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post #21 of 47
No, but we toyed with the idea. It largely came down to one of my main reasons for homeschooling- I don't want to be tied to a school schedule- have to be up at X time, vacations set, etc.

-Angela
post #22 of 47
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Originally Posted by Linda on the move View Post
One of my DDs started school for the first time in 5th grade and adjusted just fine. A change that is difficult when a child is 3 is fun and exciting when they are 10.
This is comforting.

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Originally Posted by Purple Cat View Post
I'll share my experience, even though I'm sensing it's a minority viewpoint here.

I did send my twins to preschool. At age 2, they attended 2x/week for 2 hours each day. At age 3, they attend 3x/week for 2 1/2 hours each day. At age 4, they will attend 4x/week for 2 1/2 hours each day. At this program, the time sent in school is relatively brief.

I did find some HUGE benefits. Foremost, my children learned to make transitions quickly and easily. I went from taking forever to get us out of the house and still being late, to having my children cooperate and quickly dress and exit. Our preschool worked on transitions and my children benefitted greatly.

I considered it a "positive" that my children developed relationships with very nurturing teachers and learned to accept necessary limits from them.

I considered it a "positive" that my children spent a good chunk of time playing with and developing relationships with a consistent group of children.

They also benefitted in my view from the structure.

I don't think these benefits are limited in their usefulness simply to children continuing in a formal school institution. I also don't think these benefits can exclusively be derived from preschool. But for me, as a single parent with no family in the area and twins, preschool was immensely helpful to our family and to my childrne.

Thank you for posting this. Although I'm still up in the air about it, leaning towards no, everything that you pointed out is exactly why I am pondering it.
post #23 of 47
I have nothing against a good preschool program. I was lucky to find an excellent co-op (3Xs a week, 2.5 hours per day). Here are my experiences:

DD1:
1st year of preK (just turned 4): LOVED it.
2nd year of preK (age 4 and 5): Didn't enjoy it as much. Too academic, but not the right level for her. Had behavioral issues. Different teacher.
KG: (different school, age 5.5): Hated it, but no behavioral issues.
2nd grade (age 6.5): Hated it. Was in for 3 months, and now I've pulled her out for HSing.

DD2:
Started her in the same preK program with the same great teacher at age 3.5. Was excited to go at first, but quickly lost interest. Made up excuses to stay home. Had no problems at all in class, but just wanted to be with me.

So, as you can see, going to a preK, even a great one, will not necessarily mean your child will have more fun there than with you at home, even if you aren't doing all those neat activities. Putting your child in will also not guarantee that your child will ever enjoy school, as in the case of DD1.
post #24 of 47
No preschool. My DH were not even planning on homeschooling but preschool was always off the table.
It turned out though that DD does not do well by any stretch of the imagination in large groups and becomes overwhelmed very easily. This is what led me to researching homeschooling and that just solidified my decsion not to send her preschool either.
post #25 of 47
I didn't send them to preschool. I think that some preschools can be good as childcare to give the parent a break, but if your child is around other people regularly, I don't see any added benefits to sending them to preschool.
post #26 of 47
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Originally Posted by ~Calla~ View Post
Just curious. We're planning on HS, but with the *chance* that we can't continue, I was wondering what your thoughts on the benefits of preschool are if you plan on HS anyway. Did you send your child to preschool? Tell me why.
No, I did not. I don't care for preschools personally.
post #27 of 47
We had our daughter in several preschools until the age of 5 when we decided to homeschool (never considered it before then). If I had to do it over again, I would not do it...I would seek out play mates to come to either our home or theirs, or the park. And even this I wouldn't worry about doing too much! If I had to do preschool, I would only do 2 days a week for no longer than 2.5 hours per day.

It is sad, yet very interesting (when taking an objective perspective) to have been able to observe the affects of full-time preschool, part-time 5 days a week preschool, and a 2 or 3 partial days a week preschool. My daughter's serenity suffered greatly the more she was out of the home.

Was she not enjoying preschool? She seemed to be, said she was, loved her friends, she had no bad issues, all the teachers loved her. I'm not bragging!! I'm trying to explain that even though she seemed perfectly happy, social, and to fit in with whatever rules were present, I can tell you *now* that she was being forced to rise to the occasion. She did it, and she did it well, but it was far too much for her. I didn't realize until we stopped, or increased, etc. And sometimes even when I noticed certain things after stopping or starting or increasing or decreasing her preschool time, I didn't put two and two together.

