Weekly Chat 12/6-12/12 - Page 3

[lee1203]

Originally Posted by allibut

We haven't DTD yet and it's been like 11 weeks. Please tell me that not everyone has DTD already?

Oh heck no. It's been almost 7 weeks, and I'm not ready. Wouldn't be even if I wasn't still bleeding the tiniest bit. And even if I was ready, I can't figure out the logistics. This kid does not like to not be held.

Nor does she tend to sleep for very long - I feel for those of you who are up every 2 to 3 hours to feed. Sometimes she doesn't even give me 2 hours in between cryings. : Side-lying still doesn't work for us. I can get her to do it sometimes when it's late morning, but it's just not happening in the middle of the night when I need it most. Sigh. We've started to swaddle her and put her in her crib for about half the night though, so it's nice to be able to move and get comfy how I need to at least part of the time. The crib's right next to the bed so I can still reach her.

Am jealous of all who are/have decorated. I finally bought a big tree (this will be our third Christmas in this house ) but again - baby needs holding so it's not up. May have to wait until my in-laws get here so there are extra hands. Also, what sweet pics you guys have! I may not get Christmas cards out until February, if ever.

Ok, here's something weird. I've noticed the past couple of times that I've pumped (I have an Avent Isis) that doing so manages to bruise the underside of my nipples/areolas. It wouldn't be a big deal but then that means it hurts when she feeds the rest of the day. Anyone have this happen to them? I almost have half a mind to just get a small thing of formula for the very very rare occasions she'll need a bottle (we're talking *maybe* 2 days a month, if even). Problem is, I can only manage to get one pumping in a day, and get about 2 ounces then, and I don't even know if that's one full feeding. So it's not like I can just wait until the day before she'll need it or anything since when I do go back to work it will be for a 7 hour shift. Mind, since I made it past the blinding searing pain from early on, I can make it past this.

[Amber Lion]

^Is it possible that when the pump pulls your nipple out it's rubbing on the edge of the plastic? I had that happen once and got a little bruise; I didn't know what happened at first b/c when I place the little pump thing over my nipple it looked centered, but once it started pulling my nipple out it rubbed. Just a thought!

I'm procrastinating. I need to go to my school and adjust my credit hours with the financial aid office... but that's a 1/2 hr drive away and Addie is asleep in the wrap and I should really eat lunch first... so instead I'm sitting on MDC. Makes sense, right?

Midwives are coming over tonight, can't wait to see how much Addie weighs!

She's got some congestion going on, I think from my cold earlier in the week. I had no idea how satisfying sucking boogers out of her nose could be! Dh says I'm a little obsessed, but I can't stop hovering with the bulb syringe in hopes that her sneezes will dislodge one enough for me to get!

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by lee1203

Ok, here's something weird. I've noticed the past couple of times that I've pumped (I have an Avent Isis) that doing so manages to bruise the underside of my nipples/areolas. It wouldn't be a big deal but then that means it hurts when she feeds the rest of the day. Anyone have this happen to them? I almost have half a mind to just get a small thing of formula for the very very rare occasions she'll need a bottle (we're talking *maybe* 2 days a month, if even). Problem is, I can only manage to get one pumping in a day, and get about 2 ounces then, and I don't even know if that's one full feeding. So it's not like I can just wait until the day before she'll need it or anything since when I do go back to work it will be for a 7 hour shift. Mind, since I made it past the blinding searing pain from early on, I can make it past this.

Yes, this happened to me! I had the pump on way too high of a setting. The highest mine goes is to 10 and I had it at 9 - I was being very overzealous about getting milk out! Dial it down if you think you are doing this. The only other thing I can think of is you might need the larger size horns. You should be able to pick them up at BRU or even Target.

2 oz is probably not enough for a full feeding. At 2 months, Nora takes 4-5 oz at a feeding when I'm not home. What you can do (what I do) is pump out the 2 oz or whatever you get (sometimes after a feeding I only get 1 oz) and freeze it. The next time you pump, as long as it's the same or less, you can pour it into the same bag as what you've saved. You still label it with the oldest date, though.

It's good to have bags filled with small amounts - like 2-4 oz each. You don't want to thaw more than that at a time, b/c once it's thawed you can't refreeze it.

I pump in the morning after her first feeding, and get maybe 2 oz total. If I get another chance during the day, I'll do it again and maybe get 2 oz again. That's usually enough for her to have 1 bottle if necessary while I'm out at the gym or running errands.

