Due date come and gone - where is my baby?! Who else? - Page 2

[dsaucone]

I'm "due" tomorrow. But the u/s gave a date of 12/16. And accoding to me, I don't think my LMP was as early as 3/6. BUT, my doctor uses his head, not machines, and we all know how well a man's head works.

My daughter came at 38 weeks 6 days so I've been expecting a baby since then!

[applecider]

Originally Posted by Lemon Juice

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I went to a moms night out at a pottery place on Friday and the lady working was like "when are you due? last week?! :" Jerk : I then had to tell her I was only 38 weeks and she's like "oh, wow!" w/ this look like I'm the biggest whale on two feet who she couldn't imagine could get any larger :

Why not ask, when are you due? why the rude comment after that?! Is this okay in your mind to tell someone? and if so why, lady? Grrr...

Mamas aren't even due yet and we get the crap...who really needs that after your due date comes and goes?! Some people.

That is TOTALLY rude! She must have some unresolved issues to feel like she needs to be rude to people. And she's probably like that to everyone! I'm sorry Leslie!

[Julia2/7]

latest baby yet!

Hi, I am having my third and I had preterm labor with both of my other kids and I felt lucky to make it to 36 wks with my first and 38 with my second. My second at 38 wks was 9 pounds 6oz. I just had a feeling from the very begining of this pregnancy that this would be a November baby. I was hoping for the 28th (both of my boys were born on the 28th), but no luck. I even had tons of cts at 32 to 34 wks but now almost nothing. I have to admit, with my history I never CONSIDERED going overdue. I now have a seperated pubic bone and am really wondering how big this baby is going be. I am just trying to be patient but not being able to move is really making that hard. I can't go about life as usual and I am bored and in pain.

Sorry to complain but I really need to vent.

Julia

[Curlyfry7]

I'm only 38 weeks today, but am really struggling with patience right now. I truly want her to come when she's ready....but I want her to be ready within the next week, please and thank you!

I can't even complain too much- I am not suffering too badly, although of course I am tired of it by now. Heck, I even RAN several times at a dog competition this past weekend (and figured it wuld put me into labor-nope!)

I think part of my problem is that on all of the other boards I am on, EVERY SINGLE woman, even those who are due WEEKS after me, are having contractions, dilating, losing plugs, and going early. And for me, nada. Well, my MW's don't do internals, so I could be dilated some and not know it. I am trying to tell myself that my body just handles pregnancy so well.....(no criticism to those who are having signs, I'm just trying to boost myself up, ya know!) And with DS I really had nothing until the moment my water broke, so it's not like I should be expecting anything. I think I just thought I'd be more aware of things this time around.

And my more real concern is my DH's paternity leave and how going after my EDD (12/24) or even worse getting into 2009, will mess everything up- they are not being very nice about things right now.

I am OK not going this week, but after this weekend I think I will be VERY grumpy about it. Come on, full moon!

[brandyk]

Originally Posted by Curlyfry7

I think part of my problem is that on all of the other boards I am on, EVERY SINGLE woman, even those who are due WEEKS after me, are having contractions, dilating, losing plugs, and going early. And for me, nada. Well, my MW's don't do internals, so I could be dilated some and not know it. I am trying to tell myself that my body just handles pregnancy so well.....(no criticism to those who are having signs, I'm just trying to boost myself up, ya know!) And with DS I really had nothing until the moment my water broke, so it's not like I should be expecting anything. I think I just thought I'd be more aware of things this time around.

I'm 40w3d and facing an induction b/c of GD. I feel your anger. i've had BH. that's it. just a few. woo. i can't get squat going with any of the natural techniques. as i said in the chat thread, i am getting super bitter about everyone going early when i haven't and we really need me to go into labor NOW.

[applecider]

I had my 40 week MW appointment yesterday. They scheduled me for a NST and ultrasound on Tuesday if I haven't gone by then. I made it through this whole pg with no tests or ultrasounds and it comes down to this? My thoughts are that I've been sick with some kind of stomach bug these last few days so that's why my body hasn't gone into labor yet. I'm feeling 100% better today, so maybe that will help? And I'm TOTALLY banking on the full moon tomorrow...

[dsaucone]

Originally Posted by cody'smomma

I had my 40 week MW appointment yesterday. They scheduled me for a NST and ultrasound on Tuesday if I haven't gone by then. I made it through this whole pg with no tests or ultrasounds and it comes down to this? My thoughts are that I've been sick with some kind of stomach bug these last few days so that's why my body hasn't gone into labor yet. I'm feeling 100% better today, so maybe that will help? And I'm TOTALLY banking on the full moon tomorrow...

I'm in the same boat as you! Well sort of. I went for my appointment this morning and it was a mess. Not only was I there for 1 1/2hrs while my DD and DH waited, but I was getting told that I'd "have" to be induced at some point. And what made it worse was that I couldn't wait until 42 weeks, because that's when babies automatically die you know, at 42 weeks my doctor wasn't on call. He's only on call the 12th and 18th, or the 25th, which is past the time limit. I'm not quite sure who set the time limit. So he tried to tell me that if I didn't go by the 18th, what's 5 days (the remaining time for my time limit) going to do, but in the next breath we can't wait until the 25th, because 1 day makes a difference. I love how 5 days doesn't make a difference when it fits in the schedule, but 1 day does.

