July mamas over 35 - Page 2

[sarahsmiles]

Originally Posted by veganmama719

Looks liek I am still the oldest,

It does start to freak me out when I realize I will be 60 when this child graduates high school!

Well, if it makes you feel any better, my mom made it through high school, college, and 2 grad school graduations just fine!

[veganmama719]

Originally Posted by sarahsmiles

Well, if it makes you feel any better, my mom made it through high school, college, and 2 grad school graduations just fine!

How about her grandchildren? If DD waits as long as I did, I will be 70 when I am a first time grandma, 77 for this babe!

Actually I am in really good shape, very healthy so I am not as worried as if I had the health problems my grandparents had. They died at 49, 60, 72 and 74.

[calmom]

i am 35. physically, i feel better than when i was in my twenties because i am exercising and a strict vegan so much healthier BUT nothing can help how tired i am. emotionally, i feel much more prepared (even though this was not planned!) and better able to deal with my anxiety issues this time around too.

[sarahsmiles]

Originally Posted by veganmama719

How about her grandchildren? If DD waits as long as I did, I will be 70 when I am a first time grandma, 77 for this babe!

Actually I am in really good shape, very healthy so I am not as worried as if I had the health problems my grandparents had. They died at 49, 60, 72 and 74.

Yeah, that's the problem. I never wanted kids, and my mom never encouraged us to even consider it. She thought the world was going to h@*& and didn't think it was good to bring more kids into the world. I was busy with school, and didn't think I could handle them. (Some days, I still don't!)

It wasn't until she died at 76 (after a decades long decline with congestive heart failure) that DH and I considered kids. I was 34 when we made that decision. My father is now 87 and in a nursing home in another state. He's seen his 2 year old granddaughter about 5 times.

I certainly hope my kid(s) won't wait as long as I did, but you can't expect them to learn from your "mistakes."

[Mama_Michelle]

Hi - I am 38 and will be 39 when this babe is born. I have 2 DDs... I was 33 when DD1 was born and 35 when DD2 was born. I have fewer symptoms this time...I don't feel especially tired or anything (which is sort of stressing me out but hopefully everything is going OK!).

sarahsmiles - My DH and I talk about not wanting our kids to wait as long as us either! I think being a grandmother is going to be awesome.

[veganmama719]

Welcome Michelle. I certainly, for my sake, don't want my kids to wait as long as I did. However, I think there are good things about waiting too so I will try very hard to be mindful of that and not badger my kids too much, LOL!

Sarah, I am sorry you lost your mom before she could see her grandbabies.

I have not been for a run in 15 days now. This might be a new record for me (except postpartum i think). I have just been to tired and sick.

[pinaymommy]

Hello everyone. This is my very first time on this site. I am 40 years old and having my fourth baby. I have felt embarrassed by my age and being pregnant again. I have a 15 year old son, a seven year old girl, and a three year old boy. My husband is 43 years old. We are excited and know this will be the last that I give birth to. I feel old this time and less confident but I also feel this lightening up as this pregnancy sinks in. We are all very excited. This will be my fourth homebirth. I'm so glad to have found this discussion and to know that there are so many other "over 35" moms out there to talk to. Thanks for the company!!!

[ATruck]

Originally Posted by sarahsmiles

I certainly hope my kid(s) won't wait as long as I did, but you can't expect them to learn from your "mistakes."

I really don't consider it a mistake that I waited until 35/36 to have my first. I did a lot of interesting things pre-kids and wouldn't trade that for anything. All of those experiences helped to make me the mama that I am today.

[Amberoxy]

Hi, I'll be turning 35 a couple months after this baby arrives. I am feeling much more tired this time than last time but think that is mostly due to having to take care of a baby this time while pregnant. I have fond memories of all the lying around and napping I did last time I was pregnant. I remember thinking then that I didn't know how women who had kids already could cope with being pregnant and taking care of kids. I still don't know...I panic somedays wondering how I am going to get make it through. I sure hope the exhaustion lets up as I move into the 2nd tri.

[veganmama719]

I'm still the oldest?

[pinaymommy]

41 at birth

I am pretty damn close! And so's AnnR33!

And I'm really with you ATruck- Not a mistake at all.