[sonshine_rae]

NDFanatik
I'm so sorry about your purse!!!! I had my wallet (took it out of my purse) stolen the day my DH asked me to marry him.... talk about a great way to start things off LOL! So I can understand some of what your going through.

((hugs)) about the tear re-opening no fair!

What kind of sling did you have? (ETA: I just saw in the slinging thread.. that you owned a slingling pouch)


lee1203 I used to use a avent isis years ago ... is it the hand pump style? If so you can just pump more gently on the handle, try to only apply as much pressure as your baby would maybe? ((Hugs)) I hope you get it figure out.. cause that doesn't sound like any fun!

AAM:
I don't know what I'll do about decorating this year, we don't really due trees, but I haven't got time to do anything (of course) and we are supposed to have 'Christmas' at my house this year.. so I really ought to do SOMETHING right??

*Rant* I had someone contact me regarding a plea I had out among friends and friends of friends.. for a 'Mothers Helper' position, the first time she setup an appointment she called me shortly before it to say she'd over booked herself. The 2nd time was this morning and she was a no show!?!? I called her when she was 45 mins late and all I got was her voice mail, I left a message and so far (hours later) I've gotten no response . She sounded like such a good prospect/responsible person.. I'm really disappointed.

[TaraRae82]

DTD, yeah, still haven't done this. *sigh* It's gotten to the point where it's been SOOO long that I guess I've kinda forgotten how much I really enjoy it so I just don't really care if we wait awhile longer. The last time was when I was 25wk pg. Plus, I'm so busy caring for Ally Rae that I'm exhausted by the time DH gets home and I don't feel sexy at all because my boobs are human pacifiers and they're already beginning to sag a bit and they're covered in stretch marks. I'm also feeling a little over-touched since we're EBF and BW'ing SOOO much. Plus, how do you all DTD with the LO around??? She will NOT leave us alone long enough for me to eat or even pee...let alone be intimate with my husband! Where's the time for that?! I did schedule my first PP brazilian bikini wax for Friday though so maybe that will spark our interest. DH made the comment a couple weeks ago, "Don't you dare schedule that until you're ready because I don't think I can contain myself..." : We have condoms and awesome lube so I guess we're set there. Just gotta figure out how the heck to get Ally Rae to sleep by herself for a bit. I really do miss having private time with DH. I'm 9wks PP.

OH! And, I talked to DH about my needing more help issues and such. I didn't get the response I was hoping for. I got NO validation or sympathy for how I'm feeling. He basically said I'm bringing it all on myself because of my parenting style. He said, "The only way you're going to get a break is if you change your parenting style." I was shocked. How dare he suggest we change what we know is best for Ally Rae as the only option to get me some help! I told him it was all a double-edged sword because I know how hard he works and he needs personal time too when he gets home from work but that I'm really needing help because I'm so frustrated and overwhelmed all the time. I said a lot more but you all already know it all so I won't repeat myself. Ugh. He wanted me to give him a solution but there isn't one that I can come up with. So, we got NOWHERE. I still took care of Ally Rae all weekend. He gave her a bath and changed a couple of diapers but that's it. He didn't even offer to help me get her to sleep at night. I was hoping my expressing to him my problems would at least make him more aware. So, I guess I'm just going to stay overwhelmed and frustrated because he seems to have no interest in helping or doesn't think he should have to because in his words he, "works 10-12 hours a day and Ally is attached to me since I have her all day." I did respond to that by saying that she doesn't really need me all the time and that she needs to spend time with her Daddy too because I need someone else to be able to soothe her.

Ok, vent over...for now. *sigh*

[TaraRae82]

Originally Posted by NDFanatik

Oh and real quick... we finally DTD also for the 1st time. And my tear reopened. GAH!! I noticed after going to the bathroom a couple hours later and seeing spotting. Just my luck. I'm now officially afraid of sex... Poor hubby's going celibate again.

Oh, I'm so sorry you're having a rough time! How sucky that you have to deal with replacing everything in your wallet and spoiling Christmas gift surprises! And adding trouble with DTD to that....YUCK.

[lee1203]

Originally Posted by Amber Lion

I'm procrastinating. I need to go to my school and adjust my credit hours with the financial aid office... but that's a 1/2 hr drive away and Addie is asleep in the wrap and I should really eat lunch first... so instead I'm sitting on MDC. Makes sense, right?

