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post #81 of 204
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Originally Posted by starling&diesel View Post

Are you really supposed to nurse until they pop themselves off? Really? She'd hang out there all hours of the day and night. I think she's doing some comfort sucking ... but I don't want to introduce a paci until waaay later, if at all.
It's very tempting to leave them at the breast until they do pop themselves off, but I highly recommend "The No Cry Sleep Solution" by Elizabeth Pantley. I made the mistake of having my daughter at my breast all the time, and she would wake up every time I would pull her away from it...and I created all sorts of troubles.

I'm really just referring to if your DD is sleeping at the breast and then when you try and move her she wakes up sucking ferociously, seeming to need to be attached 24/7. If that's not an issue, never mind

We never did do a paci. Once when I was sad about the 5:00 crying every evening (evening colic) I tried to give her a paci but she didn't like it. She wanted the real thing
post #82 of 204
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Originally Posted by Raene View Post
I'm really just referring to if your DD is sleeping at the breast and then when you try and move her she wakes up sucking ferociously, seeming to need to be attached 24/7. If that's not an issue, never mind
That's exactly what she's doing ... I'll try to get a hold of that book.
Thanks!
post #83 of 204
We just got our six week pictures taken yesterday and they are amazing! We are so, so happy with them (especially since she cried through most of the shoot)!

Look!

These are some of my favorites

With Mommy

Mommy again

With Mama

Coco

Close-Up

The family

So Pretty
post #84 of 204
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Originally Posted by starling&diesel View Post
That's exactly what she's doing ... I'll try to get a hold of that book.
Thanks!
Just popping in to say that book is great (really a lifesaver with our doesn't-love-sleeping boy). But also remember that especially in the first six weeks or so babes are helping YOU to establish your supply with so much nursing. There are also several growth spurts in there, especially around 6 weeks, where so much nursing can be totally normal, even if it seems non-nutrative. I might give it until 6-8 weeks to see about using some gentle techniques to help pop her off.....

good luck!
megin
post #85 of 204
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Originally Posted by megincl View Post
Just popping in to say that book is great (really a lifesaver with our doesn't-love-sleeping boy). But also remember that especially in the first six weeks or so babes are helping YOU to establish your supply with so much nursing. There are also several growth spurts in there, especially around 6 weeks, where so much nursing can be totally normal, even if it seems non-nutrative. I might give it until 6-8 weeks to see about using some gentle techniques to help pop her off.....

good luck!
megin
I have to agree with Megin. During the first 2 months, you are establishing your milk supply and any reduction in feedings during this time could negatively impact your long-term supply. It can be a really trying time with some babies who want to nurse near constantly, but it will get better!
post #86 of 204
Thread Starter 
Oh My GOSH 2HM... how did I miss your pics?? They are fabulous. I really love "the family" picture! Makes me excited to meet our LO
post #87 of 204
2HM... those pictures are absolutely edible! You all look blissful and gorgeous!
post #88 of 204
2hm, what great pics...

AXL is really having a rough day. i would love it if he would sleep.
post #89 of 204
Miep has anyone else wondered about AXL's name and the fact that Guns 'n' Roses (with frontman Axl Rose) just released their long-awaited album "Chinese Democracy" *right* before your mieplet was born?

I'm assuming his initials are NOT a tribute to a temperamental rock singer.

Jen, Rolling Stone reader (the only reason why I know these random things about popular music)
post #90 of 204
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Originally Posted by JenInMpls View Post
Miep has anyone else wondered about AXL's name and the fact that Guns 'n' Roses (with frontman Axl Rose) just released their long-awaited album "Chinese Democracy" *right* before your mieplet was born?

I'm assuming his initials are NOT a tribute to a temperamental rock singer.

