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I haven't told DH and I am worried
And i am feeling a little guilty.
I got the definite BFP Tuesday morning. After haven taken close to 10 POAS tests at home and still not being convinced of the result I went to the drugstore and got a digital one. You know the one that says PREGNANT in big letters so you can't pretend it isn't there. I was so intent on knowing that i even took it in the bathroom stall at work during regular working hours (I know great mental picture, right
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We were not trying and while we had discussed having #2 I know DH wants to wait until he has a better job. He is working PT now after having been a SAHD for over a year. It has been really hard for him to find work. Luckily I have a great job and can provide for us but with baby #2 we will need to move and also, the thought of daycare for 2 is overwhelming. DH doesn't even make enough to cover the cost of 1 right now. In addition, the new arrival will be right as I hit the better maternity benefits level at work and feel a little guilty for the timing. I don't want anyone to think I planned this having only been here 4 months at this point.
Deep down I am scared what DH will say and how he will react. We both want another baby it just wasn't supposed to be so soon and I worry he will think I planned this which I totally didn't. I am still in shock.
I have been toying with the idea of waiting to tell him until x-mas and making it a great present but then I will be almost 8 weeks along and don't want him to feel I kept something from him. With DS he knew the second the test showed positive.
Am i being selfish for not telling sooner?
I did tell DS last night that he was going to be a big brother but I think I am still safe that he won't share the news
help me figure this out
ETA: When rereading I make DH sound like a horrible person. He really is super supportive and I know once he gets over the original shock he will be very welcoming of this baby.
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I haven't told DH and I am worried
And i am feeling a little guilty.
I got the definite BFP Tuesday morning. After haven taken close to 10 POAS tests at home and still not being convinced of the result I went to the drugstore and got a digital one. You know the one that says PREGNANT in big letters so you can't pretend it isn't there. I was so intent on knowing that i even took it in the bathroom stall at work during regular working hours (I know great mental picture, right
)We were not trying and while we had discussed having #2 I know DH wants to wait until he has a better job. He is working PT now after having been a SAHD for over a year. It has been really hard for him to find work. Luckily I have a great job and can provide for us but with baby #2 we will need to move and also, the thought of daycare for 2 is overwhelming. DH doesn't even make enough to cover the cost of 1 right now. In addition, the new arrival will be right as I hit the better maternity benefits level at work and feel a little guilty for the timing. I don't want anyone to think I planned this having only been here 4 months at this point.
Deep down I am scared what DH will say and how he will react. We both want another baby it just wasn't supposed to be so soon and I worry he will think I planned this which I totally didn't. I am still in shock.
I have been toying with the idea of waiting to tell him until x-mas and making it a great present but then I will be almost 8 weeks along and don't want him to feel I kept something from him. With DS he knew the second the test showed positive.
Am i being selfish for not telling sooner?
I did tell DS last night that he was going to be a big brother but I think I am still safe that he won't share the news
help me figure this out
ETA: When rereading I make DH sound like a horrible person. He really is super supportive and I know once he gets over the original shock he will be very welcoming of this baby.
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