Heck yes. This is my kind of logic!

And I'll check to see if the thing is rubbing. That should be easy enough to fix if so.

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes

Yes, this happened to me! I had the pump on way too high of a setting. The highest mine goes is to 10 and I had it at 9 - I was being very overzealous about getting milk out! Dial it down if you think you are doing this. The only other thing I can think of is you might need the larger size horns. You should be able to pick them up at BRU or even Target.

I think you (and Rae!) are probably right that I'm using too much force. It's a manual though, so if so it's my own stupid fault. And I can only wish that the issue was I needed bigger horns! I'm quite happy to finally be filling out a B cup, thank you very much!

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes

It's good to have bags filled with small amounts - like 2-4 oz each. You don't want to thaw more than that at a time, b/c once it's thawed you can't refreeze it.

Sounds good, will do.

Rae, sorry to hear about your mother's helper. How disappointing!

Tara, I'm sorry you're having such a hard time getting help from your DH. Mine is similar, especially with the whole "but she's used to you" issue. Is there any way you can set a certain amount of "him" time right as he comes home, then he has to take over and you get you time? My newest stupid human trick is I'll tell him we need a shower - I take her in with me (she seems to like it!) and tell him to come get her in 5 minutes. Then, I get to finish my nice long shower while he deals with the wet cold baby. He's actually gotten her to sleep afterwards the past few times. Of course, it's only fair to do this if she won't need to eat, so I make sure to nurse her first.

And speaking of nursing her...

[mkmb129]

Originally Posted by allibut

AAHH! You poor thing. I hope you heal up nicely. Take care of yourself!

We haven't DTD yet and it's been like 11 weeks. Please tell me that not everyone has DTD already?

Nope, I'm only about 7wks pp, but have no intentions of doing it anytime soon, and I'll be seeing dh this weekend. No desire. Plus I know what it leads to now (like I didn't know before ) so that's enough to kill the mood

[Amber Lion]

Tara - I know exactly what you mean about dtd and not feeling it. I told Dh all that; that he can't proposition me at 11:30 at night once I've finally gotten Addie down and am exhausted and touched out from cluster nursing, that I don't exactly feel sexy anymore, etc. Well, he kept fondling me in the afternoon and stealing kisses and telling me how sexy *he* thought I was and then Addie happened to be asleep in the swing, so I went for it. Other times we've fooled around (but haven't dtd) with Addie asleep in the co-sleeper. That might be too uncomfortable for some, but I figure at her age, when she's asleep and the lights off... well, I'm not going to worry about it. It just works for us.

Sorry that your heart to heart with your Dh didn't pan out. He should at least be helping on the weekends!!! : Does he respond if you ask him for specific things to be done? Like, when Dh is home, I ask him to change specific diapers... or he doesn't know that the diaper needs to be changed. I ask him to hold Addie while I do such and such... and then I keep doing stuff and he doesn't notice b/c he's playing with her and soon enough I've had a good break and he's like, hey, wait a minute! I guess my point is that my Dh doesn't respond well to a blanket "I need help", but will do what I need him to do in the moment. Maybe you can think of specific things that he can do in the evening or the weekend that will get you the help you need? Good luck, hang in there! I agree, you shouldn't have to change your parenting style to get some help!

[Amber Lion]

Oh, also wanted to speak to the whole "She likes you better" kind of thing. My Dh tried to pull that on me when I was desperately tired and Addie had just woken up AGAIN. I just went to sleep on him. Really, I didn't plan it, but I just passed out and he had to deal with her for almost 2 hours and get her to sleep. I think it did him a lot of good b/c he realized that he might not be able to do it as well or quickly as me, but that he CAN take care of her and meet her needs. Maybe you need to throw your Dh in the deep end, so to speak, and leave your LO with him where he doesn't have the choice to hand her back.

