Hey ladies. Just want to follow up on my using the term "mistake" to refer to my decision to not have kids until my mid 30s.
First of all, I put it in quotes for a reason!
Secondly, my perspective is colored by the fact that I never knew my maternal grandmother, and my kids will never know their maternal grandmother, either. If they wait til mid-life to have kids, I'll never know them, most likely. My mom had a very good reason -- she didn't marry until her late 30s. I never made a conscious choice to wait -- I actively DID NOT WANT KIDS! So I feel like not being open to kids WAS a mistake for me, since my personal circumstances would have been a lot different 10 years ago than they are now.
Plus, I wasn't out climbing mountains or discovering vaccines. I was pretty much being selfish and materialistic and immature. I thought there was no way I could have handled kids. Now I know better, and wish I had done this earlier.
So, I obviously have very complicated feelings about the matter, and when I start to think about my daughter(s?) possibly making the same choices in 30 years, it makes me very sad. These things have a way of repeating themselves in families, I have found.
But, I'm thrilled for those of you who are not so conflicted about waiting until later in life. Honestly! Ok, back to the thread.