Queer and Pregnant Dec., Jan., Feb. - Page 5

[2happymamas]

Pran...I know it's not very nice, but I really wanna bring my 37.5 week pregnant ass down there and get her. I could totally be there in an hour. I don't see how someone can say such mean, hurtful things to a person. To any person, much less someone they claimed to have cared about.

I am sorry she turned out to be such an ass. With this behavior, she does not deserve that boy. He deserves to only have people in his life who love him and want to be in his life. Not someone who feels as though she was tricked or trapped.

[pranava]

Thanks 2happymammas!! The thought of 2 pregnant women walking into a bar(she's a bartender) and taking her down cracks me up

That must be awesome for Coco's sister to be so close to you. What an amazing family life she'll have! You're getting very close now : I've been searching the net for central indiana queer parent play groups. I can't find anything established. Do you know of any? If not, maybe I should start one. I think it would be great for the kiddos, and I might meet a cute single lesbian mama

[AngelaM]

MissScarlett- I am so, so sorry. I lost my first pregnancy very early on, and it was a terrible experience. Many women also bleed and don't lose their pregnancies. Either way, you are in my thoughts. Big .

Pranava- Your kid is going to have a great life with you. And yes, find/start a parenting group. The connections I've made in mine have been so important. And, there is dating, life, and love after parenthood. Really.

[Miss Scarlett]

Reluctant goodbye

Well girls, Im officially heading back over to the TTC thread. Hopefully Ill be back in late February to join you all again. Thank you for the kind words and support. Im sorry my stay was so short (but grateful if it had to end like this it was brief)

Best of luck and healthy babies to all

Miss Scarlett

[pranava]

I'm so sorry Miss Scarlett. I hope you join us again soon

[heart-n-bones]

So sorry to hear that Miss Scarlett. Give your self some time to heal and surround yourself with lots of love.

[DM630]

Miss Scarlett I am so sorry. Be kind to yourself. I hope to see you back here real soon

[DM630]

I feel like I have been playing catch up over the past few days. We lost power for 3 days and it has been crazy since. We were a lot luckier then others I know who are still without power.

So last Friday I was scheduled to have my third beta. Because of the storm there were powerlines blocking the road preventing me to go, so I had to go on Saturday. Typically I would have gotten the results by Monday, but my doctor's office did not have power or phones until today. The past few days have been crazy...wondering and waiting. (Last year I had a miscarriage around the same time, so that added to my anxiety)
Well the doctor called this morning and my beta was 888! I am very excited. The numbers are higher then I had expected. It is really real! I have an appointment for an ultrasound on 12/29 and we should be able to see the heart beat.

We haven't told many people, just those strong supports in our lives. And I told my mother, because she lives with us. I am just wondering when others told their family, friends, and co-workers.

As I become more excited about it I find it hard not to tell people.

[JennM1021]

DM...we told close family members right away. They knew we were TTC and constantly wanted updates anyway. The last time around...the one we lost...we told EVERYONE right away. We were more selective this time. Close friends knew at about 8-10 weeks...after we saw the heartbeat. I actually just told my co-workers yesterday at our holiday party. I'll be 12 weeks tomorrow...and so far so good...so I figured it was time. Besides...half of them said they guessed it already because of my belly!!! Seriously...at 12 weeks...I'm showing already!!! Is this normal? Any of you other mamas start showing this early? At least enough for half your co-workers to notice?! I mean...I've only gained 3lbs and I think most of that is in my boobs!!!! But my belly is really staring to out me!!!

[lexbeach]

We heard the today! : It was the most amazing sound in the whole world!

We are feeling blissed-out beyond words, and more excited than ever about our teeny tiny baby.

It's starting to feel real.



Lex

[indigoscot]

yay for a heartbeat lex and lena!!!! it is the most wonderful sound in the world, i know i never tired of hearing it at my ob appts.

g

[heart-n-bones]

Yay for heartbeat!!!


Well, baby has just been squirming like crazy these days. Yesterday we played a little game together. Baby kicked me, so I tried pushing back where himer kicked. The baby kicked me back! So we played a little game of kick and push... until baby started kicking me in the bladder and I had to go. It was quite fun!!

[quasar]

What a fun game, heart-n-bones! :

Yay for the heartbeat, lexbeach! It does make it so much more real, doesn't it?

