Hi mama, Don't talk to me about dishes getting done....came home to a pile of them again..
I smoked pot age 14 and have continued to do so, I'm 41, yes I know, pathetic probably, am only telling you this cos of your post lol I'm looking to sort myself out soon on several more levels including and especially substance dependance( at present dope, tea, sugar, nicotine! coffee again) and moodswings, depression has figured largely in my life and I know the stuff I take in doesn't help.I had issues with alcohol too but am 7 yrs getting over that now. I used to inhale lighter fuel at 13, majic mushies etc I went through care system and have some er problems I've struggled with. imo I don't think pot is that good for you longterm or too often, makes you tired, with prolonged use can induce paranoia, specially for first 10 years. I have v.little knowledge of most other recreational drugs tho have tried some, but I like pot, it's a herb and requires some respect as herbs can be v.potent.I know they're all smoking strong homegrown now and that it affects people differently. Imo it can help relax a person, generally can 'lift' the mood betwixt any negative effects,if it's not smoked continously, like any substance, it should be okay only my opinion, unless serious issues arose to contradict this. I wouldn't want any of my kids to take it up or the gamut of stuff to try. There are other ways to feed your head, healthy too.Some people don't abuse substance but do use them, I'm not one of them, I have to be totally honest about this, I don't believe most stuff is bad as such but that people have differing reasons,lives, reactions etc.Depends whether you want to get high in first place too, some folk don't and sometimes there are other reasons to get high like to push away the downsides of life for a while. Can also be like socializing with a drink.The mood-altering component is where I struggle cos I've stopped before for quite a while and felt fine, just felt like I was missing out or something and couldnt just have 'a pint' at thet point. I have quite a boring,worky life so it's my pick-me-up or more like a throw-me-down when I'm done work it's the lack of energy I miss but ironically I smoke(outdoors) to get me 'wasted' and I'm so glad that I'm only on pot cos I can 'control' myself on it, yeah right, see this is dependancy for me. And I had no control, knowledge around drugs n alcohol. Knowledge helps.Plus, a big one imo, smoking tobacco of any sort or leaf is very, very bad for you if regular, I was quite sporty and still swim cycle run etc but omg my lungs, I'm a bit worried about that so....
So I think you could remain calm and in tune with your child, keep those communications open. My dd started drinking with her mates early teens, I nearly freaked and she herself found the ways to move on from irresponsable consumption and is trying to get into uni or textile and design school, I'm a single mom and poor so I'm xtra excited about this progress and hope for the future. Accepting that your child may be trying out substances like these is scary. Keeping the channels open, for us, required me stepping back, but obviously looking out for her often, and letting her make her own decisions, most importantly, the harder ones.No amount of my nagging will sort anything so I just let her know I'm there for her at all times and we talk. Keep the faith and know whats going on with your kid, as you obviously do,
your ds WILL know you are there for him and that he CAN talk to you, maybe just not about everthing that matters right there and then, you then should be able to help him when needed, if needed for substance use or anything. In my day it was all sneaking around keeping secrets cos the adults were not open or able to communicate about a heck of a lot of stuff that affects their kids. There is so much alcoholism in my country, like everywhere, but the scots really like to go for it, the whisky thing, and it can get destructive.Sorry for novel. Good luck.