Originally Posted by Scalpel
So does where you live have more legal bearing then where the child is born?
How would this play out if the child is born in a pro second parent adpotion state but parents reside in a neighboring state where no such second parent adpotions are legal. Anyone know?
It depends on where the parents live, not where the child is born, because the second parent adoption happens after the birth, often months or years later.
It gets very complicated, but there is legal precedent for states to recognize second parent adoptions from other states.
There was recently a case where a lesbian couple had separated and the mother who had given birth moved to Virginia, amazingly, they upheld the Vermont decision. More here, if you want to know about it
It's important to recognize that second parent adoption and same-sex marriage are very different issues. Yes, they both protect families, but right now, second parent adoption is much more suited to protecting the rights of queer parents and children across state lines, and also more available than same-sex marriage.