Jen, Rolling Stone reader (the only reason why I know these random things about popular music)


uh, no. no connection.
post #91 of 204
2happymammas - Coco is utterly adorable!!!! Do you find yourself saying "I'm coo coo for my Coco puff" often? :

I should be joining you all soon! 3 weeks till D-day - baby is minus 1 station 75% effaced and 2 cm dilated. Braxton hicks off and on. Shouldn't be long now. . .
post #92 of 204
Pranava - so excited that you'll be joining us so soon! Your time has been a long time coming and you so deserve the joy that your beautiful boy will bring you.
post #93 of 204
Hello everyone, I'm popping in to say hello, it's been a while. It is nice to come and see how everyone is progressing! 2HM your family is just beautiful! And Pranava, can't wait for news on your lo!
post #94 of 204
Thread Starter 
Hi everyone! Rescued this thread off of page 5. Thought I would give you an update now that our LO is a little over a month old.

Since I apparently have written a book, I went through and highlighted the topic of each paragraph so that busy moms can find what interests them because I know I would glaze over if I saw a huge post like this :

Despite the fact that I panicked a little during labor (I even asked quasar if we could "throw him back" like we would if we were fishing ), being a new mom has been a great experience.

The first week was a little rough. We had some nursing / supply issues. Quasar and I were taking shifts with him through the night. Despite that, neither one of us was sleeping enough. Then one night we were all tired right around bedtime and layed down "just for a nap" and ended up sleeping through the night with Ray only getting up to nurse once. And that has pretty much been our routine since. He does awesome and sleeps 4-6hrs at a stretch at night. I think he is going to take after quasar in the sleep department.

Nursing provided quasar with even more challenges... sore nipples, mastitis / abscess (that I was bummed when it popped and drained pus and I missed it). Now she is trying to pump and save up some milk for when she goes back to work.

There was talk of comfort nursing, pacifiers and nipple confusion earlier. We were very strict the first two weeks with not using a bottle and using that little sippy cup thing if we had to supplement. Well, one day after the sippy cup went horribly wrong, we tried the bottle to great relief. Quasar still hates bottles because he chugs and spits up, but there has been no nipple confusion. And a pacifier has been our best friend. On a whim I gave him one when I had to set him down to do something and he loved it! He really seems to enjoy it but he also really likes his boobies too. I know we have been fortunate, but just wanted to put out a positive story about lack of nipple confusion.

We have been co-sleeping. I really didn't think we would, but it has turned out to be soooo easy to co-sleep and have quasar be able to nurse him in bed at night.

Cloth diapers have also worked out really well. There is another crunchy thing i thought I would never do and now I am obsessed!! We also got lucky in the fact that Ray seems to be happy to wallow in his own urine and we don't have to change him at night. This bothers me a little but I feel better about it now that we are using the bum genius at night as it is stay dry and very absorbant. No problems with rashes either. We have been using the Northern Essence Diaper Rash stick each change and that is working great.

Oh, and one our big concerns.... The Animals!! They have been great! Our German Shepherd was very interested in him at first... but just in the sniff and lick a lot way... but has since become more relaxed around him and only really gets excited if he is crying a lot. All of the other dogs could care less. They will sniff him if he is in the bouncy seat but really they don't mind him at all. The chihuahua is fine as long as she still has her spot on Quasar's lap and has even tried to bury him under a blanket or robe a few times (cute!). My pomeranian, who has always been a little weird around children, has been a little leary of him when I try to show Ray to her... but she has actually ventured up to him a few times on her own now. The cats also could care less. No attempts to smother him or steal his breath as the old wives tales go. They have a few times tried to step on him or lay on him in total disregard of his personal space but we are always there to supervise and really those times are when they are trying to get to us and they aren't seeking the baby out to bother him. We thought the one cat was freaked out by him and wouldn't come out of our bedroom for 3 days. Turns out he was scared of the giant, freaky Stork helium balloon we attached tot he stairway bannister. Once he got over that, the cat situation was under control. We have even had time to pay attention to the animals. The Shepherd has been to the park a few times and the cat boxes seem to be getting scooped more often than before the baby was born.

Going back to work for me has been OK. It probably helps that I enjoy my work and there has been a lot of exciting management changes with some spectacular firings. I miss Ray and Quasar but am fine with working. Money makes the world go round after all. Quasar is still trying to figure out how much she wants to work when she goes back next month.

