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Has Anyone Wanted/Prayed For Twins And Actually Gotten Them?

post #1 of 44
Thread Starter 
I have read post after post here on this forum about women wondering if they are having twins, and 99% of the time it is only one baby. I just wanted to take a quick survey to see if there was anyone who really wanted twins and/or prayed for them and got them!! :

I'll start with this precious story (you'll love it):
http://sahmissionary.blogspot.com/20...y-overdue.html
post #2 of 44
See I wold be one of those women wondering if it was twins constantly, because it is seriously a huge fear of mine! I know that sounds awful, and of course if I was lucky enough to have two healthy babies at once I would be incredibly thankful and love them dearly. But two at once??? Oy, I don't think I could deal. It just doesn't sound fun to me. At. All. That said, twins run rampant on my mom's side of the family. So I think I'll be anxious.

It is of course nice to hear stories of God answering prayers. I'll be praying my little heart out for a healthy singleton! (oh shoot, already am!)
post #3 of 44
I prayed everyday while I was trying to concieve for healthy identical twins boys. I was pretty thrilled to get my boy/girl twins on my second time around. And then . . . Jesse and Davin. It wasn't the first time my prayers had been answered, but I still end up in awe sometimes when I look at them.
post #4 of 44
The sterilization blackmail and the wife coming to terms with it due to religiously being under her dh's "direction" sent a shiver down my spine. In many cases tying the tubes can cause a woman chronic pain -- why didn't *he* get snipped since it was his direction? ... don't want to ruin the thread with negativity, but that part creeped me out too much to enjoy the story at all.
post #5 of 44
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Originally Posted by elephantine View Post
The sterilization blackmail and the wife coming to terms with it due to religiously being under her dh's "direction" sent a shiver down my spine. In many cases tying the tubes can cause a woman chronic pain -- why didn't *he* get snipped since it was his direction?
:

I wouldn't want to be "under direction" of someone who made the decisions about the size of our family without any input from me -- not to mention insisting that I have surgery!
post #6 of 44
I wouldn't be bothered as much by the whole "we can have more babies if you get your tubes tied" bargain without the "under his direction" language. That is just a worldview that is entirely alien to me, and rather distressing to my way of thinking.

Then again, praying for twins sounds crazy to me, too. I love my twins more than anything in the universe, but I never ever wanted to have twins and cried about the possibility of using Clomid because of the increased risk of twinning. Then I went and got pregnant on my own without Clomid and got...twins. Life is funny.
post #7 of 44
Thread Starter 
Yes, people have many different beliefs. I just thought it would be neat to hear from those who wished for twins and had their desire granted. Thank you for sharing!
post #8 of 44
I always wanted twins (and I'm so happy to have them!) but I didn't want them on the tail end of 6 in 6 years!
post #9 of 44
I always wanted ID twin girls. I just thought they were so cute in matching outfits. We conceived ID girls on our first try and have been : ever since.

Although I will admit I was quite taken back when I found it was twins. Even though dh and I were lined up for twins, I still didn't think it would happen!
post #10 of 44
I didn't pray for them but my husband did.

One day he really felt led to pray for twins and decided not to, but there was such an urge to do it, he prayed it outloud during a group prayer. Everyone there was like, ok but you've already got 2 kids LOL He never told me about the prayer.

When I called to tell him that the 12wk U/S showed twins, he told the group he was with and one of them remembered and said, "Well you shouldn't be surprised, we remember you praying for twins."

When he got home that day and told me about his prayers for twins what did I say? "You should've asked me first."
post #11 of 44
I think I did :

Every single pregnancy I've said to my husband 'maybe it's twins' - this time I just told him after the first scan 'well, they're not identical I don't think' and he didn't even blink. lol. it seemed so normal they were finally here.

I've prayed a lot for friends to have twins too but I tend to add to my disclaimer thesedays that 'if they have good support, easy pregnancies and births, full term babies' etc....

I feel sure (SCARED!) that next time it will be multiples again...if we have a next time
post #12 of 44
I have been fascinated with multiples since childhood and always wanted twins. When we had to do infertility treatments, I thought twins would be really nice since getting pregnant was so difficult. Now I have triplets and I still have moments all the time when it seems so surreal that I am a mom of multiples. We have been blessed beyond belief!
post #13 of 44
Well, not exactly the same, but twins run RAMPANT in my family. Almost all of my siblings had twins, I have two sets of twin siblings, (13 year old frat. boys and 4 year old ident. girls) and then a lot of my elders were twins, (my grandmother, my uncles, my aunts, my cousins, etc). I grew up basically having to take care of MANY twin babies (I was the built in babysitter pretty much), and I was sooo sick of it, that I prayed I wouldn't have twins, as I know how much work they are and how hard it is!

