Queer and Newborn! - Page 7

[sunwillshine]

Originally Posted by FarmerFemme

Motherhood is everything. Everything I ever wanted, all I hoped for, and of course, so much more.

I. Love. This. I cannot wait!

Originally Posted by pleasantlyfurious

DP got a new job and we are moving to Philadelphia by the end of the month. We put down a deposit on an apartment (that I've never seen in person! but DP assures me I will love) and now we are facing packing up.

Wowee! So glad you found a place! We should lunch when you get here and are settled (assuming I haven't gone into labor/stopped working in the city by then). Good luck with the move!

... sorry I'm crashing. Just have to pop over here every so often to keep up (and, well, I'll be joining y'all in about 4 - 9 weeks!).

[carmen358]

Originally Posted by indigoscot

ds1 turns THREE today!!!! happy birthday to our amazing son. it's also my dp's birthday. double the celebrations.



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How did I miss this? Late happy birthdays!!

Congrats, FarmerFemme.

Pf, I hope your move goes smoothly! I have no tips for you except don't stress out (that's easy to do, right?)

DD started to do a "real" crawl this morning - eep! She's been getting around pretty well by rolling, stomach crawling but this looked like the real thing! Must baby proof NOW!!!

[osker]

Hello! We're over here now! WOW!
E was born on Wednesday, early morning! She already loves breastfeeding, hooray!
H had a c-section after 32 hours of contractions every two minutes and pushing for six hours. Apparently baby girl just felt like having a lot of attention. We're still in the hospital until Saturday and just trying to enjoy every moment. It still feels quite surreal and, I'm sure, will seem very strange to take her home and keep her forever. She still feels like someone will show up at any moment to say thanks for babysitting!

Edited by osker - 1/28/11 at 4:00pm

[carmen358]

Yay, Esther!

Great to hear breastfeeding is going well

Our DD is over 7 months old and we still sometimes have waves of "is this real??? you mean she is going to stay with us???"

Enjoy the early days, it goes by SO quickly...everyone says that and it's true! It truly is such a unique and special time that is a once in a lifetime thing!

[FarmerFemme]

Welcome to the world E!

Edited by FarmerFemme - 5/15/11 at 9:54am

[carmen358]

It's been my experience that my libido is pretty much gone since giving birth. I've since learned that this is really common while breast feeding. My DP is very understanding but I know our relationship is more whole with the physical part as well! Early on I was so tired that having sex was really the last thing on my mind. It's starting to come back now but I still don't feel really sexual about my body yet. It bothered me for a little while but now I sort of feel like this is such a short part of our relationship overall that I'm really ok with it. I know it will change again so for now, neither of us is focusing on what we aren't doing and just trying to be intimate with what we're working with now. If that makes sense lol

Sorry for the quickie message, DD is a crawling machine these days....I'm sure others will add comments too

[indigoscot]

what carmen said. my libido took a complete nose dive while nursing. once i explained that to dp she was so understanding!! we had just got back into enjoying each other again when dp got pregnant and had hg for most of her pregnancy. she has not experienced the same sex drive loss with nursing but with a 3yo and a baby (who co-sleeps at least part of the night) it's hard to be spontaneous OR plan anything. we know it gets better, so we are hanging in there and making sure we are still connecting.

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[mkpgoddess]

Hi all,

I guess we're over here now Cate was born via emergency c-sec on 8/18. We have an almost four year old DD too, who waffles between wanting to hold HER baby and being mad at me for having her :sigh.

RE: sex - there is something about just having a child that does nothing for the sex drive and if you are bf'ing, that compounds the problem. Touching, even non-sexually like hugging, can really help. Carving out even 30 minutes of "couple time" where you stand in the kitchen and share ice cream works to dispel the "roommate" feeling. Also, consider just giving her...ahem...attention without feeling like you HAVE to receive will make a big difference. She feels wanted and desired, you feel needed and just maybe THAT kind of activity will spark your own interest....

Having said that, at 11 days post c-sec, I don't want diddlysquat, but I do miss being touched by someone other than children....sigh...

[carmen358]

Congrats and welcome to Cate

[FarmerFemme]

Thanks for the responses to my questions!

Welcome to the world Cate!!

[megan sacha]

Guess we're over here now too. Zivia Littlewood was born at a birth center 8/23 at 5:19am at 7lb, 14oz and 20.5in. At 8 days pp, my stitched up bottom is starting to feel a bit better and I may attempt sitting today.

BFing is going really well. The engorgement is no fun but DD moved onto transitional stool by 24 hours and was back up to her birth weight by 6 days! And her cheeks are already getting chubbier.

I still haven't been able to type up my birth story, but think I will once I can relatively comfortably sit. It's too hard to type much while lying on your side.

Pic of Zivia: http://www.flickr.com/photos/davis_digi/4924342011/

[FarmerFemme]

Oh my goodness Megan and Sacha, she's so beautiful! Congratulations to you all! Sending healing juju to your bum.