I went over to the hospital to do the NST, which took another 1/2-1hr. Like being pregnant means I have nothing else to do.

[MujerMamaMismo]

40+3 here and feeling more impatient than I want to be because the birth centre is close to risking me out for pregnancy induced hypertension. Frankly I'm really angry about it because my blood pressure is sooooooo borderline (120/80 from 130/60) and I'm testing negative to everything else and I've had the baby monitored several times and we're both fine.

Have had several induction acupuncture sessions and am doing everything else under the sun to get this labour happening naturally but the fact is, the babe just isn't ready.

Anyway...who else is still here post edd?

[dsaucone]

41 weeks as of 3 hours and 47 minutes ago.


I've been getting some contraction action since 1:30ish, but they're not quite long enough ( I mean they're long enough for me, but too short for me to feel like I need to call the hospital. ) Hopefully . . . I don't want to ruin it by saying it out loud.

[bronxmom]

According to LMP, I was due yesterday; according to early u/s, I'm due today. So I'm right there but still nothing to get worried about yet. Still, I really thought this baby was coming early - so much more pre-stuff than with my last baby for the last 3 weeks. And we're all (esp my daughter) ready for him to come out; I don't mind going late, but I really want him to come before xmas and preferably before the weekend. Once xmas hits, all my support people are out of town (except my partner of course) so that would really suck. But I'm pretty confident it's any day now; though I've also been saying that for the last week. We'll see.

[Lemon Juice]

Originally Posted by dsaucone

41 weeks as of 3 hours and 47 minutes ago.


I've been getting some contraction action since 1:30ish, but they're not quite long enough ( I mean they're long enough for me, but too short for me to feel like I need to call the hospital. ) Hopefully . . . I don't want to ruin it by saying it out loud.

Good luck! I hope they stick and you're holding your babe soon!

MujerMamaMismo, hopefully your babe will be ready soon. Keep us posted, mama! I really hope you don't risk out of your birth center birth. When do you know if it's a go or not? Good luck w/ it all and take it easy and hopefully your bp will stay low for ya. Easier said than done, I know

Bronxmom, I'm right there w/ ya! 40+1 and never, ever thought I'd make it past 40 weeks, much less to 40 weeks! My mw didn't think so as well. But I don't know my LMP..so it was a real guess...but the U/S said due date of 12/11??? I am really laying low tho and hope she stays in until Friday/Saturday at least. I need those results back and more time to take my probiotics, etc. So send my all the stay in vibes you can muster! I can't believe I feel this way now...last week I was losing my mind and waiting and hoping each day, each hour that I would go into labor! But things happen for a reason and I really hope all is well w/ the gbs and all will be well w/ our babe...and that is why she's taking her time.


So..sending labor vibes : to those who want them and need them!! Keep us posted, mamas!

[odenata]

One of my friends keeps messaging me everyday, "still no baby yet?" :

Do people not know how annoying that is?

[Lemon Juice]

Originally Posted by odenata

One of my friends keeps messaging me everyday, "still no baby yet?" :

Do people not know how annoying that is?

I honestly don't think they do know how annoying that is. You're right. Maybe (at least I try to tell myself this) they are just as excited as we are and can't help themselves in wanting to know...so they ask and ask and ask. But it gets old fast, that's for sure! I'd rather someone ask tho then get the "do you have twins in there!" comment (like what MIL told me last friday...when she fully knows there are NOT twins in there or the other comments "you must have been due last week!" that focus on how HUGE I am. Those really suck, huh?!

We joked about it today at homeschool group b/c i was NOT suppose to be there. We talked about how I would go early and this and that all the time....And there I was! But those are friends and it's okay w/ me that we joke to "have that baby already" and "you're still here!" things. Other mamas who know..so it's cool.

Strangers not so much...family not so much..friends okay What about all of you? Which bother you the most or do all of them asking make you annoyed? What about if your partner says things like this? THAT annoys me the most!!

[hotharmony]

I'm with you guys now, today officially I'm 40 weeks 2 days! I went to the midwife yesterday and still no talk of an induction but I did have to schedule a NST for my next appointment on Tuesday.

[bronxmom]

Me too! 40w2d (or 1 day depending on which date I go with). AND my mw seems to have forgotten to schedule my appt for this week - or they just forgot to call and tell me. And I never called to check b/c I just assumed I'd go into labor before my usual appt day.

[girlfromthefuture]

Hey everyone. I'm 41 weeks. Our first three were 42 weekers, so I'm not surprised that I'm still here, but my intuition is that this one wouldn't arrive so late....what do I know? I guess I still have a few days for that intuition to be on!

I'm really feeling pretty mellow about it all - I know my baby and my body know the right 'timing' and I trust that we know how to do this - in it's proper time. I also always feel sad at the end of pregnancy - somehow this sweet little baby will get outside of me and I'll have to share her with everyone. There is something so special about keeping her all to myself - like I know her whole story, but once she's on the outside, then I have to watch my heart being passed around...sigh....

