and the panic sets in...

[expat-mama]

Alright experienced mamas, tell me this is NORMAL...please.
I am so excited and happy, just ecstatic to be pregnant! And so is DH.

But today and yesterday, I kind of woke up from my state of shock and blind bliss and now I have these moments of sheer panic. Like, "what have we DONE?" "Can I really do this?"...and all the what-ifs about money, family, etc start crashing down in my mind. We have been trying to get pregnant for 7 months and waiting to try before that, for a couple of years so this is a very much wanted, awaited, and already much-loved baby. But it's also kind of a stressful time for us...actually probably one of the MOST stressful time to have a baby.
We are planning an international move from here in Asia back to Canada in February. We will be going from a steady and good 2-incomes to not really any (we've got savings and DH will get paid a bit) - DH is starting his PhD. Even though we are moving back to Canada, we'll be on the west coast where we don't know anyone, they'll all be in the east. eek!
DH has noticed my tiny panic attacks and is so sweet, saying that everything is under control and the only thing I need to focus on is growing this baby, relaxing and staying healthy and happy. Which is nice. But I'm a bit of a control-freak and I feel I have to be involved with the planning of all these big life changes that are going to happen. I also am a kind of a high strung and anxious type to begin with

I'm just freaking out a bit. : It's normal to be freaked out right? This will pass and I'll get back to being just happy and excited....right?

[peanutmama]

yes, those are quite normal concerns. i remember when i got pregnant with our dd, i was silently thinking "oh, now my freedom will be severely limited, i hope we really can afford this, i hope i have the patience for a child" etc. etc. and so on. our dd is planned, and we really, really wanted to start a family. we considered ourselves ready to have kids, but still i had these doubts and fears lurking in the back of my mind. i thought i was a bad person for thinking those things, but it is completely normal. it's a very big step you are making - having a person you will be completely responsible for who will be utterly dependent on you - plus the move you are planning, etc. do not feel bad about having those thoughts. you have to cope with all the changes somehow! now we are having #2, it would be a little easier for us because we've already had a child and know somewhat what to do. don't feel guilty, mama, it's totally NORMAL.

[Evergreen]

I don't even know if I am pregnant yet, but I am lurking here til I find out.

Freaking out big time!

This will be my 3rd, and the first that wasn't plannned to the second!

I have a Honda Civic that only fits two carseats.

The baby would be due 3 weeks before I am entitled to FMLA at my new job.

My two year old still nurses like a newborn.

I don't have easy pregnancies or births and I still need healing from a hospital transfer with my second birth

I can't afford daycare for three kids

I won't be finished with my Master's Degree yet

....but I am starting to get excited and muct admit I will be slightly disappointed if the test is negative

[Pernillep]

Totally normal and you will get through it.

Even with expecting #2 I am feeling all the same things.

What the crap did I just get myself into.
- I can't do another first 6 weeks this time with a toddler
- OMG, birth I remember what that was like now
- ohh no, we will have to find a new house
- Guess the trip to europe won't happen now. My parents will be mad
- My mom will think this is a bad idea
- the inlaws will want to come camp out again.....(never again)
- DH will need a real job


But I also know that time will pass and I will come to peace with all the things that are worrying me now. DS will be fine, giving birth wasn't that bad etc.

[jeliphish]

Not in your DDC but I totally remember feeling this way when I was pregnant with DD. Believe me...it all works out and there hasn't been a second since then that I have had the worries I did when I was pregnant with her.

[expat-mama]

Thanks so much for the words of encouragement. I feel much better now. It's nice to hear that it's normal to have these fears, worries and apprehensions.
I think a lot of my anxiety comes from the fact that I'm a big planner- I have to plan everything down to the last detail, but there are so many things up in the air right now that it's a bit daunting. I'm also a worry wart normally.

[mummytobe]

((((((((HUGS)))))...everything will be ok...

[mamadelbosque]

s: it'll be OK!! You'll be fine Pregnancy, birth, motherhood - three things I *Never* thought I'd experience once, let alone twice... and I am loving them all!!

[homeschoolingmama]

We were trying for our first when it happened. We REALLY wanted to be pregnant. When I got that positive line I started crying. I couldn't believe I was pregnant. Trust me...it gets more exciting. Especially when you shop for the first time for baby stuff.