Originally Posted by velochic
We don't celebrate Christmas as a religious holiday. We are not Christian. We treat as we do Halloween (and we are not pagan either) and 4th of July. It's just another holiday. When you attach so much importance to making your own adult point, the kids kind of get lost in the cause. Just let it be.
Same here. Not Christian, but trying to get the tree lights to work.
Christmas is a cultural holiday -- unless the family makes it something more. If you don't want to "do" Christmas as a cultural holiday to make at point to your child, that's fine. I know several Christian families who don't "do" Halloween. It's a family choice. However, deciding to opt out of the larger culture tends to cause some sense of isolation. Some people think that is a good thing, some don't.
But Santas, trees, etc. are just cultural, and part of going to a public school is being part of the larger culture. Your child isn't going to hear about or sing about baby Jesus at school. That is where the line it. It is very strong line. That's where it would be prostelizing (sp?).
My advice would be to encourage your child to have fun with it at school, and then explain why you don't do it at home. There's nothing about walking past a Christmas tree that is going to effect her deeply.
One of the meanings of Christmas is giving to those who cannot give back to us
. That is the meaning of Santa. That is also one of the meaning of the birth of Jesus. That is why there are so many opportunities this time of year for giving to charity. That is the meaning that our family emphasises -- even though we aren't Christians.
The Christmas tree at my child's school is covered with mittens the kids have brought in as part of a Christmas service project. The school is also doing a food drive as part of celebrating Christmas. If your child's school is doing any projects, then you could explain that very, very positive aspect of Christmas to her. Many people who are involved in these projects aren't Christians. We just chose to be part of them because they are the right thing to do, and doing the right thing as a group is fun and energizing.