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post #21 of 58
What a crappy response. She should have been grateful that you and your dh didn't snatch him and that you were good people. That's so scary and sad. I've had to do that before. Someome left a 2ish year old asleep in a locked car in the winter. The car was running nd the heat was on. But we stood there 10 minutes waiting for someone to come and then 10 minutes until the police came. You definitely did the right thing.
post #22 of 58
Even if you take the weather out of the equation...

She left the door open??? That sounds like a great way to get your child abducted.
post #23 of 58
Awe...we'd done the same thing too...

My dh (an attorney) got a call one evening from another attorney that there was a kid left in a car all alone IN THE COURTHOUSE PARKING LOT...next to a jail...duh!! Some people just don't care...

He did call 911, though I'm not sure how it ended...
post #24 of 58
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Originally Posted by Romana9+2 View Post


Dh isn't afraid of confrontation, so he told her that her kid had been crying and the door was open when we arrived. She said "Yeah, okay." Then he said something about how dangerous the temperature was for kids, and (getting a bit melodramatic) said that kids die in temperatures like this. Her response was: "So?" And then she drove off.
I can't believe any woman would say "So?" if it was 9 degrees outside and the door was open! Would she have even cared if someone had walked off with her child? Afraid to know the answer to that one! You guys both did the right thing in calling 911! And your DH did great in confronting that mother, hopefully the police will investigate. This woman doesn't seem to be very concerned about her son.
post #25 of 58
You absolutely did the right thing!! I can't imagine anyone being fine with leaving their child like that. I had a horrible time of leaving my 3yo daughter asleep in the locked van right next to me front door while I ran her little sister upstairs (they both fell asleep in the car on the way home from Gram & Papa's house tonight and I just wanted to get them in their beds). I seriously ran the little one to her bed then tore outside, all the time feeling like the worse parent in the world.

9 degrees? Omg. Wow. I'm so happy you didn't hesitate to take action.
post #26 of 58
That is beyond unthinkable! Anybody could have taken that child. The child had to have been insufferably cold and terrified. You more than did the right thing. My bet is she gets charged with child endangerment and CPS involvement.
post #27 of 58
You definitely did the right thing.
post #28 of 58
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Originally Posted by DahliaRW View Post
I would have done the same thing. In my state it is illegal to leave children under a certain age unattended in the car.
yep, do that in CA and CPS steps in, your at risk of losing your kids and at the very least you get 1 year of court ordered parenting classes.
post #29 of 58
what a UA violation. And the cold is bad, but like you said too, any creep-o could have just grabbed him out of there and taken him and....UGH. Too horrible to think about. that poor little boy.
post #30 of 58
This is the kind of thing I was worried about happening today.

I was driving home with all the kids from a two hour grocery shopping trip. My stomach was upset and I knew that I wasn't going to make it home without going to the bathroom. The closest place was a McDonald's. I pulled into the parking lot and had to decide whether to unload the stroller and all the children and poop myself or leave them in the van and run inside. I ran in. Luckily for me, there wasn't someone who called the cops. That would have been embarassing to explain to an officer.
post #31 of 58
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This is the kind of thing I was worried about happening today.

I was driving home with all the kids from a two hour grocery shopping trip. My stomach was upset and I knew that I wasn't going to make it home without going to the bathroom. The closest place was a McDonald's. I pulled into the parking lot and had to decide whether to unload the stroller and all the children and poop myself or leave them in the van and run inside. I ran in. Luckily for me, there wasn't someone who called the cops. That would have been embarassing to explain to an officer.
did you also leave the door wide open in the 9 degree weather and say "So?" when someone told you children can die from the cold?

You did the right thing. Something is seriously "off" about that situation and I hope cps does a follow up.
post #32 of 58
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Originally Posted by phathui5 View Post
This is the kind of thing I was worried about happening today.

I was driving home with all the kids from a two hour grocery shopping trip. My stomach was upset and I knew that I wasn't going to make it home without going to the bathroom. The closest place was a McDonald's. I pulled into the parking lot and had to decide whether to unload the stroller and all the children and poop myself or leave them in the van and run inside. I ran in. Luckily for me, there wasn't someone who called the cops. That would have been embarassing to explain to an officer.

Why would you need to take a stroller in? Why not just grab the kids?
post #33 of 58
You know I am very cautious about jumping to call the police or CPS but in this case I think you made the right decision.
post #34 of 58
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Originally Posted by phathui5 View Post
This is the kind of thing I was worried about happening today.

