Anybody Want Another Yet? - Page 2

[slinginhipmama]

Oh yes!!! My mom actually said to me "you are the only person I know to start talking about the next baby a few days after having the newest one". I can't help it! I have always wanted a big family.

[nerdymom]

Originally Posted by OkiMom

We were talking about this the other day. We want another one but not for another year and a half to two years. The pregnancy and birth was hard of me physically and emotionally so I need time to recover before having another one.

I understand! DH and I love kids, and dreamed of having a big family. Now I just don't think I ever want to go through that again. I love Pj with all my soul, but I just don't think I can face even the posibility of a repeat c/s, my birth experience was so traumatic, and I can't even think about having another child right now. I told DH maybe in a couple years I might want to try again. Until then, I'm going to hold my baby as much as I can, becuase I wouldn't be surprised if he's my only one.

[Honey693]

I was talking about number 2 in the delivery room.

[OkiMom]

Originally Posted by nerdymom

I understand! DH and I love kids, and dreamed of having a big family. Now I just don't think I ever want to go through that again. I love Pj with all my soul, but I just don't think I can face even the posibility of a repeat c/s, my birth experience was so traumatic, and I can't even think about having another child right now. I told DH maybe in a couple years I might want to try again. Until then, I'm going to hold my baby as much as I can, becuase I wouldn't be surprised if he's my only one.

Time really does heal some hurts. I hope it helps with yours.

[~Charlie's~Angel~]

God Bless you ladies with three, four, five, and more kids. I am having a really hard time with two. And although sleep deprivation has alot to do with it right now, I am just worn out. I get excited when ANYONE comes over because my only contact for almost 10 hours a day is a 15 month old, a newborn and a computer. Am i a terrible mother?

[coyotemist]

no, not a terrible mother. having 3 is great because the big ones are 10 & 7 i wouldnt want too many too close together

[BundleFishMama]

We definitely want more, several more - I'm one of those people who won't willingly stop having babies until I hit menopause! And then, I plan to work on DH to try to convince him to adopt! I've always wanted a very big family, and I just can't ever imagine feeling "done" the way many of my friends do. No matter how many babies I have, I can't imagine the last one, KWIM? Never being pg again, or nursing again....but that's just me

Anyway, I don't get my cycle back for 12-15 months typically, so it's not like it's going to happen tomorrow or anything. Which is a good thing, since our circumstances are not what they used to be at the moment (DH is still unemployed since his layoff, and our house hasn't sold so we're still living with my mother). I usually start hoping for another pretty early on, but my unexpected c/s this time might make me want to wait a little longer, too - I am definitely committed to a VBAC so I want to do whatever I can to increase the chances of going back to vaginal deliveries from now on, so I think they recommend at least 2 years in between?

Nerdymama, I'm sorry you're feeling so traumatized by your birth experience and I hope that time heals that for you.....I remember you talking about how much you wanted a bunch of kids before. I was very upset by my c/s too - I don't think I'd personally go as far as to say traumatized in my case, but certainly shocked and scared and very upset and disappointed and a bunch of other feelings. But for me, there's nothing that could happen to me that would make me not want more kids. So anyway, I hope that you are able to work through this eventually and maybe one of these days you and I will end up in another DDC together and celebrate our successful VBACs, right?!