Parents: Quasar's family has been awesome!! My mom came to visit 5 days after he was born. My dad has yet to meet Ray. On the whole, they are much more relaxed about the whole situation. We might make it out there way for Memorial Day. I am kind of annoyed that they drove all the way out to Deleware to visit my loser brother this weekend and yet can't seem to be bothered with a day trip to hang with us. Oh well.

I guess that is it for now. I will stop boring you all.

Hope some others can chime in... I miss you all!!
post #95 of 204
Thanks for the update Smarty. Sounds like all in all things are going really well!

I also hear that cat myth about smothering and get a little worried but I've never heard first-hand experience. Seems like most cats hide from the baby. I'm not really a cat person myself but DP has a cat, so I've definitely been thinking about this.

Our German Shepard was so great with my daughter when she was born. They're such amazing dogs.

Have any picture updates to share? I'm sure Ray is growing quickly
post #96 of 204
that was an awesome update, smartycat! i had thought about reviving this thread, but then i wondered if anyone had the time, you know? having a little one is super busy! well, at least it has been for us, because we are moving also.

gosh, i'm excited to leave texas. i'm so tired of the attitude that i need "saving". people seem to be a little bit more vested since we have thrown a baby into the mix. apparently, i'm on a whole new level of immorality.
post #97 of 204
Nice update Smartycat!

We're doing pretty well at 2 1/2 weeks. It has been a big adjustment for me. DP has had a baby before (her baby is 23 now!) so she seems lke an old pro. Much of the time I don't feel like I know what I'm doing. Ella Grace nurses all the time during the day, which has been exhausting for me emotionally. I have these mixed feelings about loving having her nurse and feeling trapped. The cluster feeding coupled with her absolute hatred of being put down has been wearing on me. Seriously, if she wakes up and realizes that she is not in someone's arms she screams wildly like a pteradactyl! But that's been getting a little better these last couple days since I found a carrier that she actually likes. It helps to have my hands free!!

Breastfeeding is going well though. My milk came in full force. In fact this morning I woke up and poor baby was soaked in breastmilk just from lying next to me when my breasts started leaking in the night. She sleeps really well at night with regular 4-5 hour stretches. I feel like I'm sleeping better now than when I was pregnant!

I had oral surgery on Friday which went well, but meant I wasn't able to really eat for a couple days. I'm eating pretty well with soft foods today. I'm hoping that as I get back on a regular diet it will help improve my mood and maybe help her be more satisfied when she eats. My diet has been pretty sparse since she was born because of the jaw problem.
post #98 of 204
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Originally Posted by heart-n-bones View Post
In fact this morning I woke up and poor baby was soaked in breastmilk just from lying next to me when my breasts started leaking in the night.
Oh gosh I remember those days! And the coughing when too much milk was flowing and the little one would choke on it.
post #99 of 204
wow, i love all the updates!

our son is not exactly newborn any more but i think y'all won't mind if i give an update? let me know if we need a queer and toddler thread, lol!

b is 21 months old now!! he is talking up a storm and making word associations - this morning i told him it was raining and he said "splash" and stomped like he was splashing in a puddle. there have been a few more temper tantrums as he approaches the terrible twos but nothing too bad - he continues to be a very easy going boy.

fruit is his very favourite food! he hasn't met one he doesn't like! he even likes raspberries and grapefruit (he makes the cutest sour face when eating that, i need to get it on video).

we continue to feel so blessed to have this little guy in our lives.

g
post #100 of 204
Thread Starter 
I love the update, Indigo! I started this thread when we were still pregnant so that I could get an idea of the issues we would have to face in the future, so it is nice to read about the joys of the talking toddler... it gives me something to look forward to when all it seems I do now is clean spit up and change diapers.

And H-n-B... I think quasar can sympathize with the concept of being chained to the child. It hasn't been too bad, but I know she feels frustrated that she can't get things done around the house. We keep saying she needs a sling but we haven't done that yet.

And I hope to see a Pranava update soon
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