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post #41 of 58
i would have called to. aside from being cold its like a pedophile's jackpot. i can't believe people sometimes. she probably figured that since it wasn't hot outside he would be ok for a minute (which theoretically he would have) but the leaving the door open part blows my mind. i am not a fan of leaving the littles in the car.. but i can see the rationale that its not hot and therefore not as dangerous.. but leaving the door open? sheesh does she even like her kid?
post #42 of 58
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Originally Posted by jeca View Post
Why would you need to take a stroller in? Why not just grab the kids?
I would need to have at least the one year old in the stroller so that I didn't have to hold him while pooping. I didn't want to have all four kids waiting around (and the younger two touching the nasty bathroom) while I went.

Plus, the minutes it would have taken me to get them all out of the van would have made it um, too late.
post #43 of 58
Yeah but your oldest is 8. This was one 3 year old. I've had situations like yours in this past summer where I stopped at Walgreens and grabbed both kids (mine were 3 and 1 at the time) because leaving them in the car is just not safe. If the oldest was 8, I probably would have left them.
post #44 of 58
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Originally Posted by phathui5 View Post
This is the kind of thing I was worried about happening today.

I was driving home with all the kids from a two hour grocery shopping trip. My stomach was upset and I knew that I wasn't going to make it home without going to the bathroom. The closest place was a McDonald's. I pulled into the parking lot and had to decide whether to unload the stroller and all the children and poop myself or leave them in the van and run inside. I ran in. Luckily for me, there wasn't someone who called the cops. That would have been embarassing to explain to an officer.
Seriously, I would have had some dirty undies to clean. I would NEVER leave the kids in the car, never, never, never, ever. It has happened to me actually (I had the stomach bug and was coming home from a prenatal appt.) because I am very paranoid and I am scared someone WOULD call the cops or someone would steal my kids, but that is just me.
post #45 of 58
Yikes! I would like to say I would have done the same thing, but I was in a simliar situation once. It wasn't cold out, or hot. Mild weather. My mother, DD and I were at a little strip mall. DD and mom were inside and I was standing outside; a woman pulled up, attempted to get a screaming preschool aged boy out of the car, got frustrated and left him while she went inside a pizza place. She could not have seen him from inside the store. I figured she would be in and out, maybe picking up and order she'd already placed but she was gone quite awhile. The child was screaming the whole time.

I just froze. I'd never seen anything like that before, and I'm still kicking myself for not acting on it. My mom came out of the store, saw what was going on and reached for her phone to call 911 when the mother came out of the store. My mom yelled at her for leaving her child in the car alone and the mother said, "Haven't you ever seen a tantrum before?" or something like that.

So it's a slightly different situation, maybe not as bad, but still. I would never, never, never leave me child in the car. I'm not judging the women in here who've said they've left them in an emergency but I really cannot see myself doing this. It's something I actually have nightmares about quite a bit.
post #46 of 58
wow- I can't believe she was so "whatever" about the whole thing. I wouldn't do that in the first place, but if I did, I certainly wouldn't say "So?" You'd think she would have at least offered some sort of excuse or said "I don't normally do this kind of thing but today he was pitching a fit not wanting to go in, blah blah blah" Sounds like you definately did the right thing.
post #47 of 58
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Originally Posted by snoopy5386 View Post
infant in bucket but with no base, watched mom buckle it in, she took about 30 secs to do it and she had a bundle me on the carseat and somehow routed the belt through there?? There was no way it was properly secured.....It makes me sad/angry when I see situations like that and I never know what to do.
just to point out when Sarah goes in my moms truck she goes in her Graco bucket seat with no base, b/c there are notches on each side of the car seat that the seatbelt goes through. It does take about 30 seconds to buckle that part in, its very secure b/c of the notches. And all you have to do is make sure the top handle is down and against the seat in front, and the seat is in the right angle. Which theres a dial on the side of the seat that if the window is all blue then it is and if theres yellow then the seat needs to be adjusted.
post #48 of 58
but to the OP yea i'm glad you called 911, i would have done the same thing.

I called 911 on a guy on a motorcycle (racing style) that was zipping through traffic and cutting people off and a girl on the back who had to of been under 10 years old. She looked back at us after he cut us off like she knew he had done something wrong. THe dispatcher was very gratful i called him in.
post #49 of 58
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Originally Posted by elmh23 View Post
If the oldest was 8, I probably would have left them.
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I might not choose to leave a group of kids with an 8 year old, but I'm not about to call 911 on someone who did. Particularly if the doors were closed.