I was driving home with all the kids from a two hour grocery shopping trip. My stomach was upset and I knew that I wasn't going to make it home without going to the bathroom. The closest place was a McDonald's. I pulled into the parking lot and had to decide whether to unload the stroller and all the children and poop myself or leave them in the van and run inside. I ran in. Luckily for me, there wasn't someone who called the cops. That would have been embarassing to explain to an officer.
I've done the same thing in the past. I could not hold my pee any longer. I considered going on the side of the road next to my car, but decided it would be better to go to a gas station. Thankfully, there were no customers and one of the clerks (and older woman) was willing to go stand beside my car while I went to the restroom.
post #35 of 58
Why in the UAV did the mother not take her child with her? I have three with one on the way-all 5 and under-and I still will always ALWAYS take them in the place with me, no matter what.
I hope she gets in trouble.
post #36 of 58
I would have done the same thing, heck yesterday I almost called the cops about a family who was leaving the doctors office the same time as us. Mom had baby in an infant seat and a 4ish year old. Gma was in the car with a 2/3 ish year old. Tiny, Tiny car, I watched them put the kids in, 4 year old in the middle, no booster, just seatbelt, 2/3 yr old in a hbb and infant in bucket but with no base, watched mom buckle it in, she took about 30 secs to do it and she had a bundle me on the carseat and somehow routed the belt through there?? There was no way it was properly secured.....It makes me sad/angry when I see situations like that and I never know what to do.

Re: Peeing with little ones, whenever I take a long car trip by myself I keep a BBLP in the front seat (for DD as well as myself), if I have to go and there is nowhere to stop or DD is sleeping I pull over, sit on the BBLP in the drivers seat and then dump it out the window. I've only had to to do it once, but it was a lifesaver. Not easy, but possible, much easier in a van I would think.
post #37 of 58
Can I ask a really stupid off topic question?

9+ degrees here isn't that cold (where I live) or are you talking F instead of C degrees? Or am I just acclimated to colder weather where 9+degrees seems warm to me?

Not that I condone what she did, you never leave a child in the car by themselves and I do think you both did the right thing. Imagine if it wasn't your husband and some stranger who was looking to snatch that kid out of the van?

I'm a hard core fanatic about not leaving kids in vehicles under any circumstance and that woman's nonchalant response was sickening. Way to go "mom" for not giving a rat's patootie about your kid and their safety.

Awesome job to you and your husband though, thank you for caring when no one else would.
post #38 of 58
Yes 9F which is -13c.

At -15, cold weather alerts are issued here, more churches open up for shelters for the homeless, schools and day cares have to keep kids inside, etc.
post #39 of 58
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Can I ask a really stupid off topic question?

9+ degrees here isn't that cold (where I live) or are you talking F instead of C degrees? Or am I just acclimated to colder weather where 9+degrees seems warm to me?
I did say 9 degrees F in my OP, I think . . . I'm used to cold winters (coldest it's gotten here is -20 degrees F (NOT wind chill, but actual temp). 9 F is cold, really bitter cold. There was a cold wind, too. I consider anything under 20 F to be uncomfortably cold. In the morning when I scraped the ice off the car, I was out for only a minute or two and when I got in the car, my cheeks hurt and were bright red from the cold.

I don't think 9 C is cold at all. I would have definitely watched the kid but maybe not called 911 if it was 48 degrees F (which is 9 C). That's practically balmy! When I was a kid, we'd pull out the shorts & short sleeves in the spring when it reached 50 F (about 10 C, I guess?). LOL

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This is the kind of thing I was worried about happening today.

I was driving home with all the kids from a two hour grocery shopping trip. My stomach was upset and I knew that I wasn't going to make it home without going to the bathroom. The closest place was a McDonald's. I pulled into the parking lot and had to decide whether to unload the stroller and all the children and poop myself or leave them in the van and run inside. I ran in. Luckily for me, there wasn't someone who called the cops. That would have been embarassing to explain to an officer.
I did think about something like this. However, I'm hoping you would have left the car shut and locked, especially in very cold weather. Also, I don't know how old your kids are. And while it would have been embarrassing, I'd think this is the kind of emergency you could explain to an officer. I did think about this sort of scenario, like if someone was having a health problem. But I also thought that in that case, s/he might need more help anyway.

As it was, the mom couldn't care less and was there to buy bottled water and laundry detergent.

I know this probably wouldn't work with diarrhea, but I've been known to use a disposable diaper once or twice when I was in a difficult position, had to pee and was having baby/toddler issues. I've contemplated buying a pack of adult diapers, just to have them for those rare emergencies.

I'm glad no one called the cops on you. It's really hard when one is stuck in one of those really tricky situations to know what to do.
post #40 of 58
So- I think if I was in that emergency poo situation I wouldn't be offended at all if someone called the cops and I am not thinking the cops would think I was doing anything wrong. In fact, that would be a display of healthy community. A mom, alone with her kids needs help- police are for helping, not just out to get the bad guys.

I think the OP did the right thing. You stayed near the kids, called for help and made sure everything was okay.
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