My nurse-friend is pregnant...

[guestmama9917]

My friend and I went to nursing school together. We are both now working as nurses, she is working in pre and post-natal public health. She is very mainstream and will be fully vaccinating on schedule, will attempt to BF (but has bought a couple cans of formula 'in case'). I am only assuming she will be circumcising. We live in different cities now, but we email about once a month. She is the type of friend that we can pick up wherever we left off.

So, what do I say to her about circumcision?! Do I just send some articles? That seems a little 'out of the blue' since she hasn't asked for any advice from me. Do I just ask, will you circumcise your son? I am at a total loss.

Please help.

[robertandenith]

I just posted the new video

[guestmama9917]

oh yes, and i thought those videos were great.

should i just send the link? what do i type in the email?

[lifeguard]

How about: "Check this out - I found it really enlightening & thought you might too."

[guestmama9917]

yes, that would work.

i will let you know how it goes.

[Fi.]

You're both nurses which is perfect - mention it's something you heard at work from a doctor or something.

[Greg B]

Since you both are nurses, I would think that this would be the best way to present the information, and you could look at it as continuing ed information:

http://www.doctorsopposingcircumcisi...yStatement.pdf

Regards

[tammyswanson]

I hope she listens to you! My friend was a nurse, I sent her a ton of links and bought her the book by Dr Paul Fleiss What your doctor may not tell you about circumcision..and she did it to her preemie anyway.

[guestmama9917]

i will let you know what she says. she is only 13 weeks right now. i might wait a couple more weeks to bring it up.

[Fellow Traveler]

Originally Posted by courtrn

i will let you know what she says. she is only 13 weeks right now. i might wait a couple more weeks to bring it up.

There might be another option. NOCIRC did a series of online classes which I believe count toward medical professional's continuing education. If they do the courses again in a month or two both of you could sign up and take a course or two together. Here is the site: http://consciouswoman.org/2007/08/14...ntact-newborn/

[latinalonestar]

Originally Posted by jwhispers

There might be another option. NOCIRC did a series of online classes which I believe count toward medical professional's continuing education. If they do the courses again in a month or two both of you could sign up and take a course or two together. Here is the site: http://consciouswoman.org/2007/08/14...ntact-newborn/

Conscious woman is on a break b/c the director is expecting a child in January. They will resume programming in 6 months. However, you can order the past recorded courses that were for about $22 each. Email her and ask her about the Intact Boy Series archives.

[leila1213]

So she does not know if it's a boy yet? Do you know whether she will be finding out before the birth? If she will, then I personally would wait until it is "reality", kwim?

[Nandi]

Maybe having some info about how the AAP does not recommend?

[kldliam]

i send this e-card to expentant parents:

http://www.circumstitions.com/Itsaboy.html

It's light and non-threatening.

[Raelynn]

I would also make sure that she knows how uncommon circumcision has become in Canada. 91% of baby boys are left intact these days.

[LilacMama]

Anecdotally, most of the health care professionals I know don't circumcise their babies. They still perform/participate in circumcisions ("money-in-the-bank"/"respecting other people's decisions"....) but don't opt for them for their own children. I find the information on NOCIRC.com to be really helpful -- I like where it lists all the current medical health organization's recommendations around the world.

[baybee]

Conscious Woman website

Originally Posted by latinalonestar

Conscious woman is on a break b/c the director is expecting a child in January. They will resume programming in 6 months. However, you can order the past recorded courses that were for about $22 each. Email her and ask her about the Intact Boy Series archives.

I took several of these programs and highly recommend them. They are done as a Powerpoint presentation with the presenter speaking in the background. I found the quality to be first class and learned a lot even tho I'm a bit of a "know it all" on this subject

[tammyswanson]

Originally Posted by LilacMama

Anecdotally, most of the health care professionals I know don't circumcise their babies. They still perform/participate in circumcisions ("money-in-the-bank"/"respecting other people's decisions"....) but don't opt for them for their own children.

That is so sad that they can still do that to other babies.

:Puke

[catholic74]

Originally Posted by kldliam

i send this e-card to expentant parents:

http://www.circumstitions.com/Itsaboy.html

It's light and non-threatening.

This is REALLY Good!!! Wow!
I say you should just find a way to say something....take the risk of losing a friend or causing tension if you must, but say something. This is a great way to do it. You never know, you might save a little boy from much pain and a mother from much regret!

Lisa