Queer and Newborn! - Page 8
I usually check for activity on this thread, so I don't know how I missed that great discussion on sex life after baby. Here we're happy if we fit in a good night kiss Hopefully it will be time to make our relationship a priority again soon. It seems like we do a lot for each other and our family but don't take time to connect really. And I don't really know how to fix that right now.
Take care everybody!
Here we are! http://picasaweb.google.com/arjunagr...vsqszWssvywgE#
Elise was born on Sunday - she is happy and blithe and gay!
AFU - we are 7 weeks as of yesterday. BF'ing is going well, although I'm not sure how she's doing weight wise (our next appt isn't until the 19th) and am just setting myself up for the pedi to yell at me because I make tiny babes and they don't tend to gain according to charts and graphs Somehow, however, I have strep and am trying hard to balance penicillin with acidophilus and yogurt so we don't end up with thrush.
I'll come back and add pictures soon. It's so great to see how the rest of the Queer babes are doing!!!!
Esther was eight weeks old yesterday. I think it's all still such a whirlwind that half the time I don't know what's going on! I've been back at work since week 2 and H is back at work now and takes Esther with her every day. Getting back into work mode has been tough. I didn't expect to care so little about my work but feel so guilty when I'm not doing it well... I am constantly tugged between feeling the need to do more at work and not really caring that I'm doing less because I'd rather be at home with my family... but I'm sure I'll become more comfortable with it as time goes by.
We're still trying to figure out evenings. That's our biggest hurdle at the moment. We've got mornings and getting out of the house down alright, days are good, and nights are decent (Esther sleeps with us, so we get fair chunks of sleep)... but those evenings! Yowsa! Esther is a very opinionated little person when she's tired and wants to eat and go to bed!
This weekend we're having her baptized in our church and have family coming in and parties and business all weekend!
Having a daughter is still unbelievable and amazing!
Welcome to the world, Elise! I know you are already so well loved Thanks for sharing the photos, papa. As an aside, how are kjm and kale doing?
mkp and osker, thanks for sharing updates too! It doesn't take long to get into the swing of things! I felt like it took a long time but in hindsight it's a blink of an eye.
Happy Thanksgiving to you too, Carmen. And any other Canadians out there. Also anyone who is not Canadian but thinks their year warrants an extra one. I'll be extra thankful this year, that's for sure.
Hi everyone! I finally get to join. :)
Cadence was born a little over a month ago, and we are so completely enamored with her. :)
I posted over in Birth and Beyond and my DDC, but wanted to share my story here, too. It's long, so I'm just going to link to the three blog posts in which I tell our story:
You can also see lots of pic of her on the blog! I may be a little photo-happy. Lol.
Also, we've got DP on the birth certificate, which is great since we used a KD w/ at-home insemination, and haven't completed the adoption process yet (hearing is in January). BUT, our lawyer's been great and is actually giving an inservice to teach the folks at the hospital at which we delivered proper procedures for filling out the application for birth certificates for same-sex couples in New Jersey civil unions (we were the first to give birth at our hospital).
He's also hoping to get in touch with someone at the state level about revising their current birth certificates to say "parent 1" and "parent 2." DP, who most definitely identifies as a female had to be listed as "father" on the cert, because that's the only option. Hoping we'll eventually get a revised one.
Blazing trails, my lovelies! Three cheers for all of us.
Hope everyone is having a great autumn!
I'm not on here as much and I'm not sure how much time I have (DW is doing a diaper change, then booby time), but I wanted you to know that I sat here reading your blog posts and cried because I know exactly the fear, the horror, and the perfection that you went through. I'm sorry that your journey was so awful and so thrilled that your daughter is so perfect. Because, for them, we WOULD do it again. Much love to you.
Wow, Lyndzies! What a tale of heroic stamina, wild bravery, deep strength and incredible grace. You're my hero!
ps. My little one was four pounds smaller at birth ... and then lost another pound in her first few days and was only five and a bit pounds. I can't imagine baby-wearing STARTING with a ten pound sweetheart. Get thee an Ergo soon, mama!
My DH made a really good point when I was pg and obsessing over the presumed life-quality reduction for the dogs: "You are going to be sitting around the house, smelling yummily unwashed, letting them lick your feet. When the baby cries, you'll go out for a walk and take them with you. Their lives will get BETTER." That turned out to be basically how it went.
That said, we both developed a zero-tolerance attitude towards aggression, and wound up putting down one of our dogs around the time that our second baby was born, after a series of disturbing incidents that culminated in him violently attacking and almost killing a smaller dog. If we had been childless, we might have been able/willing to modify our lifestyle to keep him away from all smaller beings forever. So in that sense, our priorities did shift extremely away from dogs and towards humans. We didn't even try to rehome him, because we couldn't 100% trust that anybody who took him would keep him away from kids, and we cared more for an unknown hypothetical toddler's safety than we did for his life. So, an extreme shift - but the dog who isn't atypically aggressive is living to a ripe old age, happy in his home, with lots of affection from all 5 of us humans.
I just wanted to post a pic.
Elise is getting SO BIG. She's kind of sturdy, and still a little bb, but getting chubby and cuter every day. She's starting to get a little less larval and be a little more of a person.
She's my little Seahorse bb! (Check out this uber cute shirt! It's uber cute on the back, too!)
Thanks for your comments on my birth story, everyone. :hugs
Smithie - I'm so sorry to hear about you having to put down your doggie. I'm sure that was so difficult. But, to echo another point you made, most of our furry friends' lives DO get better! I feel like I've been giving my kitties extra attention and over-compensating for the attention the babe gets... and they're loving it! :)
Papa - I said it over in the other thread, but OMG WHAT A CUTIE! I love the seahorse kimono, too!!! And, great longies. How is wool working out? I am thinking about an occasional more breathable option for Cady... she's in PFs and Thirsties right now, but I would like to be able to give her bum some breathing room, aside from occasional nakey-time.
Speaking of the chunker, my boobs must be making cream. She's such a chub!
Anyone else have some fun holiday photos of their kiddos? I'm sure I'll have many more. Lol. I was photo-happy before, and Cady has only made my picture-taking addiction worse. There's another great holiday photo of her as the masthead of my blog. And speaking of THAT, I also have her one month "newsletter" up. I really enjoyed writing it, and only hope I can keep it up for her. I think it will be so great to look back on, much like chronicling my pregnancy is, now.
Does anyone else have a parenting/family blog they'd like to share? I love reading family blogs. :-)