DM630, we told my family and most of our coworkers pretty much as soon as we found out. They knew of our attempts to get pregnant, and were constantly asking if we got a positive, so as soon as we did, they knew. The only ones we really didn't tell were smartycat's parents. I forgot how far along I was before I told them, but they didn't take the news that well, so I'm glad we hadn't said something when we were trying to conceive. I told some of my online friends once I hit the second trimester, and my parents have spread the news to some of their friends now that we know the sex of the baby. So, the news is still getting out there, but we did tell a lot of people in the beginning as well.

[starling&diesel]

Congratulations , lexbeach and lena and your beautiful boys!:
It is so, so, so reassuring to hear that tiny little ticker galloping away, isn't it?

As for us, we trekked down to the city for a midwife appointment, and due to a snow storm it took a full 9 hours to get there and back. Doesn't bode well, if we have that kind of weather in February, being that we're having our birth at my sister's home in the city because we're too far away from the nearest hospital for midwives to be able to practice here. We have tonnes of snow where we live and are completely at ease with it, but the city isn't used to it (balmy Vancouver) and just goes to pot when faced with more than 3 cm of snow. :

I've put a birth kit into the truck, just in case I have to put my handy-dandy paramedic skills to use on my fine, fabulous self while DP navigates our truck through another blizzard. Thank goddess for our sturdy Ford F150 (with heated seats!) and our skookum winter tires!

The midwife laughed when we showed up. She said people in the city had been canceling all day, but that she can always count on her rural clients to make it no matter what.

Baby is head down, curled along my left side, heart rate of about 155. My BP is 104/64, and no protein in my urine. We're all good!

[lexbeach]

Originally Posted by DM630

I am just wondering when others told their family, friends, and co-workers.

As I become more excited about it I find it hard not to tell people.

We told most people who we see/talk to daily pretty quickly. There was one big telling right away, a second one around 6 weeks, and then a third around 8 weeks . . . I guess as dw got sicker, it felt more reasonable to tell people what was up.

But it wasn't until today that we spread the news to EVERYONE we know. We wanted to wait until the second trimester (dw is 13 weeks today) and until we'd heard the heartbeat (also today).

We spread the word by sending out/posting this video of Zeb (our black-eyed baby ): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zm56RjE6vRw

It was so much fun!

Lex

[pranava]

Lex! That's so sweet! He's adorable

[indigoscot]

omg, zeben is adorable! i also watched the singing one, the abc song cracked me up. our son just started trying to sing along with twinkle twinkle - i think he gets maybe 1 or 2 words right.

dm, we told a very select few people at the beginning - our massage therapist (she had been working with me to get ready for insems), dp's best friend and her co-worker (because she guessed what was going on with all the appts). we told dp's family on her dad's birthday dinner at just short of 13 weeks and everyone else after our 13 week appt. i thought it would be hard to keep secret but i hated the thought of having to untell people had things not worked out!

g

[JenInMpls]

holy CRAP is he adorable. Oh, the cuteness.

[QTRANDI]

Shots

I am 7 days tomorrow...from starting to wean off of my progesterone shots that I've been taking since mid-October.

My butt has gotten pretty lumpy.

We've had a bit of scares so far......spotting, bleeding, etc. and of course the midwife appointment cancelled yesterday (when we were going to TRY to hear the heartbeat) now I have to wait until January 5th....... but maybe it was meant to be for me not to have the appointment being a bit early....

Tomorrow I will be 11 weeks. Almost through the 1st trimester and am wearing maternity jeans already......and a week or 2 and I'll be wearing all maternity pants. nothing tight on the belly......ugh

Randi

[starling&diesel]

32 weeks today!!! :

My friend and I did a big toy drive up to the remote reserves, and baby sure liked the 4x4 (or hated it...)! Lots of kicking and poking as we drove along the logging roads. We stopped at a hot springs on the way back, but because the pools are too hot for baby, I dunked my legs while wearing as many layers on top as possible (it's -20 celsius here). The hot springs are so beautiful in all of the snow!

Now I shall eat homemade cream of broccoli soup that DP made for my lunch (she's at work). She also made me muffins for breakfast for the week. She rocks. I sure think she's the bomb!