Hindsight sucks for the mother's conscience sometimes.
post #28 of 47
Wow, faded girl!!!! Your daughter is so lucky to have such a thoughtful and reflective mother. THAT is more important than what schooling avenues we pursue. Our hearts are what matters.

I have seen that dynamic of which you wrote and I admire you for sharing that with us. Again, your daughter is lucky and truly Blessed you are her mother.

post #29 of 47
We've decided to homeschool but I must say we considered preschool for a bit. DD talks about school alot and everyone always asks her if she's in preschool. Now she says "no, we homeschool." Which always makes me smile and feel proud. Anyway, I was wondering if it would be good for her next year with baby coming but I've decided against it. She knows way more than what they would teach at preschool so the only thing she'd be getting is time away from me. We spend plenty of time with other kids with our homeschool group (which will be doing some co-ops too), playdates, sunday school, music class, ballet...so she doesn't need any more of that. I wish there was a montesorri type preschool that only did 1-2 hours 2 days a week but there isn't. They focus more on the child's learning level and more hands on activities but again that itsn't available here...I'm hoping the co-op offers more learning opportunity because to be honest, as a pregnant mommy, I'm really lacking at physically teaching lately...we are unschooling at this point which is okay by me but I always look for other ways to enrich her learning.

I must say today she did a lot of activities and learning on her own with playdough, coloring, folding valentines cards (leftover from last year), sorting her colored chips, and we read some books.
post #30 of 47
All my kids attend Montessori preschool until they finish the final year, and then I homeschool. I do this for several reasons, even though I love homeschooling and plan to continue for as long as it is successful for each child.

- I love the Montessori environment, which, while it can in part be replicated at home, really depends on the specialized materials in the classroom.

- My daughters love the school and are eager, every day, to attend.

- It helps that someone more patient than I has them for a few hours each morning. My youngest daughter is "spirited" or "challenging" or whatever term you prefer and I am not able to meet her needs well without this outside help, and I am better able to meet the needs of my other children because she is happier.

- I think Montessori helps children learn self-direction and independence in ways that are useful for hsing. Of course, this can certainly be taught at home, but again, it's been better for us with the guidance of those infinitely patient Montessori teachers!

In the end, I think it's very personal, not only what you want to do, but what is right for your child and what the options are.
post #31 of 47
We didn't and don't send ours to preschool, but mainly because we can't afford it LOL DH's job doesn't pay enough for us to maintain our budget (including the monthly amount we set aside for Christmas every year, and other activities including our hs budget) and have the money for preschool. Not with 2 in gymnastics, choir, and AWANA with a third about to start AWANA next month, and with my medical needs. Maybe if we didn't have to spend so much on prescriptions and doctor appointments for me, but with my prescription needs being twice the cost of the preschool nearest our home (which also happens to be an awesome montessori school and I totally love it and would give my right arm to afford to send my girls there and then to a specific private school 5 min from our home) It just is NOT a feasable option for us. Nope, no preschool here for my kids, hsed or even if they were to go to public or private school. I can NOT justify spending that much money right now, we have too many other places that money needs to go to maintain what we consider the perfectly balanced lifestyle and budget for our family dynamics (which is not a super thrifty frugal budget and lifestyle, however we feel that certain wants are important enough to make sacrifices in other areas, like the digital cable and high speed internet, or the specific homeschool curriculum we use that is expensive but still cheaper than preschool in our area)
post #32 of 47
DS1 did attend a full-day (8:30-2:30) public preschool. We now homeschool for Kindy. I don't regret it one bit. It was right for our family at the time (newborn and 2 year old plus DS1). He thrived there... and lucked out in having a wonderful experienced, caring teacher... and great class for him (mostly boys). He loved school... and I think, in many ways, it has made our homeschooling experience easier.
post #33 of 47
Just to add a bit to what a pp said, there's some research that indicates an increase in aggressive behavior when children 3-4 are in preschool for more than 15 hours a week. So you might want to think about keeping it to a minimum if you do send your dc, although of course every child is different. I am personally pretty opposed to preschool, but maybe that's because I hated it (I actually remember the 1 day I went) and my mom pulled me out. ;-)
post #34 of 47
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Originally Posted by Arduinna View Post
no, because I'm committed to HSing and because I don't think there are really any benefits to preschool. IMO it's just glorified daycare.
I dont think of it as glorified daycare! Dd went to a GREAT preschool and ds really wanted to go too. He is only gone 2 hrs a day for 3 days. It has helped him quite a bit with name writing, and other things he just didnt want to do at home. He loves his teacher so much, she is great, and they do alot of family oriented activities. Since he has started preschool, it has actually been easier to homeschool him. NOw he really wants to get involved in the math activities when dd does them, and he likes to try to write and spell at home now too!

