This thread has been really therapeutic for me! I've been losing a grip on my self-control/sanity...screaming at my child because I can't take the sleeplessness and the abuse (biting nipples, back, shoulders). It makes me feel like a monster or worse. My child is a happy kid and I think that's why we don't sleep at night! He just wants constant closeness to mommy. Unfortunately mommy is not a human pacifier with no needs of her own.
Anyhow, I'm taking in all the advice and will be making changes as soon as DS gets over his cold completely.
For the OP, I just have waves of compassion for you and thank you for letting me share your journey.
The only thing I haven't seen mentioned (although I probably missed it) is making sure baby is tanked up on milk during the day. That's one area where we need to make an extra effort. You know how these "curious georges" are...to engrossed in life to slow down and nurse.