[pleasantlyfurious]

zivia is gorgeous!

welcome cate! and welcome esther!

farmerfemme - totally agree with the multiple levels of intimacy! we've been hurting, but now (at almost four months) leo is sleeping in longer chunks during the day, going to bed earlier than us, and getting really good a happily playing on the floor on his own for a bit of time. (and yet I still feel like it's hard to find a minute!) so we've begun revisiting couch cuddling and it's made a big difference, but still doesn't match the level of intimacy we had before baby. your partner sounds so sweet and romantic

[pleasantlyfurious]

PS
lyndzies - yes, we are here, and more or less settled. Let me know when/if you have some time!

[pleasantlyfurious]

Hi everyone! How's everyone doing?

We are great. Leo is scooting around all over the place and blowing raspberries and saying "ahhhhhhh" when we pat his mouth so it goes "ah-ah-ah-ah-ah" which he finds hilarious. Nursing is going strong. Cloth diapering is going strong. We are happily settling into Philadelphia and making mommy and baby friends. Life is good.

Also - and this may sound insane, but our KD moved in. He is dp's brother and we've always been close with him (obviously) and we even lived together for a bit a few years ago. Well, dp and I owned a cafe and he worked there for the last three years (so he's been in our daily life for a while already), so when we moved away we closed the cafe and he was left looking for a new job. So he was like, hey, I'm starting over anyway, it would be great for me to get a change of scenery, too. Can I come stay with you guys until I get on my feet and find a job out there? So we said sure. And he's been here for about a month and so far it's been great. No boundary crossing and he's a ton of help and he loves Leo and us. My biggest complaint is that dp and he have typical sibling bickering that drives me nuts - ha. Of course it's still early, but so far, I'm so glad we said yes!

[megincl]

So great to hear a Leo update, PF! It definitely sounds great to have your KD/DP's brother with you -- the more the merrier, the more love to go around!

AFU, Wylie turned 3 months this weekend. Where does the time go?!?!? She is such a different person now, holding conversations, grinning HUGE, etc. Eating, nursing, gas...these things continue to be an issue for her and they have helped prove to us how VERY different one kiddo can be from the next. I'm wondering if, perhaps, there's a tiny bit of rhythm coming into our life as a family (not necessary from W, but from the rest of life). I'm looking forward to just a *bit* more.

Looking forward to hearing about some other new babes....

Be well all.

[jjnoho]

i haven't been active at all on these boards since our little one was born on july 6. i have been so wrapped up in being a mummy that the internet has become a distant memory!

congrats to all the new mothers around here and hope you all are enjoying this as much as i am. sam is 3 months old today and weighing in at 17lbs 6oz! he is a healthy, happy, and well fed baby i love watching all of the changes that seem to happen daily with him and see him starting to explore the world.

sadly, i had to start back at work yesterday since we didn't win the lottery it actually wasn't as horrible as i had imagined and the day flew by and then i was home with sam again. i am happy that i get the option to work part time since i am self employed. hopefully work will provide me the opportunity to tune back into this board!

take care and look forward to hearing about other babies...

[indigoscot]

i agree about the time rushing by and it seems even more so to me with 2 kids!

pf - sounds like an ideal situation to me!! like megin said, more love.

megin, i hope your rhythm continues to improve!

jj - so glad sam is happy and healthy and that going back to work wasn't as hard as you anticipated.

ds2 is now 8.5 months. he learned to crawl, pull up and cruise in the SAME WEEK at around 7.5 months. he is so proud that he can do all these things, lol! we just this week barricaded the living room (our kitchen, living room and den are open plan) and he was SO P*SSED that he could no longer get into the kitchen and den. he cut his fifth tooth this past weekend and is working on #6. solids started at 6 months and he loves.food. still nursing on demand, which we will continue to do.

he is rapidly moving out of the baby phase and i'm sure will be walking soon like big brother (they are on almost exactly the same schedule with milestones).

on friday we head off on our first family vacation since ds2 was born. wish us luck, lol!!

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[carmen358]

It's awesome to hear updates! I'm glad everyone's little ones are doing so well and families are adjusting and settling in

DD is 9 months now and still changing daily. We are having some sleep challenges the last week or so but with all the developmental changes and more teeth coming (she already has 8!) it makes sense. I have panic attacks sometimes that I will never sleep again lol I try to roll with it though and since I'm not back at work until next summer I can take naps with her during the day and catch up a little bit.

She is cruising and babbling (says mama, geegee?, blahblahblah, etc.) and we are mostly doing baby led weaning which is super fun once I got over the choking paranoia (which is still there...just not as bad).

I sometimes post photos on my blog (listed in my profile)

Edited by carmen358 - 9/4/11 at 1:09pm

[carmen358]

Oh, and good luck on the family vacation, indigo! Where are you off to?