is it weird... - Page 2

[1littlebit]

Originally Posted by Bekka

Hmm, I'm the oldest sister, so I put on my oldest sister hat, and said basically, I'm nursing here, wherever I want (at Mom's house) and you (my teenaged brother) not only need to get comfortable with it pronto, but I expect you to strongly encourage your future wife to breastfeed and support her in that effort. It's hard, it takes a lot of work and support, and you will be a part of that equation.

Doesn't EVERYONE have an older sister relationship like this with their brother sibs?

I DO!!!! lol. heck i nursed in front of his friends... and mine... and umm they had no interested in leaving the room... i love them all so its cool... my one friend has an unending fascination with my boobs... and the first time he saw me nurse he was like. woah.... cool!! so theres milk right?

[HarperRose]

Originally Posted by Bekka

Hmm, I'm the oldest sister, so I put on my oldest sister hat, and said basically, I'm nursing here, wherever I want (at Mom's house) and you (my teenaged brother) not only need to get comfortable with it pronto, but I expect you to strongly encourage your future wife to breastfeed and support her in that effort. It's hard, it takes a lot of work and support, and you will be a part of that equation.

Doesn't EVERYONE have an older sister relationship like this with their brother sibs?

I certainly do!

That's exactly the approach I took once I got comfortable nursing myself. It took me a few mos to get ok with NIP but we got through it, I went on to NIP w/ my next 2 kids and 2 of my brothers are pro-bf! (Well, all 3 are, but the oldest of the 3 is choosing not to have kids.) The middle bro has 4 kids and his wife overcame some nursing issues, relactated, and hasn't looked back. : The youngest is expecting his & his dw's first in January and they'll be bf'ing, also. I hope. (They have a lot stacked against them.)

[HarperRose]

Originally Posted by 1littlebit

and the first time he saw me nurse he was like. woah.... cool!! so theres milk right?

:

I was asked, in a roomful of late teen/early 20-something's, "So does the milk go bad?"

Took all I had not to burst into laughter! I was stunned -- I'd never been asked!

But hey, they were asking all the right questions and it gave me a REALLY good chance to get them used to it.

[OkiMom]

I think it depends on the men. Im the youngest of three, I have two older brothers. One I have never nursed in front of, hes never even met my children. The other I nursed in front of a lot, didn't faze him. Ive nursed in front of my Dad, didn't faze him. However, in my family nudity isn't a huge issue, we still change in front of each other if we are in a hurry. (at least we did when I lived there).
My husbands family however gets uncomfortable if I nurse around them. My FIL actually blushed when he noticed I was nursing DD while he was talking to my. My BIL (he was 20 at the time) ran from the room when he walked in on me nursing DD1 to sleep. FIL is getting better though, he isn't as fazed by it as he was. Im thinking though its because I didn't grow up in their house and Im not thier child by birth. FIL and BIL have no issues seeing their sisters wander around in a bra or their mom walk around in her undies.

[WeasleyMum]

Originally Posted by honeydee

Hmm...I don't know. I have a teen brother and he is completely unfazed by me nursing Avery. My mom is the one that makes an issue of it when him and his friends are around. One time they walked in the room and she said, "Beware guys, Danielle's nursing in there!" and I said, much to her horror, "Mom, they're 17 years-old. Do you seriously think they haven't seen a breast before?" My little bro and his friend thought it was hysterical and they hung out in the room with me and had a conversation about breastfeeding .

I would ask him about it.

I love this! (Although I know at least a few guys that hadn't rounded second base by 17... late bloomers.)

I have a brother still in highschool and have vaguely wondered about how he would react to my BFing once this little one is born. I think he'll be cool with it though.

[Jannah6]

Originally Posted by russsk

Totally OT, but reminds me of an experience DH had with my aunt. He and DS were meeting her for the first time, and were chatting in my dad's living room while I was getting dressed. Dad has two large cubist paintings with lots of breasts (that's a whole nother story...) and ds was staring at them. DH was like, "oh, you see the breasts? They look soo good, don't they? You love breasts, don't you?" My aunt got really uncomfortable and said, "I think he's a little young for that, don't you? I think you're the one who loves breasts a little too much." DH had the most perplexed look on his face (as I was walking into the room) and he said, "What are you talking about? I weaned a LONG time ago. DS is the one nursing!"

[Pat899]

It is your job as the oldest sister to set the tone. If you want future generations and future wvies of your brothers to be comfortable NIP then you have to be the first. As oldest sister with the first baby you get to make the rules. Pretty cool responsibility IMO.

[eclipse]

My brother has never been bothered by it. My older sister breastfed before me, though (years before me - my niece was born when my sister was 19, my brother was 20, and I was 11 - and we all lived in the same household), so he had plenty of time to get used to it.

i'd probably just talk to your brother about it - maybe it bothers him, or maybe he just feels like you might want privacy when you're nursing.

[~Boudicca~]

Originally Posted by Pat899

It is your job as the oldest sister to set the tone. If you want future generations and future wvies of your brothers to be comfortable NIP then you have to be the first. As oldest sister with the first baby you get to make the rules. Pretty cool responsibility IMO.

That is a great way to look at it!

[velcromom]

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I think that's an excellent way to approach it.

I don't have a brother but I have a seventeen year old son and a nursing toddler. I have always nursed in front of my teen. I think if I were having a conversation with a close relative and they left the room when I started to nurse dd I'd just keep talking louder and louder, continuing the conversation & go "Hey, where'd you go, it's kinda hard to talk with you way over there!" if they didn't get the point I'd tell them directly not to bother leaving when dd was nursing.