at the store or on the way home, and then i can transfer her to her crib once i get home and try to get a little bit of cleaning/napping/eating done until she wakes back up.

But i think that most kids once they learn how to fall asleep regularly after 6 month they will get the idea and fall asleep on their own (hopefully). If you get them on a regular schedule (meaning naps around the same time of day, meals, baths so on and so forth) the sleeping part is "supposed" to fall in line. With my dd is didn't until recently (but that is a whole other thread lol).
post #30 of 31

routine

My first babe was a piece of cake. we went everywhere, did what we wanted, she was a pro at nap on the go. When no.2 arrived a wrench was put in the works. He would only sleep if he was in his bed. He was only happy if we stuck to being at home and doing the same thing everyday.
Once I slowed down and listened to what he wanted and needed, things got much better. He is 6 months now and will nap in the car if need be, but he prefers his at home routine.
So I offer that up....it may not be anything you are eating or reflux. Slow down, stay at home, take care of yourself and your baby. (Of course, if it is possible for you to be home alot)
post #31 of 31
the real benefit of the moby wrap is being able to have her upright. supposedly, this sort of "hug carry" that you can do with a moby is great for tummy troubles of all sorts.

hawk never had tummy troubles, but he HATED being in any sort of reclining, sling-like hold. he'd squirm, fuss, and then if i didn't get him out fast enough, he'd *scream*. he's a 0-60 kind of guy. LOL

anyway, he loves to be in his wrap, and whenever he is fussy (usually due to over stimulation from the ILs!) i pop him in and go for a walk. he passes out in a few blocks, and i usually do 2 miles for good measure. after that, he'll sleep in there for quite a while.

there were a few nights where i was walking at night with him (thankfully, our neighborhood is very safe). i would have to walk a mile to settle him and then sleep with him ON my body (i could unwrap him, but i'd have to rock him and then lay on my back with him draped over my chest. it worked well for him.

also, i instituted weekly PJ days. each week, i spend a day in the old PJs with the baby. it's so great for us. we are busy folks and often out and about and he's quite the curious little trooper and great at it. BUT, it's nice to just be able to take a day. sometimes, my husband joins us (we do a sunday of movies, books, cuddles, and healthy raw foods (just cuz it's easier to deal with. make a big salad and share; eat fresh fruit. . .no cooking! weee!). but, if we're on the go for the weekend, monday is the day for the baby and i to completely recharge.

good luck with everything!
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