[crabbyowl]

8 weeks 1 day

Yes, a couple of weeks ago my DH also tried telling me "you're so tired and stressed at night because you won't just let Eleanor CIO - if you did you'd get more sleep!" : He seems to have come around, though, especially after I told him that babies as young as ours all are have no sense of object permanence, so if they can't see us or hear us we don't exist anymore. And a few days ago we were looking at something online together and she started fussing, and he said that we should go to her, because to leave her alone when she's crying will teach her that her needs won't be met. : He is spending a bit more time with her now that she's a bit older (8 weeks) and in more of a routine. Also, I used to dread having our friends over in the evenings because she'd inevitably get fussy and I'd have to take her into another room and miss out on all the fun, but now our friends can take turns holding her and she's perfectly happy unless she gets hungry. :

Last night was huge: she slept for almost SEVEN HOURS!!!! :: She still refuses to go to sleep before midnight, usually around 1 or 1:30, but she slept until just after DH's alarm went off at 8 this morning after being up until 1:30! It was great, but my goodness, were my breasts ever sore! After nursing she went to bed for 3 more hours, but I woke up after 2 hours ON MY OWN, feeling well-rested, and I was able to get some things done before she woke up again! (Here's a picture of her after she fell asleep again: http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?pi...9a&id=60508619)

So, things are going well, just busy! I'm (supposed to be) working on my final PhD application, and after that I'll be able to relax so much more. It's snowed every day for the past 3 or 4 days here, and it's pretty as long as I don't have to go out in it!

Also, I realize I haven't posted any photos aside from the one above! Here they are: http://www.facebook.com/album.php?ai...29&id=60508619 The last ones are from today, but before that I hadn't posted any since mid-November. And, if anyone ever doubts that DH is the father I can just show them this one as proof: http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?pi...ab&id=60508619

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[heidirk]

Lee- I did much better with my medela hand pump than with the Avent Isis. I couldn't get any milk out with that thing unless I poured some in from the fridge!

Tararae- I'm sorry your DH doesn't understand, and is being such a pill. You do know that he's wrong, so stick to your guns. When your baby is 1 and more independant and adventurous than friend's babies who've done CIO, he'll be convinced for life. Maybe you should explain to him that you're not likely to feel like DTD unless he's more supportive? I know it was that way for me with DS1.

[neveryoumindthere]

Wow, where have I been? 3 pages!

I've been really down the past few days, directly correlating with the amount of SCREAMING ds is doing...A couple days back he literally screamed/screeched in pain the ENTIRE day/night. nothing we did soothed him for longer than 10 min. and like a couple of your dh's mine was no help. \i took care of ds the entire night, before bed that night dh was like 'who cares, let him cry, after 3 days he'll get the point'

\i was VER?Y worried about him after a 3 hour screaming fit he was inconsolable so i gave him pain meds, he fell asleep right away but was up 1/2 hour later...so right in the a.m. i took him into the clinic..doc checked everything and said it was nothing adn might have just been colic, but i KNOW he was in pain. he had to have been..

anyway the next day i was shopping for clothes (ugh, another depressing subject) and ds just cried and cried and so I gave up trying clothes on and sat and nursed him. When i put him back in the stroller, again crying, i saw in his mouth this white 'bump' about the size of a pencil eraser right behind his bottom gums...so i stick my finger in and poke at it gently and it bursts and out comes this white pus! \i pressed a bit more to get the rest out. the poor thing, i wonder if that's whatwas causing him so much pain!!

he slept better that night and didn't scream nearly as much adn today was also 'better' though not great. i suspect silent reflux and have an appt on wednesday to discuss with teh doctor.

today was our holiday (Called Eid) and everyone was all decked out in their new clothes and here's little old me wearing a baggy sweater of dh's (that has spit-up on it btw) and maternity pants. Good thing I wear an overgarment and headscarf. I was soooo depressed I didn't find anything that fit me. \i have no idea what size i am anymore and ds cries so much i rarely get more than a 1/2 hour to grab a ton of things that look decent PLUS try them on. Dh saw i was totally deprssed (and in tears) and I just gave up and said forget it. I don't want to try anything else on (he waited in the car with all 3 kiddos!! how can i 'relax' and look around to find something i like when i know my poor girls are wasting their holiday waiting in the car for their poor frazzled frumpy mother and ds is crying)
anyway dh insisted i try one more store..reluctantly and with tears streaming down my face (I realy tried hard to fight it!!) i went in, grabbed a bunch of stuff to try on, found something i didn't exactly love, but it actually fit and was 'ok-cute' and left. I got in the car and dh was like did you find something? I said YES and him and my girls all cheered and said they were praying and asking God to help me to find something : :

Dh's gift to me was a few hundred $$ to buy new clothes which is awesome, but it's so depressing, my body is so different and all the styles i like look awful on me now. not to mention it's a HUGE hassle to speed shop with 3 kids or find someone to watch them or I have to take ds, especially with his screaminess, i'm not exactly trusting dh to be patient with him, after an 'incident' that happened the other day. We were both on edge so while i sympathize, it's not enough for me to trust he'll stay levelheaded after a couple hour scream-fest..\


i'm so sorry i rambled. i'm feeling lonely and have no one to talk to irl. my one VERY good friend has custody of her nephews and while i love her to death, she used CIO with all her kids and the nephews adn they all slept great, so i can't really vent to her that ds won't sleep at night etc and feel like she's with me on the whole AP thing..my best friend moved overseas and we only communicate by email every now and then but it's not the same.