Also, this will likely be my last pregnancy, and I have mixed emotions about that, too.

Hope you're all hanging in there okay and feeling peaceful and well. Looking forward to hearing all of our stories!:

[Curlyfry7]

I am just annoyed in general....with the world I think! My dogs are particularly driving me nuts- they keep wanting to poke at me, and I don't want them to touch me. Most people in general are not making comments.

Dh however, is also irking me...he keeps telling me HE'S not ready yet- um, who is carrying this baby? And going through all the aches and pains, etc? Yeah, he has a "busy week at work" so wants me to wait until after this week...like I can use the power of my mind to hold this baby in! If my mind had that much power, we would have had this baby by now! Oh, also he has to do 4 training sessions a year, so, despite knowing I am PREGNANT he waits to do 2 of them until NOW. So he is telling me he HAS to go to the training, even if I am in labor . Now, I don't think he would really do that, but just the sheer NERVE of him saying that is driving me crazy.

I seem to keep alternating good days with bad days. Today is a bad one- I am GRUMPY. But I know baby will come when she is ready. I went into labor with DS at 39 w 2d, and I am 39w 1d today so I feel like things should be moving along my now.....I know they will eventually.

[i0lanthe]

40+2 here and getting a little cranky. I did want this guy to hang in there til his due date because he has measured small for a while now (on u/s, not just the "well that could mean anything" tape measure ), but I didn't ration enough patience to go much beyond that, I'm afraid.

Dh however, is also irking me...he keeps telling me HE'S not ready yet

don't get me started on the mental whiplash I have from hearing "it would be great if this one came early so the birthday is farther from xmas" "I changed my mind, I'm not ready yet because i hurt my foot" "ok my foot is mostly better now and i think you should ask to schedule an induction, like no later than Thursday" (because it would be convenient. That was on Monday so Thursday=today. Sure, I'm impatient, but not impatient enough to actually want to be induced for no particular reason than being two days over. My OB on the other hand is a good sport and just says at the last two appointments "I know you're not interested in an induction so I'm not going to discuss it." There must be a note in my file because I haven't bothered writing a birth plan.,, "no battle plan survives contact with the enemy" and all that.)

Did I mention I'm feeling a little cranky? Maybe it's a good sign (or it might just be because I have BH every time I stand up and do anything at all and it is getting kind of old.)

[MujerMamaMismo]

Still here though with much more patience than previously. I've had a hell of a 24hours -
I was risked out of the birth centre by the consulting obstetrician yesterday morning. Just before I left she decided to do an internal where she discovered I was 6cm dilated and 100% effaced. Her conclusion was that I was in labour. She decided that I could go back to the birth centre straight away and they could break my water. Of course, it's against bc policy to intervene in any way, including breaking water. They, however, were happy to let me labour naturally there..YAY! I was back in.
I still wasn't convinced I was actually in labour but foetal monitoring suggested showed that i was having contractions 2 mins apart, I just wasn't feeling them! Everyone was in awe. I was feeling very fortunate.

I called my doula and explained the situation and she came up to the BC for a few hours. Nothing was happening and I was bouncing around happily, still with minimal pain so we decided it would be fine to let her go off to her daughters Christmas concert. By 9.30 last night, still nothing was happening so we asked to come home. The consulting obstetrician said no - that if we left now, there was no coming back to the BC. So, against better judgement, we stayed the night and had a fairly peaceful nights sleep.

When we woke up this morning, I had still not really progressed so it made sense to come home and wait for my water to break. It all seemed very uncontroversial and one ob agreed to let us home. The most superior ob however, not only said I couldn't come home but that I had to be admitted immediately to the HOSPITAL for induction. This despite perfect blood pressure and endless perfect results from monitoring. I got very scared and very shaky. I felt bruised and blackmailed and bullied.

Anyway, after lots of tears and long conversations with our doula and the BC midwives, we made the decision to 'act against medical advice' and come home. The BC midwives were wonderful and have committed to do all they can to keep me with them when I do go into natural labour.

I feel completely traumatised but I'm also thrilled to be home and thrilled to have yet another opportunity to birth naturally. I cannot believe that despite all my knowledge and preparation, I have been trapped in the web of intervention. Sure, thus far I've avoided it but I had to fight every.step.of.the.way. I can't imagine how it is for women who haven't had the opportunity to learn as much as me.

So, I'm actually hoping this boy stays in for a day or 2 longer because I need the time to recover and find some strength.

Hope everyone else is going along with less drama than me.

[girlfromthefuture]

Oh, mama....I'm so sorry you've had such craziness going on. Way to advocate for yourself, though!! (you should not have to fight right now, but wow - you're awesome!)

I'm so glad that your midwives are supporting you so well, under such difficult constraints. I'm thinking that since you're so far along, once you hit active labor, there won't be time for any obs to try to interfere!

I'm going to be thinking about you and sending peaceful energy for a gentle rest period and an easy, drama-free birth.