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post #1 of 8
12/13/08 at 11:05am
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Our 17 mo. old screams every time I walk around the corner or if she's not in my arms right now. I herniated a disc in my back a few months ago so I have to be very careful about how much sling time I have. I put her in my back carrier when I can but frankly I am TOTALLY sick of her screaming and I'm to the point now where I'm just being plain mean. As far as putting her down and just letting her scream while I unload the dishwasher or pay a bill online, etc. ARGGGHHHH. I have 3 kids and my house is a complete disaster b/c I can't get anything done with clingy child!
post #2 of 8
12/13/08 at 11:34am
Yeah, I'm dealing with this right now too. Some days it's really really difficult and sometimes I need to take a shower. I try to remember that this stage passes and it will get better.

It must be extra hard with your back out of order.
post #3 of 8
12/13/08 at 11:44am
Same here, but no back problem ( for that!) but DD won't go in a carrier without fussing the whole time. She wants arms only!

She's 22 months old, and has been like this since 5 months. At that age she just started screaming. Tantrums are soooooo frequent. I can't even put her in a chair 2 feet from me (so I can turn and put something in the microwave) without her screaming.

She's screaming right now. I've pretty much lost sympathy for her right now. Every month that passes I think, maybe this will be the month I can put her down and move a few inches from her without freaking out. Still hasn't happened.

She absolutely sealed the deal for being the LAST CHILD. After her, I am so done.
post #4 of 8
12/13/08 at 11:52am
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Originally Posted by Drewsmom View Post
Our 17 mo. old screams every time I walk around the corner or if she's not in my arms right now. I herniated a disc in my back a few months ago so I have to be very careful about how much sling time I have. I put her in my back carrier when I can but frankly I am TOTALLY sick of her screaming and I'm to the point now where I'm just being plain mean. As far as putting her down and just letting her scream while I unload the dishwasher or pay a bill online, etc. ARGGGHHHH. I have 3 kids and my house is a complete disaster b/c I can't get anything done with clingy child!


It isn't like you are ignoring her for hours and not paying any attention to her. Do what you can, and don't feel guilty for it. She is old enough to not be held/carried 24 hours a day.

Please be careful with your back. It is not going to do her, or you, any good if your back is permanently out of commission.
post #5 of 8
12/14/08 at 11:22am
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Originally Posted by Mizelenius View Post
Same here, but no back problem ( for that!) but DD won't go in a carrier without fussing the whole time. She wants arms only!

She's 22 months old, and has been like this since 5 months. At that age she just started screaming. Tantrums are soooooo frequent. I can't even put her in a chair 2 feet from me (so I can turn and put something in the microwave) without her screaming.

She's screaming right now. I've pretty much lost sympathy for her right now. Every month that passes I think, maybe this will be the month I can put her down and move a few inches from her without freaking out. Still hasn't happened.

She absolutely sealed the deal for being the LAST CHILD. After her, I am so done.
That is exactly our situation as far as the microwave thing. It's interesting that this is your 3rd baby as well. Wonder if it's a 3rd child birth order thing?
post #6 of 8
12/14/08 at 1:32pm
My first was like that and I ruptured a disk when he was about a year old and had to have back surgery. So I obviously couldn't hold him. My DH and I freaked out about it, b/c DS1 was such a sensitive child. But we somehow adjusted. I bought a lot of floor toys and recovered on the couch. Yes, there was crying, but like you and others said, sometimes you (and they) just have to deal. I did pick him up way more than I was supposed to, but nothing like the 24/7 constant skin-to-skin contact he enjoyed/demanded prior to that. FWIW he's 3.5 now and in another clingy phase. If he can't see me, in our little 1800 sq ft house, he loses it. Ughhhhh. But I don't have to pick him up or carry him! Much.
post #7 of 8
12/14/08 at 2:02pm
I have a 20 month old who is similar, but maybe not as bad. Anyway, when I am frustrated I just remind myself that in a few years I will miss having a baby to hold.

Today I found a great way to entertain her for about 45 minutes. I scooched the stool up to the sink, filled the dishpan with water and she stuck her hand in it and splashed a bit. Kept her entertained while I made lunch and cleaned up.
post #8 of 8
12/14/08 at 4:17pm
My 17mo is doing this lately, too. I think it's a seperation anxiety stage. I also do Tessa's idea of distraction and dish water. Also, having her lovey with her 100% of the time seems to help.

I don't have back problems, but I am 36 weeks pregnant... I make sure to hold her when I can (sitting mostly) and try not to feel too bad if I can't immediately pick her up, etc.
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