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Tara, \i unfortunately know hwo it feels to have convos like that with dh. I hope they 'get it' soon.
NDfanatik. i'm sorry about your purse, i hope something amazing happens and you find it.
Babycakes and sonshine_rae, how are you both doing 'emotion-wise'? Are you feeling better? I really hope so
Crabbyowl, that's awesome your LO slept so long.Ds on his 'good' days seems to sleep from 12am-4am which to me is awesome since both my dds woke up every 1-2 hours until they were 2 years old!
sorry wanted to reply to others as well but ds is asleep and though it's early for me i'm goin to bed so i can catch up on some sleep!! only slept about 3 hours last night and we had a really busy holiday today..i'm so dreading tomorrow.lol

[neveryoumindthere]

oh AND \i got AF at 7 weeks pp!
lol what a week

[mamanurse]

Originally Posted by Amber Lion

She's got some congestion going on, I think from my cold earlier in the week. I had no idea how satisfying sucking boogers out of her nose could be! Dh says I'm a little obsessed, but I can't stop hovering with the bulb syringe in hopes that her sneezes will dislodge one enough for me to get!

Just kidding. I love the bogies.

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes

DTD - Note to everyone, don't accidentally use a ribbed condom when trying to DTD for the 2nd time postpartum. About a minute after we started, I told DH it was hurting too much, what on earth was going on b/c we were fine the first time? He :looked at the package and it was ribbed. Ugh. Not pleasant. Luckily we had other non-ribbed ones so we were good to go!

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Originally Posted by NDFanatik

My purse is gone... And that means so is my wallet. And that has my driver’s license, health insurance card, dental insurance card, debit card, credit cards, movie rental cards, my son’s medicaid card, pictures of my family, and some prescription medication (zofran) in it.

I'm sorry to hear that ND

Originally Posted by TaraRae82

OH! And, I talked to DH about my needing more help issues and such. I didn't get the response I was hoping for. I got NO validation or sympathy for how I'm feeling. He basically said I'm bringing it all on myself because of my parenting style. He said, "The only way you're going to get a break is if you change your parenting style." I was shocked. How dare he suggest we change what we know is best for Ally Rae as the only option to get me some help! I told him it was all a double-edged sword because I know how hard he works and he needs personal time too when he gets home from work but that I'm really needing help because I'm so frustrated and overwhelmed all the time. I said a lot more but you all already know it all so I won't repeat myself. Ugh. He wanted me to give him a solution but there isn't one that I can come up with. So, we got NOWHERE. I still took care of Ally Rae all weekend. He gave her a bath and changed a couple of diapers but that's it. He didn't even offer to help me get her to sleep at night. I was hoping my expressing to him my problems would at least make him more aware. So, I guess I'm just going to stay overwhelmed and frustrated because he seems to have no interest in helping or doesn't think he should have to because in his words he, "works 10-12 hours a day and Ally is attached to me since I have her all day." I did respond to that by saying that she doesn't really need me all the time and that she needs to spend time with her Daddy too because I need someone else to be able to soothe her.

That sucks Tara. I don't know what to say. I'm on "your side" of course, but don't have any advice. I think leaving the house for an hour on the weekends would do you worlds of good. If he's not open to it, I'd just say "too bad." Go for a walk or go have a cup of coffee on your own with a book. Better yet, have lunch with a gf. Just my : of course.

Originally Posted by neveryoumindthere

Dh's gift to me was a few hundred $$ to buy new clothes which is awesome, but it's so depressing, my body is so different and all the styles i like look awful on me now. not to mention it's a HUGE hassle to speed shop with 3 kids or find someone to watch them or I have to take ds, especially with his screaminess, i'm not exactly trusting dh to be patient with him, after an 'incident' that happened the other day. We were both on edge so while i sympathize, it's not enough for me to trust he'll stay levelheaded after a couple hour scream-fest..\

I enjoyed the rambling, personally. I'm with you on clothes. While I'm below my pre-pregnancy weight, I'm not at its shape and clothes shopping is utter hell.