I think if it were daycare, I would drop him off and leave him there all day! Daycare would be a "break" from him, but I drop him off, spend 20 minutes with him getting his projects done, then pick him up about an hour and a half later.
post #35 of 47
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Originally Posted by Purple Cat View Post
I'll share my experience, even though I'm sensing it's a minority viewpoint here.

I did send my twins to preschool. At age 2, they attended 2x/week for 2 hours each day. At age 3, they attend 3x/week for 2 1/2 hours each day. At age 4, they will attend 4x/week for 2 1/2 hours each day. At this program, the time sent in school is relatively brief.

I did find some HUGE benefits. Foremost, my children learned to make transitions quickly and easily. I went from taking forever to get us out of the house and still being late, to having my children cooperate and quickly dress and exit. Our preschool worked on transitions and my children benefitted greatly.

I considered it a "positive" that my children developed relationships with very nurturing teachers and learned to accept necessary limits from them.

I considered it a "positive" that my children spent a good chunk of time playing with and developing relationships with a consistent group of children.

They also benefitted in my view from the structure.

I don't think these benefits are limited in their usefulness simply to children continuing in a formal school institution. I also don't think these benefits can exclusively be derived from preschool. But for me, as a single parent with no family in the area and twins, preschool was immensely helpful to our family and to my childrne.
So how do you feel that those positives will translate to your homeschooling?
post #36 of 47
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Originally Posted by ~Calla~ View Post
Just curious. We're planning on HS, but with the *chance* that we can't continue, I was wondering what your thoughts on the benefits of preschool are if you plan on HS anyway. Did you send your child to preschool? Tell me why.
well .... we are planning on HS our 3 small ones. We are starting DD#2 in a Mother's Day Out program 2 days/week in January. For us, it's an opportunity for her to get out, socialize, and to help us 'structure' our life a bit. I'm hoping to be able to spend a little more one on one time with the boys, and JUST possibly get my house a bit more organized/decluttered, etc.

Our DD#2 really gets cabin fever, and honestly, I don't have the energy to get out with her every day. I think she will enjoy this.

I'm one of the few here who said yes, but I think this will work well for us.
post #37 of 47
we did two years of preschool per girl. 2 hrs a week, twice a week. at a co-op, where parents participate once or twice a month. it was a great community builder for me, got us out of the house, and was completely 'playschool' with NO emphasis on academics, NAYEC accredited with complete emphasis on PLAY.

we could have continued to 3 days a week, 2.5 hours but didn't enjoy the teacher as much and thought it more of a hassle than it would be worth.

and we plan to homeschool through high school.
post #38 of 47
Yes I did send my son to school after my daughter was born. I was really happy with the preschool and did part time from age 4-5 when he went to primary school. Again, really happy with the school. I am glad I made the choice to put my children in school though I am open and understanding of homeschooling. It's a person by person choice; try it out and if it feels wrong, you can always change your mind.
post #39 of 47
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Originally Posted by Arduinna View Post
So how do you feel that those positives will translate to your homeschooling?
I'm not the poster you're questioning, but I'm not sure where you're going with this. Must they "translate to homeschooling" for the experiences to have been worthwhile or valuable?
post #40 of 47
I'm trying to get a feel for how the PP felt those positives she listed benefited them as HSers. How people feel it benefited them as out of home schoolers has generally been well covered on other forums, so I thought I'd ask the same thing here.
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