Are you finding out the baby's gender?

[mamatoady]

Maybe this is a bit premature, but I've been thinking about it since before I got pregnant. I waited with dd and ds, but am considering it this time...Although to be fair, I haven't decided if I'll have an ultrasound or not.

sarah

[EricaE]

I found out the gender with all 3 of my other babies, so I'm going to try my *hardest* to be patient this time around! This is for sure and for certain my last baby, and I want to experience having a surprise!

[Heather Marie]

We were surprised with our first and want to do the same for this baby. Not sure on an ultrasound or not yet. We would plan to do a 20 week one only if we do one at all.

[expat-mama]

We've decided not to find out the sex of the baby. We kind of think it's one of those cool natural mysteries that has been a bit ruined by modern technology. So we're planning to torture ourselves with anticipation of finding out! I also think it'll be more exciting for the whole family- instead of everyone knowing the sex and then probably the name it'll be a surprise. I always thought it was weird knowing the sex and the name- then on the big day the announcement is just "[Name] is here and she's still a girl". We want to keep everyone in suspense!

[August09baby]

We're not going to find out, and we didn't for our first either. I found my DH saying "soon we'll find out what it is" was a great incentive during tough parts of labor!! Hope it works this time as well!

[expat-mama]

Originally Posted by August09baby

I found my DH saying "soon we'll find out what it is" was a great incentive during tough parts of labor!!

Ahhh- never thought of that!

[wanderinggypsy]

I think I'll find out.

I did with the other three.

I have two sons and a little 19 month old girl, so an other girl would really round things out, but another little boy would be lovely too.... I just think that if it's a boy I would be glad to have a little time to digest that so that when I meet him it's with nothing but bliss, joy, and love (no crazy anal-retentive Capricorn "but now our family is a little off-balance!" crap).

So who's figured out when we'll be 18-20 weeks and able to find out, anyways?

[DallasAnn]

We haven't decided yet, though we're leaning towards finding out.

[mama*pisces]

Originally Posted by Heather Marie

Not sure on an ultrasound or not yet. We would plan to do a 20 week one only if we do one at all.

Same here, but even if I do the 20 week I want to really try to hold out and not find out the gender.

[Stevi]

I want to find out. I already have almost everything I need (clothes, crib, etc) for either a boy or girl!! But, I want to have time to choose a name and prepare a room.

I used 3 different donors, so I get to be surprised by the baby's looks already.

[ryan'smom]

We'll probably find out but just keep it between the two of us. I'd like to know so I can hit the yard sales in the spring if it turns out to be a girl.

[mommaof5]

I don't think I could handle the suspense!

[Coconut Chronicles]

Originally Posted by mommaof5

I don't think I could handle the suspense!

Me neither! We'll be finding out....

[chrissy]

I will have an ultrasound, but we will not find out the sex.

eta- because i'm grouchy and it's a pet peeve of mine, it's the "sex" you find out, not the "gender."

[Stevi]

Originally Posted by chrissy

I will have an ultrasound, but we will not find out the sex.

eta- because i'm grouchy and it's a pet peeve of mine, it's the "sex" you find out, not the "gender."

Okay, now you have to explain why "gender" irks you.

[chrissy]

It just irks me because it's incorrect. Gender is (off the top of my head) the behavioral, societal, cultural stuff related to biological sex. Sex is (again off the top of my head) the actual biological, sexual characteristics. So, your u/s can only determine sex, not gender.

A person can be the male sex (with penis and testicles) but consider their gender to be female.


A stupid pet peeve to have, but what can you do?

[expat-mama]

Originally Posted by chrissy

I will have an ultrasound, but we will not find out the sex.

eta- because i'm grouchy and it's a pet peeve of mine, it's the "sex" you find out, not the "gender."

Thanks for pointing this out Chrissy! I kept thinking it when passing over this thread but didn't have the cahones enough to say it myself. Sex is a very different thing than gender!
And I'm not finding out the sex either! Yay for surprises!

[Stevi]

Originally Posted by chrissy

It just irks me because it's incorrect. Gender is (off the top of my head) the behavioral, societal, cultural stuff related to biological sex. Sex is (again off the top of my head) the actual biological, sexual characteristics. So, your u/s can only determine sex, not gender.

A person can be the male sex (with penis and testicles) but consider their gender to be female.


A stupid pet peeve to have, but what can you do?

That is interesting, I'd never heard that before. And it makes alot of sense.

I think alot of people here use the word 'gender' because they don't want to type 'sex'!!!

[Flower of Bliss]

I plan to have a 20ish week ultrasound because a family member had a complication in her last pregnancy (which in the end resulted in a loss at 33 weeks this summer) that was caught at the 20 week ultrasound. We believe it was genetic, so I want the ultrasound for my piece of mind. Assuming we do the ultrasound, if we can see the gender, then I want to know. I don't intend to do multiple ultrasounds if the position is bad just to determine gender.

[Evergreen]

I'm not having an ultrasound, so no finding out the sex for me until August!