Weekly Chat 12/15

[jrabbit]

Wow, it's another week gone!

I'm tired and cranky because I want to be asleep, but other than that, I'm good. We've got a busy week ... and I still don't have a car. Last week I didn't mind, this week ... I had more things I wanted to do! But I'm not about to suggest that we spend $300 to fix the car or $$ to rent a second vehicle.

MW is coming to my house today for our appt. I have to cancel my chiro visit tomorrow. I just hope I can figure out a vehicle by Friday and take my kids to a gingerbread house building craft thing ... but I'm not telling them about it until it's definitely gonna happen.

I'm getting a henna mend-hi this week, too! A woman in the neighborhood does it - she's coming to my house to do a little test since I have freakishly weird skin allergies ... then we'll figure out when & how to get a belly design! I'm excited! I also wanted to get a pedicure ... drat this car problem.

have a great day y'all!
--janis

[Phoenix~Mama]

Janis! Ugh I feel for you! I can't imagine being car-less with all the intense "need to do this" moments going on right now!


I'm severely anxious and mellow all at the same time... does that make any sense? lol

I had a crazy pre-show or whatever this weekend with contractions. I was contracting for over 24 hours!!!! But they weren't staying consistent enough... they were coming basically in 10, 5 and 3 minute intervals, but nothing lasting more than about 35 seconds. I was so hoping they'd kick it up especially after going on soooo long! I was bumming.

I'm hopeful for something to happen this week... but trying not to get my hopes up too much... but still... something has to be going on and getting really close with that right? lol

[hotharmony]

Hello Everyone,

Welcome to another week! I will be 40 weeks on Wednesday, yay for full term baby! I can't say that I haven't been wishing him out though I think it's just because I don't want to have a Christmas baby. I feel great, not much to complain about and everytime I wake up without being in labor I just remind myself that the house I get to sleep are priceless.

[Lemon Juice]

Weekly chat and it's my "last" week of pregnancy! Maybe, right? Due on Tuesday

Trying to stay positive and hope for the best over here. I feel so sad and like this huge cloud is hovering over my HB now. I wish it weren't like this.

I talked to a friend last night for a long time and it was SO nice! I miss her, she's in Portland and doing so well! It had been a few months since we talked after our move from there and I wish so bad I was near her. It was nice to forget my drama for an hour and have a good talk tho

Good luck to those contracting! It might be a quiet week here in the chat zone b/c it seems like most of our chatty mamas are off birthing babes or nursing babes (and have yet to tell us! )

Who else logs onto the DDC and get SUPER excited to see all the new babes born??? Anyone done a count? I think it might be hard b/c some post only to other threads on not the main board.

Btw..I looked back at my prediction and I put down babe would come on the 8th! Yeah right!

[Lauren710]

I'm feeling lazy today.. I have a lot that I SHOULD be doing, especially with no imminent signs of labor yet, but all I really want is a peppermint hot chocolate and to walk around the shops on the East Side, maybe get some Christmas shopping done. I have one final to study for and two minor papers to finish this week, but I think I'll go out now and worry about those later tonight.

I spent all afternoon walking yesterday trying to get things moving along baby-wise.. I think she dropped a little more since I had to pee every. five. minutes. last night, but nothing today, except achey feet I'm not due until Saturday and will probably go late based on what's been happening so far, but I am REALLY not doing well with waiting and being patient at this point.

[odenata]

My due date was yesterday, and I'm more than ready for baby to come out. I'm trying to stay busy and not think about it too much.

I'm sending lots of "come on out, baby!" vibes to everyone in my boat! :

[Bloomingstar]

I'm 38 weeks today, and counting. I'm in no rush at the moment though, since I still have a few more things to do to get ready. The new apartment is working out great, things are coming into place. I have more baby to-do things on my list, though, and I'd feel better if I got most done. Baby is active and lower every day though people have been remarking on the lowness for so long, I barely notice. I'm still feeling good, and am looking forward to being at home next week :

[Birth Junky]

I'm hitting 39 weeks in the next couple of days, and still in no hurry to have this babe make an appearance--we're still knee-deep in boxes from the move, and so much left to be done. And now, just to add to the fun, there's snow on the ground, and more in the forecast for later this week. At our home visit, the MW jokingly asked that we try not to go into labor in the middle of a snow or ice situation, since our new house is in the middle of hills . . . guess I'll just have to keep my fingers crossed!

