My MIL visited yesterday for my birthday.
She was trying to convince me to start DD (4 months) on solids, so that she'll sleep through the night. I told her that we really don't mind waking up for her, and it's not a big deal to us. She told me "Good Italian mothers make sure their husbands get a full night's sleep." If I was a good wife to her son, I'd make sure the baby was STTN so he would never have to wake up.
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This was just the beginning. Later on, I coudn't find batteries that I needed. I asked DH where they were, and he put them in a place that I couldn't reach them (which is fine, because he moved them). MIL said "That's what you get for making him do women's work."
She pretty much spent the whole night making me feel worthless, like I didn't deserve DH or DD. She kept telling me about "Good Italian mothers.."
The worse part of it is that I do EVERYTHING. Cooking, cleaning, shopping, finances, 90% of baby care. She made it seem like I wasn't "pulling my weight" because DH changes a diaper occasionally and will do the dishes if I ask him to (which is almost never). She basically wants me to be a slave because that's how she was raised. (BTW, I would NEVER raise my daughter that way).
I know it's a lot of BS, and she's still living in 18th century Italy, but she's my MIL and I respect her opinion. I've been down on myself all day because of this. I know it's because I spent 4 days in the hospital for severe depression and DH had to take care of the baby.
I am so::
Thanks for letting me vent.
She was trying to convince me to start DD (4 months) on solids, so that she'll sleep through the night. I told her that we really don't mind waking up for her, and it's not a big deal to us. She told me "Good Italian mothers make sure their husbands get a full night's sleep." If I was a good wife to her son, I'd make sure the baby was STTN so he would never have to wake up.
:This was just the beginning. Later on, I coudn't find batteries that I needed. I asked DH where they were, and he put them in a place that I couldn't reach them (which is fine, because he moved them). MIL said "That's what you get for making him do women's work."
She pretty much spent the whole night making me feel worthless, like I didn't deserve DH or DD. She kept telling me about "Good Italian mothers.."
The worse part of it is that I do EVERYTHING. Cooking, cleaning, shopping, finances, 90% of baby care. She made it seem like I wasn't "pulling my weight" because DH changes a diaper occasionally and will do the dishes if I ask him to (which is almost never). She basically wants me to be a slave because that's how she was raised. (BTW, I would NEVER raise my daughter that way).
I know it's a lot of BS, and she's still living in 18th century Italy, but she's my MIL and I respect her opinion. I've been down on myself all day because of this. I know it's because I spent 4 days in the hospital for severe depression and DH had to take care of the baby.
I am so
::Thanks for letting me vent.
Holy cow mama, I'd go ape on that woman! You need to put her in her place, like, right now. 
. I know you want her to respect you and you value her opinion, but sometimes you just have to 
when she talks to you like that. Or, you could be like me and get really 
: and 
her. Instead, I yelled at her. I know it's not right, but I asked her many times to stop criticizing me or questioning me. At the hospital, she kept asking the nurses, "Is my grandbaby being starved? Does she need some formula?" I lost it more than once.
: Happy Birthday!!! You with a new baby and a birthday party to boot 
...), and he had to learn that from somewhere.
