well, we now live in a house that's 3k sq. ft, 3 car garage, 5 bedrooms, 1/2 an acre yard but I don't feel like it's too big. Not really anyway. We have 6 people though and before this we were used to living in small apartments and using public storage to house all the extra crap we had. SO I would imagine that plays into it for me. Maybe in a few years I'll want to downsize but at the same time, my kids will be getting bigger by then and will likely want the extra space (right now, none of them want to sleep in their own rooms, ever!) But it doesn't matter what other people think, if having more space and more rooms to clean or collect clutter makes you feel sick, then you are someone that enjoys a more cozy, practical sized home, ya know?
i wonder if the person you visited would still feel the stress of keeping a perfect home if her's were smaller... I know I had a really hard time finding room to keep things organized and having a place for everything when we had a small living space. At the same time, I'm not all anal about clean and tidy home so I imagine that's part of it as well. I don't spend as much time as I probably should cleaning
thus why I will be doing so all day tomorrow before the IL's arrive. Also, I am not good at decorating and haven't even hung up pictures (after almost a year in this house) so I can imagine how stressful it would be to feel like each room has to be magazine perfect. That would be worse with a bigger home!