Went to a LLL meeting today, which was lovely and low-key (I am a leader, but am "on a break" until the baby comes, so I got to just show up and listen/learn). Chiropractic this afternoon, which hopefully will take care of some of the sciatica/back pain that has been growing for the last couple of weeks . . . and after seeing a friend's mendhi designs, I REALLY want to find time for a henna appointment before la bebe comes. Worried, though, that we are already short enough on money AND time, and perhaps I should skip it and try to do it next time around.

Here's hoping that those of you who are impatiently waiting don't have to wait much longer, and those of you who are happy to stay pregnant get to stay that way for a bit longer. And happy & healthy births for everyone!

[gretae]

I stopped work today but am a little worried now having done so. I'm not used to being at home. I have a hard time walking, sleeping, eating and doing much of anything so I hope she comes soon but I'm feeliing like I'm going to be pregnant forever! I made some muffins and a casserole, am having the house cleaned tomorrow and doing lots o laundry and taking some cohosh to see if that will get things going. I hope thiings get moving soon! Thinking good thoughts for all of you and trying to stay positive for myself!

[odenata]

I just looked through the birth announcements and all those beautiful babies just make my heart melt! :

And so many wonderful birth stories!

Gretae - I think the hard part about being at home is that you can get so antsy waiting. What kind of muffins did you make? I want blueberry muffins now...

[bmcneal]

Still here. 38w1d DH still wants him to wait awhile before he's born, I kinda want him here now. (I think DH wants him to wait until he has a job, I think that's his worry.) Went to my prenatal appointment today, but apparently they don't check, so I have no idea what kind of progress we have, although it might be nice, I've never been this pregnant before, never "progressed" or anything, so if I could know if anything is happening, it might be nice...

I'm not positive, but I may not be on for awhile. Since DH lost his job, we paid everything but rent, and I cannot remember if I paid the phone bill or not before we ran out of money, so we may or may not have phone/internet in a couple of days. The landlady is going to let us slide, it appears, on the rent, so I'm not too terribly worried about that at this point, but you ladies are my friends and my support when I need someone to agree with me on my "crazy" ideas like VBAC'ing, co-sleeping, and all that "nutty" stuff. So here's to hoping either I paid the phone bill or that they don't cut off the phone anytime soon.

[Lemon Juice]

Beth I hope all is well and we see you around still. I know it would be really hard to lose internet now and contact w/ the ddc when you need it most Hopefully we'll see you back and if not then you know we are all here for you in spirit and sending much love and light your way. :

[romamama]

Lots of hugs, Beth!

As of right now, I am past my due date. I had an appt today but it had to be canceled due to the dr having a surgery to preform. So in like nine hours, I have another appt. I hope this LO comes before the 19th because my overbearing ob/gyn of a FIL will be here and tryign to tell me how to deliver. He literally told me that birth was not natural and I was too slow witted to figure that out! My DH and I were in shock.

I just hope that while him and his wife are down here that I don't hit him with a folding chair or something.

Where is everyone on their holiday to do lists? I am way behind.

[bmcneal]

I'm trying to take advantage of all the time here I can get, just in case. (That and DH is laying down with DD trying to get her to go to sleep so we can *ahem* help LO on his way. )

My mom called today to see how I was doing and if we had a baby yet. No baby yet. She started talking about the weather, and asked what we are going to do if there is a snow storm and we can't make it to the hospital where we've been going to for care. I told her we'd have to wait and see, that I wasn't sure what we would do. She said "you better go to the hospital in your town (they don't do VBACs), because with having a c-section, you could rupture something, and you might get hurt." I told her that if I go to that hospital, they will want to do a repeat c-section, and that DH and I agreed that we will do everything in our power to keep that from happening. She said "Well, you don't want to have the baby at home! They won't do a c-section for no reason." My OB when I had DD said if I wanted a VBAC I had to go to the hospital in the next town over, because they won't/can't do a VBAC. She said it would be better to have a repeat c-section than trying to go to the next town. Apparently, my family doesn't know me very well. I was talking about what a nice wedding my brother and SIL had when they got married, and they said I am happy with the wedding I had, and I "wouldn't want a wedding like J's." I *did* want a wedding like J's, but since my family was so busy getting ready for J's wedding, DH and I got a wedding that we weren't particularly happy with, had no say in whatsoever, and that half the people were dressed not even nicely. (I'm happy we are married, and wouldn't change the being married part, just wish we could have had a say in what colors/decorations and that we were just as important as my brother and J.) Now she "knows" I don't want a homebirth and that DH doesn't want to deliver his own baby (I guess she doesn't know about midwives?) I asked DH, and he said he thought it would be cool to deliver our/his baby, but he would prefer to have a hospital birth with this LO because this is our first natural/vaginal delivery, and he's not quite sure what to do. I told her that, should something happen and it's an *actual* emergency, where I would *need* a c-section, and I/we didn't have time to get to the other town, I would of *course* go to the hospital here. I don't want anything to happen to this LO, I just want the best birth/birth experience possible, and I know a repeat c-section for no medical reason is *not* what is best for LO and I. They had to put me under GA when I had DD, and she was asleep the entire first day of her life, didn't or couldn't eat anything, and it was horrible for both of us (and I assume it wasn't any easier for DH, seeing his wife and daughter so roughed up.)