Originally Posted by neveryoumindthere

oh AND \i got AF at 7 weeks pp!
lol what a week

Double bummer

AAM: My holiday shopping is almost done. I just have to pick up a gift for my mom, cologne for dh, and a gift card to Sears for my BIL.

We *might* DTD sometime soon. Dh has been much more pleasant recently and I'm feeling like I *might* actually like him right now. Hopefully it'll continue.

And for the big news.... Drumroll please.....

:Hazel took a bottle!!!: My mom came over for 3 hours today and I left the house to do quick errand holiday shopping. She drank 2 ounces and wanted more. I was home, by then though so the bewbies pollished her off. I don't know what the problem was with dh trying. My gut tells me he wasn't patient enough, but I don't know :

[TaraRae82]

^thx....i like that idea!

[mkmb129]

Neveryoumind, I have an appt. for this after for Ainsley for reflux. I can't deal with the crying and not sleeping and throwing up anymore. I don't want to put her on meds.. but I cannot take it anymore. I'm so tired!

And to those with husband issues.. at least they're there Goin' it alone is not any fun. We're supposed to be going to visit him in VA, but I'm so nervous about the 9hr drive. I'm just praying that they sleep. I know it's probably dumb to make such a drive with a 7wk old and a 2 yo and to live in a hotel for 2wks, but being alone is really hard, it's killing me. I'm tired and cranky all the time, short-tempered. I'm not enjoying my children at all. I have no time for anything, and with Ainsley's reflux or whatever she's go going on, I haven't sleep or been able to put her down in a week. That makes for a very unhappy two year old. AND my effing dog is now peeing on the carpet, or has been for several weeks. I don't have the time to clean that mess up, but have to. He's going to have to find a new home soon because I just don't have the time or energy for him.

[neveryoumindthere]

Megan, let me know what the doc says! Hope everything goes ok :

[sonshine_rae]

((((hugs))))) Tara I'm sorry your DH responded that way, did you already 'know' he doesn't agree with the way your raising Ally Rae? I hope you can work together to come to agreement, life will be soooo much better once you can understand and agree with each other.

neveryoumind there ((((hugs))))) I'm sorry your lo has been crying so much, how terrible! I'd guess something is wrong, or that the babe is just completely overtired (that can cause painful sounding screams too). Either way I hope your babe calms down for you soon.

mamanurse .... yeah for her taking a bottle.... hopefully she'll get used to one now and do fine when you go back to work !

AAM: Well I made the usual woman mistake and tried to assume DH would know what I wanted/needed this morning.... oh well he did figure it out lol. Our baby slept a lot yesterday and a lot in the evening, then went down early (for him) at 10:45 and slept till 5:15 (awesome).... however after eating then he wouldn't go back to sleep!!!! Finally I decided if he was still awake by 6:30 I'd give him to DH cause I was getting really frustrated (normally the baby nurses back to sleep and we co-sleep on the couch the rest of the 'night').
So when it was almost 6:30 I went in to our room and sat on the bed with a fussing baby..... DH snores on for a while..... then finally wakes up and goes to the bathroom (and I think oh good now he'll take the baby.... nope!) he comes back to bed and proceeds to go back to sleep. I finally grumpily said 'Are you trying to make me mad!? Then he mumbles something about not knowing what to do.... to which I replied 'the same thing you do at any time of day..... you help! (I was really grouchy) So DH rouses himself enough to hold the fussing baby for a bit, then asks me to hold him while he gets dressed.... he throws some clothes on and takes the baby out to the living room finally.

So I promptely went to sleep after they left lol. DH woke me as he came back to our room at 8:20 or so, and took a shower. I talked to him later after we were both dressed, and apologized for not just 'asking' for help and he admitted he didn't know what was going on (poor guy sleeps kinda heavy and doesn't always 'snap' to wakefulness). But then he told me he got the baby to sleep a little after 7am.. and held him for an hour.. then put him in his bed. Amazingly it's a quarter to 10am.... and the baby is STILL sleeping!

Yay .... I'm glad I got DH to help .... even if I did it the wrong way this time lol.. I'll try to do better next time .