Probably would still hang around for awhile to see if a parent returned soon.
post #50 of 58
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Originally Posted by dougandsarah View Post
just to point out when Sarah goes in my moms truck she goes in her Graco bucket seat with no base, b/c there are notches on each side of the car seat that the seatbelt goes through. It does take about 30 seconds to buckle that part in, its very secure b/c of the notches. And all you have to do is make sure the top handle is down and against the seat in front, and the seat is in the right angle. Which theres a dial on the side of the seat that if the window is all blue then it is and if theres yellow then the seat needs to be adjusted.
I have also installed an infant seat w/o the base, a graco bucket. You have to make sure that the seatbelt is locked, the seat is in there super tight, can't move more than an inch, etc. You cannot do this in 30 seconds. In a middle seat with lapbelt only, perhaps it can be done in under a minute, but this was a outboard seat with shoulder/lap belt combo. I know from experience it takes a few minutes to get it in there. This woman literally just buckled the belt and got in the front seat. No locking the belt, no tightening it, nothing.
post #51 of 58
Poor kid

I called 911 once after pulling up to a stoplight next to a van with several unbuckled young children and an infant sitting on a man's lap. They needed some serious safety counseling.
post #52 of 58
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Originally Posted by elmh23 View Post
I'd call in that situation too. Poor kid.
Yeah, I would have called in that case. I hope the police follow up. 9 degrees???? What on earth was she thinking leaving the door open like that. Frostbite, abduction, run over by a car getting out of seat, clearly this woman is not a very caring mother.
post #53 of 58
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Originally Posted by Romana9+2 View Post
Thanks everyone. I wouldn't want anyone to call the police or CPS on me because my dd took her socks off in the car on a cold day or because I need to vaccuum, but on the other hand, afterwards dh and I talked about it and we couldn't think of a good enough reason for what was happening, and it seemed so unsafe, that we had to call.

Dh did consider running in the store and yelling that there was a kid freezing in a car with an open door, but decided it was more important to stay with the toddler, who was very upset (he did calm down after dh talked to him).

It occurs to me that maybe he was asleep, and she ran in thinking he wouldn't wake up, but he did, and opened the door, and started crying? I know how much I wouldn't want to wake up my toddler in that situation, but at the same time, it just seems way too dangerous a thing to do. No way would I leave my little one in the car.
Whoa! That's totally weird! I mean, I wouldn't leave even a sleeping kid in the car myself (but I don't own a car, so it's such a weird idea to me)... but with the door open? That's really crazy! I don't think I would have called for a kid in a locked car, just gone in and told the store, asked them to make an announcement that a kid in a [color] car was crying in the parking lot (probably embarrassing enough to keep most people from doing it again, I think). Maybe called if he was still there when I came back out? But with the door open where anyone could come by and take him really easily? Freaky weird! You did the right thing!
post #54 of 58
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Originally Posted by snoopy5386 View Post
I have also installed an infant seat w/o the base, a graco bucket. You have to make sure that the seatbelt is locked, the seat is in there super tight, can't move more than an inch, etc. You cannot do this in 30 seconds. In a middle seat with lapbelt only, perhaps it can be done in under a minute, but this was a outboard seat with shoulder/lap belt combo. I know from experience it takes a few minutes to get it in there. This woman literally just buckled the belt and got in the front seat. No locking the belt, no tightening it, nothing.
I think many people don't know how to do those seats properly. It can be done pretty darn fast with practice though. My parents car they leave the little metal clip in the right, tightened place on the shoulder belt, so I put DS car seat in fast fast fast when it's cold. Seat down, kneel in the car seat to get it snug enough to fasten the seat belt. No tightening needed! It takes practice and the clip has to be already on and not messed with though.
post #55 of 58
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You know I am very cautious about jumping to call the police or CPS but in this case I think you made the right decision.
Yes, THAT.
post #56 of 58
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Originally Posted by Romana9+2 View Post
Her response was: "So?" And then she drove off.
I would say hindsight is perfect in this case. That woman needs a wake-up call, hopefully the police gave it to her. Wish we could find out an update...yes, I am nosy
post #57 of 58
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Originally Posted by AntoninBeGonin View Post
I think it's wonderful that not only did you call 911, but that you and your husband stayed with that little child until his mother came back. She might not have said anything, but hopefully the fact that you were worried will make her think about her actions and take more care of him in the future.
yeah that. Good for you for calling 911!
post #58 of 58
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Originally Posted by 2cutiekitties View Post
I would say hindsight is perfect in this case. That woman needs a wake-up call, hopefully the police gave it to her. Wish we could find out an update...yes, I am nosy
Many communities keep a police blotter. It's like a log of the police calls made during the week. It may show up in there.

OP, I think calling 911 was definitely appropriate. That woman should be thanking her lucky stars that your DH showed up and not a child abductor. My bio-mom got her 2 youngest taken away because she left them locked in a car in winter while she went into a Wal-Mart. She was still a pretty crappy mother once she got them back a few months later, but she has NEVER left them in a car since. I hope this mom gets a wake-up call too!
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