[sarahsmiles]

Clarifying "mistake"

Hey ladies. Just want to follow up on my using the term "mistake" to refer to my decision to not have kids until my mid 30s.
First of all, I put it in quotes for a reason!
Secondly, my perspective is colored by the fact that I never knew my maternal grandmother, and my kids will never know their maternal grandmother, either. If they wait til mid-life to have kids, I'll never know them, most likely. My mom had a very good reason -- she didn't marry until her late 30s. I never made a conscious choice to wait -- I actively DID NOT WANT KIDS! So I feel like not being open to kids WAS a mistake for me, since my personal circumstances would have been a lot different 10 years ago than they are now.
Plus, I wasn't out climbing mountains or discovering vaccines. I was pretty much being selfish and materialistic and immature. I thought there was no way I could have handled kids. Now I know better, and wish I had done this earlier.
So, I obviously have very complicated feelings about the matter, and when I start to think about my daughter(s?) possibly making the same choices in 30 years, it makes me very sad. These things have a way of repeating themselves in families, I have found.
But, I'm thrilled for those of you who are not so conflicted about waiting until later in life. Honestly! Ok, back to the thread.

[veganmama719]

Hi ladies! To clarify, I will be 42 when the bambino is born.

I had lunch today with a male friend who is a year older than I am. His oldest is in university now and the youngest is in Gr 11 or 12. In some ways I really envy him int hat he will see his grandchildren most likely.

But his kids are pretty self sufficent now. He hasn't talked to his daughter since she finished her exams (must be last week). She has been closer to her mother since the divorce.

If I had married that early (because of a PG) I definitely woulda been divorced by now. And maybe my kids wouldn'tbe close to their dad any more.

I will take my 4 year old singing It's A Wonderful World to me anyday!

Seriously, how cute are these lines from a 4 year old ?...the bwight bless of day, the dark sacrwed night........ I see babies cwying, I see them grow, they'll learn me than I've ever know and I tink to myself what a wonderful world.....

[majorsky]

I will be 36 when this one is born. I'm totally happy with the fact that I'm having my children later than many of the women in my neighborhood. I got to live it up in my 20s.

Kristin

[pinaymommy]

I realize as I am thinking back and listening to you guys that I have been having babies for 16 years! It took me 16 years to have four babies! And you can bet that I did do a lot of amazing things in between them. Sometimes I envy you guys that just had your babies all together but one thing I can say is that I do get a lot of help!

No need to explain. I know we never really mean "mistake" because its all the way it is meant to be so our little spirit babies can come and be with us here in this earthly world and they choose when and how anyway! No matter how it works out- Its amazing huh?

Here's to all of us "older" moms and all that we have to contribute to mothering!

[veganmama719]

Hi mamas!

I will be away from the internet the 24th though the 26th so just wanted to check in with you all.

I threw up on Saturday for the first time and pretty much slept all weekend. At work, i am frantically scrambling to close a big deal before Christmas.

Hope you are all well!

[tana'smama]

Having my 39th Bday in Jan and due July 19th 2009

Hey all,

I'm glad to see this thread--happy to see that I'm not the only late bloomer out there...This is my second baby and I have an eleven month old and I am CONSTANTLY exhausted. Also since I found out about the pregnancy my depression has deepened.

I went to the P-doc but they wouldn't prescribe me anything in my first tri-mester so I've got to toughen it out.

My little Tana is a demanding little thing and I find motherhood hard to cope with.

I enjoy hearing from you guys....

[veganmama719]

Tana, being the mommy of a toddler when you are PG is tough. My DD was 12 months old when I got PG with her brother and I was "only" 36 then.

Try to be as good to yourself as you can. I have depression issues too It runs in my family) although it doesn' affect me while pg for some reason. But my sister struggled with prenatal depression when she was PG with my 14 month old nephew.

Do not try to be SuperWoman. You need to look after yourself and get as much rest as you can. Can you hire a cleaning lady? Or is there a healthy meal delivery service in your town that you could use a couple of times a week?

My kids are 6 and almost 5 now so they are somewhat self sufficient in that at least they can feed themselves and potty themselves so I don't have to get up off the couch that often if I have planted myself there. And they can play semi-independantly (although some days a lot of referring is involved!)

Hang in there!

[pinaymommy]

depression

Hey Tanasmama! Hows the depression? Stay in touch. I know that prenatal depression can be pretty intense. We are all here for you and each other so don't drift too far.

Happy new year everyone and also just wanted to keep this thread going because it means a lot to me to know other "older" moms. I cant shake feeling old but I know thats a bit irrational. 40 is not old- even for baby birthing! Just gotta start feeling it. stay active and not get too bogged down with life!

[veganmama719]

Michelle, I have a friend from another thread just about to give birth. She is 45 and is amazing. I don't really think we are too old either. I look a lot younger than some of the women I knew in high school that have kids in university now.

I did have a lot more trouble getting PG this time (15 months and 2 losses as oppsoed to 4 months and first try respecctively when I was in my mid thirties) but other than that, this PG doesn't feel any different. Maybe better even. I just ran during the other 2 PGs. Now I do yoga and work out with a trainer as well.

I'd like to keep this thread going too.