Originally Posted by mommy68
Seriously, I've done the math and if the class has 15 students then asking parents to donate this amount of money would mean she is purchasing a gift valued at atleast $200 for EACH teacher.
There's no way I believe that. She's likely buying something around $20 and keeping the rest. I'd have serious issues with it and would bring it up with the teacher or head of the school.
I am really sorry you think this way about someone who is spending her time to coordinate gifts for the kids' teachers...
We've done group donations for teacher gifts many times. I have been in charge of that, and I've donated when other moms were in charge. I would be really offended if someone thought I was STEALING money meant for a teacher gratitude gift!!!
One, this is (or should be) voluntary. If you can give, this is a suggestion. Clearly if you aren't able to give that amount - or any amount - then don't. At our school, some people gave the recommended amount, some gave double that to cover those who couldn't donate, some didn't donate any. We don't keep track of who gave or how much. Everyone's name goes on the card. And the teachers open them in front of the class - "wow, tickets to the Fifth Ave AND my favorite restaurant TOO?!? You guys are so generous! Thank you!"
Originally Posted by Hannahsmummy
What I think is icky is the suggestion that the parent organizing this is stealing some of the money.
I agree. If anything, when I organized, I put in MORE of my own money to get to the next even amount. So if we ended up gathering $180 (of which I'd already donated into), I'd put in another $20 to make the next "even" amount. Plus buy a card and gift wrap if necessary, plus gas money and time to get it all pulled together. None of that is paid time. You do it because you appreciate the teacher.
Almost never do you get 100% participation with group gifts. I do think if is kind (to the person doing the coordinating) to reply that you are doing your own gift though. 'Cause if you don't, how are we to know if you meant to but just forgot or aren't going to for whatever reason? I don't want to bug people who already have another gift planned, and I certainly don't want to make anyone feel bad for not being able to afford to go in on a group gift!