Now though, because I'm having so much trouble trying to concieve, I feel like I would gladly, joyously take twins. (My dark fear is that because I prayed I wouldn't have twins, maybe God won't let me have children, or maybe I was destined to have them, and that stopped when I prayed not to have them...silly I know, but I still think it)
post #14 of 44
I always knew I'd have twins and I think that knowledge made me want them desperately. Each time I was pg prior to them I'd ask my mw so many times, "Are you sure there aren't 2 in there?" and I was always disappointed when there weren't. Once I *was* actually pg with twins, I knew right off the bat though - it was entirely different than with my singeltons where I just wished and hoped they were twins. With my twins I just knew from the moment I knew I was pg. I'd think "the babies" subconsciously and say it w/o thinking and it would drive my dh nuts. He wasn't hoping for twins like I was (although he wasn't opposed to it either)!
post #15 of 44
I wanted twins and now I have them. Sometimes I want to tear my hair out but I wouldn't change having twins for the world.
post #16 of 44
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Originally Posted by Channelle View Post
Well, not exactly the same, but twins run RAMPANT in my family. Almost all of my siblings had twins, I have two sets of twin siblings, (13 year old frat. boys and 4 year old ident. girls) and then a lot of my elders were twins, (my grandmother, my uncles, my aunts, my cousins, etc). I grew up basically having to take care of MANY twin babies (I was the built in babysitter pretty much), and I was sooo sick of it, that I prayed I wouldn't have twins, as I know how much work they are and how hard it is!

Now though, because I'm having so much trouble trying to concieve, I feel like I would gladly, joyously take twins. (My dark fear is that because I prayed I wouldn't have twins, maybe God won't let me have children, or maybe I was destined to have them, and that stopped when I prayed not to have them...silly I know, but I still think it)
I know how miserable fertility issues. are. I hope you have a baby, or two, to snuggle very soon.

When we first started TTC, my husband said he hoped we'd have twins & I said I *did not* want twins, mostly because I knew how much more difficult it would be to AP twins than a singleton. Fast forward 2 years of TTC, Clomid, injectables cycles, IUIs, a failed ICVF & tests after tests & I was praying for twins on our second IVF. I, obviously, got them & am very glad I did. One of the happiest moments of my life was seeing two little heartbeats flickering away at my 6 week ultrasound.
post #17 of 44
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Originally Posted by elephantine View Post
The sterilization blackmail and the wife coming to terms with it due to religiously being under her dh's "direction" sent a shiver down my spine. In many cases tying the tubes can cause a woman chronic pain -- why didn't *he* get snipped since it was his direction? ... don't want to ruin the thread with negativity, but that part creeped me out too much to enjoy the story at all.
Sorry. but yeah. This is a really cool idea for a thread but I instead I found this pretty creepy for the above stated reason. Certainly everyone is entitled to their beliefs. But the entire tone of the blog entry was...sad.
post #18 of 44
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Originally Posted by amicamom View Post
I have read post after post here on this forum about women wondering if they are having twins, and 99% of the time it is only one baby. I just wanted to take a quick survey to see if there was anyone who really wanted twins and/or prayed for them and got them!! :
post #19 of 44
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Originally Posted by f&p'smama View Post
I know how miserable fertility issues. are. I hope you have a baby, or two, to snuggle very soon.

When we first started TTC, my husband said he hoped we'd have twins & I said I *did not* want twins, mostly because I knew how much more difficult it would be to AP twins than a singleton. Fast forward 2 years of TTC, Clomid, injectables cycles, IUIs, a failed ICVF & tests after tests & I was praying for twins on our second IVF. I, obviously, got them & am very glad I did. One of the happiest moments of my life was seeing two little heartbeats flickering away at my 6 week ultrasound.
Aw, thank you. I feel like I get more and more miserable as time goes by. Nothing is wrong with me or him, it's just not happening. I really wanted to get pregnant for Christmas, I bought my mom and his mom a little ornament that said "Grandma's 2st Christmas", as I thought by now I'd be pregnant. Now, I have three days left before I'm expecting my period, and no feelings of being pregnant yet. This is the last chance before Christmas. But I'm going to try to make this a good Christmas anyway.
post #20 of 44
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Originally Posted by elephantine View Post
The sterilization blackmail and the wife coming to terms with it due to religiously being under her dh's "direction" sent a shiver down my spine. In many cases tying the tubes can cause a woman chronic pain -- why didn't *he* get snipped since it was his direction? ... don't want to ruin the thread with negativity, but that part creeped me out too much to enjoy the story at all.
Double 'yeah' on this life-path that is so completely foreign to me.

As for the original question: YES!! :

I always, always, wished and hoped I've have twins. My husband thought it would be really neat, too. We often talked about it and (no lynchings from Moms of fraternals, please!) we talked about how the very best would be identical twins. I know everyone with fraternals loves their kiddos to bits, but we always speculated that perhaps having fraternals was all the same stress and strains of any twins, but without some of the extra-special "twinniness" that comes with MZ pairs.

Got 'em!

Perhaps this has been a defining moment in my life about the power of positive thinking! I can say that in my "softie" moments. The rest of the time I'm a little more scientifically-sceptical of the whole idea of influencing it. In any case, it's been a very interesting mental journey!

Thanks for the thread.
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