Sorry for the pity party, but it makes me *so* mad when people *know* what's best for me and *my* family, and tell me what *I* want. :

[avivaelona]

Beth, two things. Let go of what your mom thinks you should have, you don't have to take that in even, just let it flow right through your ears without entering your head. She is saying it all because she loves you and is concerned and has no clue. Just go "mmm-hmm" and "thanks for caring about me mom" and do what you need to do, don't let it add to your stress, she doesn't control you so there is no reason to be mad that she is uninformed.

Second call the phone company. Tell them that your husband is newly unemployed but that you are full term with a pregnancy and that you need to have at least basic phone service in the next month or so. See if they can work with you on a plan. If you are polite but firm that you need some kind of phone service and will soon be in a position to pay again chances are good they will find some way to keep it on for you. You shouldn't be without a phone and that isolated.

Good luck, I know this has just been very stressful lately and so do what you can to lower the stress and let your birth be peaceful, all these problems are temporary they will pass.

[Lauren710]

Beth, hope things get a little less stressful for you. Definitely call the phone company like Erica said. When I was between jobs in college my phone wasn't shut off until I was three months behind on payments, so you may not lose service yet anyway, but it's still a good idea to be proactive and let them know what's happening just in case.

[bmcneal]

Y'all are so kind. Even when my "family" is being less than ideal, y'all always make me feel better I will call the phone company today. Usually they are really good about working with us on things (we've only paid late one day, we didn't get the paper bill, and I forgot but like when we had problems and had to cut our services) I never even thought of that! Thanks again!

I didn't sleep much last night. DD was up until 2.30, and DH was watching the weather, and I'm just not tired. *sigh* I'll probably be exhausted here in a little bit, after DH wakes up. He'll let me sleep some. I still have to pack my bag for the hospital I've got all of LOs stuff packed, and I've gotten my slipper socks packed I was going to take some of DH's pj pants, but they are all shredded. Who knew pj pants wouldn't hold up for 5 or 6 years under regular use? Oh! But I've got scrub pants! I'll wash those today, and they should be done drying tomorrow or Thursday.

Besides everything that could be going better, a lady in our town is trying to start up a bakery business, and offered to make DD a birthday cake for free to get her name out! : So that means one less thing to worry about. We have a gift card to a local bookstore DH got for his birthday, but he bought the only book he wanted that he could afford with it, and we have some money left, so we are going to use it to get her a birthday present. I can't believe she's going to be 3! Her birthday is Monday, so I'm *really* hoping LO decides to wait until after Christmas to make his debut, otherwise it's going to be really crazy. (I've already told DH no more December babies... Too many family birthdays/holidays already. My sister's birthday on the 19th, DD's birthday on the 22nd, Christmas, LO's EDD is the 28th, and my dad's birthday on the 29th.)

I hope everyone is doing well.

[Phoenix~Mama]

I just wanted to give you some hugs Beth.

[Lemon Juice]

Wow, Beth! I would crack under the pressure December brings on if I had that many dates to deal with! So many birthdays and xmas..and a new babe! I am having a hard time even worrying about xmas now and haven't even done so. Just too much going on, kwim? You are brave, mama

My dd will be 3 as well..in Feb. It has gone by SO fast! She's my only dd and I just can't believe how big she's getting.

Has anyone finished their holiday shopping? I have done none b/c of so much to do w/ the homebirth and now the gbs. I am ready for January...mid January when things calm down and nothing is going on

We are hoping to move in May or sooner too (back from east coast to west coast) so I really look forward to that!

[applecider]

I'm sorry about all your troubles, Beth! Hope things work out for you.

Lemon Juice- I hear you on Christmas. I totally procrastinated, knowing full well I would have a baby. Well now he's here and I'm not ready for Christmas in the least. I wanted to do all sorts of homemade things and that is for surely NOT happening! Maybe I'll get around to something next week, but I'm not pushing it.